[Midas]

Whether it's a legit mid-life crisis or just a cross-roads, I'm ready for a change.

Born and raised in NY, I've got slightly more edge than most of these boring preppy types here in DC, where I've been for the past 20 years. Actually, it's the Northern VA area to be exact, pleasant/upscale but with ridiculous costs of living. Cool, club vibe is my preferred archetype/style, even though I'm not really into clubbing/nightlife. And skinny, white, college-aged party girls is what I most adore, primarily the look but also the outgoing, fun personality type.

Late 40's and divorced/no kids, I take excellent care of myself and date lots of college-aged girls, mostly from online, and usually 6's/7's. Whether online or real world, many of these chicks guess that I'm late 20's even. And I tend to do well with the 20% or so that like older guys. Most have been short-term flings, while others even wanted something more serious. Usually, I've declined since I'm still holding out for at least an 8 and/or that perfect personality, which I may never actually find.

Dating has been fun but also time-consuming and sometimes frustrating. While I'm very happily divorced and enjoying the freedom, I also feel somewhat rudderless and lacking purpose at times. Then again, waking up beside some sweet, naked little hottie more than half my age makes it all worthwhile...at least temporarily.

Job-wise I'm self-employed and do okay, even though this area is pretty expensive. But what's esp. nice is the freedom of working from home or anywhere really, making my own schedule etc. with most of this being passive income. I'm certainly not rich, but the autonomy is very nice, and I've got a basic comfort level, at least out here.

So all this backstory now leads up to the big question: After 20 years I'm ready to sell the big suburban home and move on...but where???

Affordable cost of living is a priority. I'm not in debt, but I really don't have much in the way of savings either. Downsizing to a townhome or condo would be fine. I'm also accustomed to living somewhere upscale and not too isolated or rural. Then again, being in the heart of a very bustling city really isn't my style either. Waterfront and/or beach would be ideal.

Having an abundance of hot friendly women is a must. So that's why I'm thinking Gio's setup near several college campuses sounds perfect. Even though lots of people on these boards favor overseas for women, quality of life, cost of living etc. I find the cultural differences too extreme as I'm most attracted to young, skinny white girls and understand the personality type very well.

It would mostly be daygame or even better, getting with a cool group of friends to develop social circle through other dudes and chicks. Given the age differences involved, I still may have better success meeting them one on one though?! And even though good-looking sweet late 20's/early 30's are virtually non-existent here in DC, I'd be open to dating older elsewhere. Likewise, if I met the right one, settling down could even be a possibility eventually.

But this is def. going to be a huge step leaving everyone behind, so ideally I'd like to find a place that's friendly and welcoming, if that even exists anymore?! Since I'm able to work from anywhere, that's irrelevant to where I live. Warm weather would be nice too. And my parents are getting older, living in Central FL, so being closer to them could make some sense. Then again, I've heard good things about Charleston, Cali, AZ and TX.

Landing an adjunct professor job would be ideal as that would provide additional side $$$ with low time commitment, but more importantly, access to college cuties, status, and sense of belonging/built-in social circle. I've got advanced degrees, but no experience. So I'm not really sure about how I'd land one of those positions. Perhaps, that could be the motivating factor dictating where I decide to live?!

Based on all the above and personal or even second-hand experiences, what would people here suggest???

[lavidaloca]

1) How location independent are you? I.e. you can literally use your laptop and work from anywhere?
-If so why not just leave North America all together. Go to DR if you like latin curvaceous girls, EE for tall white girls, SEA for Asian girls.

2) When you talk about selling your house part of what's relative is how much you'll make off of selling it. If you are going to end up with $1,000,000 cash you might want to consider just investing it and not buying again. That could provide a pretty decent stream of passive income in itself. (I ask because I assume where you live houses are worth a lot although I have no idea)

I really can't understand why a guy whose late 40's would want to live in the US unless they needed to be their for monetary reasons. I bet the average forum member living in Thailand on $2,500 a month is having a heck of a lot more fun than forum members living in the US on $10,000 a month.

[Midas]

Thanks for your comments. I'm def. open to suggestions, so that's why I put together this long post. I've travelled the world, but culturally I feel more comfortable here in the States. Maybe this is just a myopic American point of view?! I am 90-95% location independent though. Unfortunately, there hasn't been as much appreciation in the house as I would have liked, so maybe $200k @ most, after closing costs, commissions etc. Investing most of it and then renting a studio or 1B luxury apt. has crossed my mind too. Ideally, I'm hoping to find somewhere w/friendly people, an abundance of hot women, more affordable than DC, warm climate, and maybe waterfront or on the beach. Does this even exist?!

[WestIndianArchie]

With that criteria, i'd say a big city/college town in the Carolinas.

If water is not the main issue, Phoenix, Scottsdale, Dallas, Austin.

Everything else either sucks for weather, women, or cost.

WIA

[Midas]

Thx dude! Nice break down!!! Would you suggest Columbia, SC or Charleston, SC?! How about Raleigh, NC??? Anywhere in FL too?!

[Cabo40]

Midas: Great description and challenging question. My own situation is not all that different, albeit I have a few more years on you. Personally, I suffer from that narrow-minded, myopic American viewpoint that you mentioned. I like it here in the US. More specifically, I like it here in Florida. It may not work for some, but it works for me. As the saying goes, your mileage will vary. Since you mentioned that your family is in central Fl, I am prompted to answer.

I am located in SW FL and about to make a move to central FL for my job. In my experience, the coasts are going to be more cosmopolitan. There's a saying here in FL that is generally true. To experience "The South" here in Florida, you need to go north. The Panhandle, all the way across to Jacksonville is truly more southern. I can understand only 50% of what they say on the first try. The coasts, south of Tampa on the west coast, and south of Daytona on the east coast, have experienced a great deal of influx. Florida gains a net 1,000 people per day - generally from higher tax states to the north. You will find the Fort Lauderdale / Miami area to be crowded - similar to DC or NY. Further north on the coast, the population thins out. The Palm Beach area is of course "out of this world" with regard to expendable income and cost of living. Jupiter / Stuart area is a decent compromise between population and lifestyle.

On the west coast, Tampa is the highest population city and probably has the most night life on the west coast. Generally speaking, from south of Tampa all the way to Marco Island , I would say that you'll have more trouble finding the college girl.

That leaves the Central area, between Tampa and Orlando. A number of colleges. Continually improving economic conditions with new businesses moving in all the time. An hour or so from either coast if you feel the need to get to the beach. So, I'm hopeful that Central Florida will prove to be a more "target rich environment" than SW FL has been. Good luck with your search for the perfect spot. I hope this has been a little helpful.

[Orson]

If you are location independent and love the US, you can't go wrong with Canada - where the dollar buys a lot more this year than in recent ones.
http://www.xe.com/currencycharts/?from=U...AD&view=2Y

Or else, think further away!

[lavidaloca]

Don't go to Canada, my advice! Weather generally speaking sucks here. Housing is typically more expensive. (Even in the suburbs) Food is a lot more expensive although I can only compare with Arizona where my parents have a house. This is the absolute most boring country I've ever been to. Assuming hes paid in USD by the time you factor in Currency exchange, higher housing and food prices + higher utilities due to Winter he'll probably be a net negative.

Flights are also more expensive within Canada as opposed to within the US.

Arizona is really cheap. Especially a couple years ago. In the suburbs you could buy a 2000 square foot home for $50-$75,000 after the housing crash although now lots of older Canadians have bought there due to the low prices.

Scottsdale will have a lot of attractive woman but I'm of the impression that's a pretty expensive place to live. If you were really fit and had a pretty good income situation I would've thought Miami area would've been a good place. Lots of FOB Latinas who are from a culture where dating older men is more common.

[rudebwoy]

Canada was that a joke, this place is expensive. Average house price for a detached home in Toronto is a million.

[Buster]

Suggested above was Columbia and Charleston, Columbia is really hot in the summer but USC is a serious party school. Charleston is pricey for real estate near the beach but nice and great food. Myrtle Beach may be a good choice, Coastal Carolina is a party school and the beach is popular with the Canadians, if you like cheap golf, Myrtle Beach is a very good choice with reasonable real estate prices.

If you are serious about downsizing, you may want to sell out and rent a few different places for a month or so to get a feel for the area and what suits you best. You would hate to invest and then be stuck if you end up not liking the vibe.

[Midas]

Thanks for all the great responses!

@ Cabo-I've been strongly leaning toward FL, actually! But in making this post, I'm def. open to suggestions/other perspectives. West Palm and Delray seemed very nice last year while dating a chick down there. Like you said, they're on the pricier side though, and pretty far from the Orlando area. I've got limited experience w/Orlando but haven't been too impressed with the city. I'll need to start checking it out though. And I've heard great things about Winter Park, but it's pretty expensive over there. Tampa area has been top of the list lately for affordability, hot/friendly chicks, water views, warm weather, proximity to parents (and chicks) in Orlando. I haven't been too impressed with South Tampa or Clearwater so far. Next time, I'll be checking out St. Pete though. Treasure Coast is also a possibility, but I suspect it's pretty lacking in terms of women?!

@Orson-Montreal seems VERY intriguing if I ever did plan to move out of country. But the weather is a major disincentive.

@Lavida-Thx for the tip on Scottsdale! I'll start looking into there and Phoenix. Then again, southeast US is a much shorter plane ride if I'm ever needing to fly back to DC on business, since I'll just be running them remotely from wherever. Miami is def. a cool spot, but it seems on the expensive side and very nightlife-dependent with heavy competition for the women?!