Women don't like assholes because it's "
so hot when he slams a door in my face instead of keeping it open for me". Instead, let's think about the traits that the attractive assholes have:
> Frame Control. A beta nice guy is basically sabotaged by his social conditioning to do stuff that we know turns women off. Assholes don't abide by the rules by nature, so you'll find them doing stuff that is generally considered 'not polite' or frowned upon socially. This in turn makes them harder to control in conversation. They also generally have very strong opinions and world-views. For example:
I knew a natural back in high-school. He was 5'7 130lbs, average face, average means. But he was a major stoner and a major asshole. He would defend his opinions to the death, call people(especially girs) out of on their bullshit all the time and snap out of nowhere. In turn, all guys respected him(because of his very aggressive nature) and he ended up in a LTR with the girl of his choosing, the hottest one in our group.
> Dominance. I don't think there is a need to write about why this is important and why this attracts girls. Assholes don't give a fuck, they just take what they want, and that is
immensely attractive for girls.
> Challenge. This is a big one: all women have this fantasy of "taming" the wild stallion. An asshole is more of a challenge than a nice guy. She wants to feel like her feminine powers are winning you over. Also their innate nurturing personality makes them addicted to trying to 'fix' these guys. Assholes sometimes have an addictive personality disorder, they're prone to being alcoholics or drug addicts, in contrast to regular dudes who are on average in a better financial and mental condition...which is not "exciting". You can check out some examples of that in
this thread.
> Fun(the main reason). Assholes are unpredictable, their whole nature is a 'push-pull' or sorts. A regular, mentally stable dude will rarely create drama for example...on the other hand I've known naturals(that were assholes) that would simply snap at their girls for petty stuff. On the short-term the girls would act all hurt just to jump back on his dick afterwards with even more passion. Nothing pulls them in more than a fun guy, and a predictable boring beta has nothing on the dude that because of his unpredictable nature takes the girl on an
emotional roller-coaster.
I don't think "asshole game" can be broken down more than this. The attractive assholes that women flock to all posses these traits, in various levels: unapologetic nature, dominance, all of which create a challenge for the girls and thus fun.
You might notice that i put "asshole game" in quotes every chance i get. That's because I don't view it as a subset of game but instead:
the way good game looks like. Developing a rock-solid frame, dominant and fun personality around girls. I will tease girls all day, use and abuse them, but that doesn't make me an asshole, just a guy that understands how they operate and how to push their buttons. Don't be afraid to take things to the extreme, It's fascinating to see how much shit girls will let you get away with.