Hi guys,
I experienced that situation with a girl recently. I know I should not care too much about one girl (because there are many more options out there), however I feel like I always get into the same pattern when I'm meeting a certain girl for a while and want to know how to get out of it/gain control over the situation.
I met her about 2.5 month ago. In the beginning I was behaving super alpha, made her crazy about me, didn't show any dependence of her and I was even dating and banging other girls at the same time.
She basically did what I suggested to do and came over to my place when I wanted her to come over.
However, things got more serious recently I kind of slipped into a relationship with her. I am not dating other girls anymore.
We spent a lot of time together (too much) since we're both students and even study together. I am aware that I developed feelings for her and that I act dependent of her. Even though I banged her well she started denying sex and it takes a lot of effort and energy for me (she is somewhat difficult to turn on) to get a bang. I started acting super beta at times (even though I'm fully aware of it!! That's crazy, I even have you rooshvforum guys' quotes in the back of my mind while acting controversially beta) such as begging her to stay at my place (if she denied I showed my disappointment), asking her what is wrong and why she doesn't want to have sex and almost always being available when she wants to meet me/talk to me. I started talking about emotional bullshit and got grumpy.
It really sucks and it seems like she starts playing with me and getting the upper hand in our "relationship".
How can I reframe myself in that situation and regain power and control over that girl again? It seems like the longer I'm dating a girl, the more beta I become (no matter what girl). How can I stay alpha even if I develop feelings for a girl?
RedGuard
I experienced that situation with a girl recently. I know I should not care too much about one girl (because there are many more options out there), however I feel like I always get into the same pattern when I'm meeting a certain girl for a while and want to know how to get out of it/gain control over the situation.
I met her about 2.5 month ago. In the beginning I was behaving super alpha, made her crazy about me, didn't show any dependence of her and I was even dating and banging other girls at the same time.
She basically did what I suggested to do and came over to my place when I wanted her to come over.
However, things got more serious recently I kind of slipped into a relationship with her. I am not dating other girls anymore.
We spent a lot of time together (too much) since we're both students and even study together. I am aware that I developed feelings for her and that I act dependent of her. Even though I banged her well she started denying sex and it takes a lot of effort and energy for me (she is somewhat difficult to turn on) to get a bang. I started acting super beta at times (even though I'm fully aware of it!! That's crazy, I even have you rooshvforum guys' quotes in the back of my mind while acting controversially beta) such as begging her to stay at my place (if she denied I showed my disappointment), asking her what is wrong and why she doesn't want to have sex and almost always being available when she wants to meet me/talk to me. I started talking about emotional bullshit and got grumpy.
It really sucks and it seems like she starts playing with me and getting the upper hand in our "relationship".
How can I reframe myself in that situation and regain power and control over that girl again? It seems like the longer I'm dating a girl, the more beta I become (no matter what girl). How can I stay alpha even if I develop feelings for a girl?
RedGuard