[xxMarco]

My last relationship was exactly like this. This story is almost exactly what happened to me except the stripper part. Within 2 weeks she had moved in with another dude.
I ignored red flags because the pussy was cash. I fucked up but now I learned.

I ended up on this forum. Not gonna lie if I say it didn't affect me psychologically. It's probably for the better though. I'll never let a party slut into my life like that again.

[Merenguero]

The title of this thread is pretty misleading. I may be echoing some of the other comments here, but as far as I can tell, OG didn't get played. My definition of getting played is that a guy who due to lack of experience and/or savvy, has a women do harm to him, either financial or otherwise. OG may have had some feelings for this girl, and may still have some feelings, but other than that, I feel to see any harm in anything this girl did. She actually did him a huge favor, because she is obviously not relationship material and OG dodged a bullet. The simple lesson learned is not to LTR a girl who has numerous red flags.

[Soothesayer]

Went through one of these spells myself back in the nineties. Hooked up with a real looker that ended up cheating on me with a lesbian, but I was blue pill then and since I was getting a freak every night in bed (she did things that could make Belladonna blush), I didn't care. Lesson learned. Always obey your gut instinct dealing with lizards, because unlike a lizard's gut (that MIGHT be right 50%) of the time, a guy's gut gets it right 99% of the time. Spot-on. That's the God-given edge we have over women.

[Going strong]

(11-01-2014 07:37 PM)Soothesayer Wrote:  

Went through one of these spells myself back in the nineties. Hooked up with a real looker that ended up cheating on me with a lesbian, but I was blue pill then and since I was getting a freak every night in bed (she did things that could make Belladonna blush), I didn't care. Lesson learned. Always obey your gut instinct dealing with lizards, because unlike a lizard's gut (that MIGHT be right 50%) of the time, a guy's gut gets it right 99% of the time. Spot-on. That's the God-given edge we have over women.

Yes, but dick-instinct trumps a guy's gut-instinct, 80% of the time... and that's the Devil-given flaw we have with women

[Onto]

OP, you got off easy. She's not pregnant with your child right? She didn't steal all the stuff from your house right? You can move on and start anew with your time and resources in tact.

Sounds like you're a good, hard working man. Stay away from the party girls and find yourself a good hard working woman who will always follow you into the hills no matter what.

[WestIndianArchie]

Every LTR i've ever been in, whether she bounced on me, or I bounced on her, she was with a new guy almost instantly.

The last 2
- The Chick who in hindsight wished she became a stripper - got married 3 months later
- The Chick who cared more for animals than people, moved a new guy into our place maybe a month later? (she's still not married, lol)

Rollo described this as War brides
http://therationalmale.com/2011/10/03/war-brides/

It's a good way to explain how she can love you on Saturday and forget you on Sunday.

Game only allows you to take advantage of the wayward nature of chicks. It never allows mastery.

WIA

[Vaun]

At the end of the day if you had several months of good plentiful sex with this girl, and she was fun to bang, and you didnt catch anything, you did ok. If you are not out a lot of money, but the stress alone from someone like this can derail your life.

Chicks like this are everywhere. They can be school teachers, career women, look like they are polished and upstanding, but have an extensive ho'y past with dancing thrown in. I had an experience with one like this who at the end of the day was an attention whore and used jealousy as a regular part of our relationship. How far you let them in is the catch.

[Neo]

OG,

We've all been in this situation. The good thing is you got 10 months of fantastic sex with this girl. But like others have pointed out the red flags were too numerous. If a girl's tatted up, has piercings, and doing drugs, she's NEVER suitable for a LTR. Enjoy the ride while you can, but know that she can never be a real girlfriend.

I understand the feelings you've had. For me they partially stem from my desire for women to have honor and loyalty like men. They don't. Ever. Of course I've had girlfriends who were completely in love with me. But even then, I knew it wouldn't last. Their love is always conditional, remember that.

In a dream world I'd want a girl who loved me for me no matter what, but I know it can't happen. What keeps a girl loyal is having power over her and having a higher value.

One thing I really really want to emphasize is the belief that women have honor and their love is unconditional can ruin a man's life if he believes it.

I've seen this happen in my own family with my own father. He's been a broken and depressed man for years because he bought into this lie. I remember being a kid and my dad suffered a layoff and was unable to find another job. Within a few months my mother turned on him. This is my own mom I'm talking about here. I saw it first hand with the people who were closest to me.

People are like leopards, they can't change their spots.

[Avon Barksdale]

FDB

[Nomad77]

The moral of this story is not that you were played but that you decided against your better judgement and knowledge to get involved with a DG (damaged goods) woman. People make these types of mistakes all the time in many different ways. I have made them. It's human nature to hope for the best in people.

[robreke]

(11-01-2014 09:33 PM)Neo Wrote:  

OG,

We've all been in this situation. The good thing is you got 10 months of fantastic sex with this girl. But like others have pointed out the red flags were too numerous. If a girl's tatted up, has piercings, and doing drugs, she's NEVER suitable for a LTR. Enjoy the ride while you can, but know that she can never be a real girlfriend.

I understand the feelings you've had. For me they partially stem from my desire for women to have honor and loyalty like men. They don't. Ever. Of course I've had girlfriends who were completely in love with me. But even then, I knew it wouldn't last. Their love is always conditional, remember that.

In a dream world I'd want a girl who loved me for me no matter what, but I know it can't happen. What keeps a girl loyal is having power over her and having a higher value.

One thing I really really want to emphasize is the belief that women have honor and their love is unconditional can ruin a man's life if he believes it.

I've seen this happen in my own family with my own father. He's been a broken and depressed man for years because he bought into this lie. I remember being a kid and my dad suffered a layoff and was unable to find another job. Within a few months my mother turned on him. This is my own mom I'm talking about here. I saw it first hand with the people who were closest to me.

People are like leopards, they can't change their spots.

A woman never really loves you, the person. She doesn't really love your soul and heart and the essence of you.

When a woman is in love with "you" she's in love with the feelings you give her. She's in love with the emotions she gets when she's with you. She's in love with the gina tingles you give her. She's in love with the resources you provide. Resources can come in many varieties and they are not always financial.

This is why game works. Because it amplifies these above mentioned things and, usually covertly, suggests to the woman that you have these in abundance.

When said woman realizes those resources, feelings and emotions are declining or are more powerful in the presence of another man, her hypergamy takes over and she then will begin to "love" him more than you.

[Parlay44]

Don't get attached playa. You gotta be stone cold. The less you care the more she will. You've been drinking too much of the kool-aid that you've been missing all the signs along the way.

[Duke Castile]

I just read most of your post and while I'm sure others are saying positive things I just can't bring myself to do it.

You know better than any of this. Its pathetic.

You have to tell your gf you don't like her to do coke and mdma when you arent around?

Are you kidding me? Why is some bitch that does those kinds of drugs your gf?

She used to be a stripper but she convinced you thats all in her past?

I can't believe what I'm reading here OGNorcal...

I can remember you being up the ass of some other girl that ran all over you from years ago and it seems like you just keep doing the same thing.

I'm not writing this to beat a dead horse but you clearly have some issues with pedastalizing girls and you constantly get into relationships where you display "beta" behavior.

Your ex is a full on slut thats only good for one thing and it's ridiculous that you are surprised that after a month shes acting like shes in love on IG.

Shes going to do the same thing to this guy if it makes you feel better....

You need to get back to basics man because you went and violated everything you supposedly knew when it comes to both redpill and game.

Sorry to be harsh but it seems like you need to hear it.

[Brian Shima]

Wait a minute this happened recently before with another girl before his EX!? Dude how have you been here for so long but keep falling back down the hole? We need to set up an intervention! No guy on here should be repeating these mistakes

[Travesty]

Fisto said what I didn't want to say to be polite and because I am a lower repped member, but I remember posting you were very purple pill about some other bitch awhile back that was trouble. This is repeat advice.

I know you live in the real NorCal way up. Maybe there isn't enough talent aroud so bad decisions become easier to make.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

You didn't get played. You got to spend almost a year getting hot sex with a former stripper. That puts you ahead of most guys.

All of us dealt with breakups like this when we were young. This especially goes for those of us who were with high-drama women always seeking the next thrill.

Which leads me to my next point: you (or any man) who gets with a stripper, or former stripper, or camgirl (or whatever) needs to call it what it is from the start. It's telling that you didn't mention she was a **former stripper** at the beginning of your post. That's THE crucial fact. Most women spend their time shrinking from men's lustful gaze. Women who seek that out to make money off it are a different breed. They want thrills, not security. They get off on fighting and cheating the way most women get off on getting flowers and love notes.

If you want the security of a relationship, date an administrative assistant, a paralegal, or a woman looking to have kids young. If you want the type of hot sex you described, go with the ex-stripper. But odds are you can't get both -- unless you teach the paralegal to deep throat.

Even the most badass guys have problems with these types of women. You got left; other men go to jail when such women press their buttons. There is a reason there's a saying "You can't turn a whore into a housewife." (Sorry for calling your ex a whore -- it's a metaphor.)

You also need a major reframe -- as I did when I was your age.

I used to think I got "screwed over" by this woman or that one in my early twenties. Now I see it as me getting to have sex with a lot of really good-looking women but I was too sentimental and perhaps to mature to enjoy them for what they were: young, wild women.

I wanted the security of a relationship then. Now I look back and think why didn't I screw around more when I had dozens of women ages 18-26 at my beck and call?!? I had the rest of my life for "relationships." You will not always be this age. It's a long, long stretch when you're over 30 -- and you now have but a small window to mess with younger women. Appreciate this time.

That said, if you really want her back you may get your wish in a few years. Such women tend not to be stable. At some point when you're older she'll probably be free and seek you out, and you'll fall back into the same thing. With maturity, you will then think "OMFG! I thought SHE was relationship material?! LOL. This is a booty call." This happened to me. It's like listening to an old song from when you were a teen and thinking "This is idiotic. How did I think this was brilliant artistry?!"

And if you do want to settle down with this type woman in the future (NOT recommended), you're gonna need to bring a boatload of drama to keep her interested -- constant fights, drinking, flirting in front of her, etc. You'll have to be a "challenge." Do you really want to live that life? It usually precludes success.

What hurts the most in these cases is knowing the women in question was looking elsewhere while you were locked into her emotionally. Seems cold, doesn't it? But...how many times has the reverse been true? You left a woman's place, only to take a call from a hot piece you were thinking about sexing up?

What I said about strippers, by the way, also goes for any woman in a high-drama field, but to a lesser degree. That means nurses, EMTs, lawyers, and any type of "counselor." Good luck.

[BadgerHut]

So are you saying the G Manifesto plan of coke-game isn't all it's cracked* up to be?

*There's a pun for ya.

[Akula]

(11-01-2014 02:43 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  

My latest complaint about American girls is there aren't enough solid 7+s to go around (fatties). Quite a large portion of 7+ have tatts, piercings, or a party habit because they have daddy issues and want sexual attention.

Most of the other 7+ that aren't bad girls are in solid relationships because there is so much competition for them.

It's a tough trick finding an attractive girl to invest in here.

This to me is the US "Dating" scene in a nutshell. Just so few 'good girls' who are actually worth dating, with most of them already taken anyway. And so everyone just ends up banging sluts who are damaged goods and even LTRing them as the OP has done here despite all the red flags. If the US were full of sweet, feminine women who want and need a man we probably wouldn't see so many of these situations but alas we know they happen more than we'd like to think.

[Going strong]

(11-02-2014 02:33 AM)Akula Wrote:  

(11-01-2014 02:43 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  

My latest complaint about American girls is there aren't enough solid 7+s to go around (fatties). Quite a large portion of 7+ have tatts, piercings, or a party habit because they have daddy issues and want sexual attention.

Most of the other 7+ that aren't bad girls are in solid relationships because there is so much competition for them.

It's a tough trick finding an attractive girl to invest in here.

This to me is the US "Dating" scene in a nutshell. Just so few 'good girls' who are actually worth dating, with most of them already taken anyway. And so everyone just ends up banging sluts who are damaged goods and even LTRing them as the OP has done here despite all the red flags. If the US were full of sweet, feminine women who want and need a man we probably wouldn't see so many of these situations but alas we know they happen more than we'd like to think.

Not only is it the US "Dating" scene in a nutshell, it's also Western Europe "Dating" scene in a nutshell... at least in big cities.

[Travesty]

(11-02-2014 01:50 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:  

I wanted the security of a relationship then. Now I look back and think why didn't I screw around more when I had dozens of women ages 18-26 at my beck and call?!? I had the rest of my life for "relationships." You will not always be this age. It's a long, long stretch when you're over 30 -- and you now have but a small window to mess with younger women. Appreciate this time.

LOL I have been living my life by this quote since I was 25 and turned hard into game.

I knew at 25 a light bulb went off saying "hey its gonna get harder real fast to keep nailing these super young chicks... go 100% right now!". I've been driven by that for over 4 years now.

[Deluge]

This girl is a former stripper, does drugs, has tattoo's and piercings and fucks like a pornstar without any training? Homie I don't even give girls like that my last name, let alone make them my girlfriend or let them move in with me.

I'll admit, I've invested too much in girls who weren't 110% angels before and probably will again, but you went all in and on a straight up whore, and that boggles my mind. You didn't get played, you got exactly what you bargained for: amazing sex and then the shit hit the fan. That's how it always is with damaged goods.

Just be glad she didn't give you the clap, let alone a kid. Sounds harsh but this is what you need right now.

[boinerd]

Act like girls were all sluts.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

We should define what getting played is. It's not a break up.

You would have gotten played had you bought a place together and she moved the guy in and moved you out -- while you had to keep up your end of the mortgage payments. This happened to a friend of mine.

Women also abscond with cars, electronic equipment, or money. At least you're not dealing with that.

[UroboricForms]

Some golden advice in this thread. Just the other day I fucked a new girl who also does part time work as a stripper, has tats, does drugs like cocaine and ketamine, is also stupidly good in bed, the best (read hottest) chick I've had so far in my life etc etc etc, after a very long and depressing dry spell. Its very easy to get caught up in it all because its new and exciting, and especially cause I hadn't gotten any for ages. This is all just a helpful reminder to watch your back in these situations. Get the most out of it. Enjoy it but be careful.

[robreke]

One needs to be cognizant that there are a lot more signs a girl is a slut/bad prospect than just the obvious ones of her being a former ( or present) stripper, tats, piercings, etc.

The below list is no big deal if you just want a FB where emotions won't be involved. However, if it's a relationship or a girl you're looking for form a relationship with, you want to avoid girls with them.

Other slut tells:

1. She's had a ONS. Girl I was seeing mentioned "yeah, I've done the ONS thing.....not for me" I felt inner repulsion when she mentioned it.
2. She mentions or says something like " I went through a period where I was a serial dater"
3. You fuck the absolute shit out of her....she's loving it and even orgasms.....but never really acknowledges how good the sex is later. It's like "no big deal" to her.
4. after fucking the shit out of her repeatedly, she never brings up being exclusive and still likes to keep her "time to herself"
5. Over time, she relates stories of former boyfriends, lovers, experiences ,etc. ......and the cock count just goes higher and higher in your brain as you're keeping score. ( I deduced one girl I was banging that she'd already fucked at least 4 guys just in the year I met her....this was including me .....and that was just from what she told me)
6. She's "well traveled" She's been to a lot of places and even lived overseas ( not as a missionary ) Her foreign cock intake is probably up there somewhere. Or at least she's likely partaken of it.
7. She outright mentions or says " I have a bad history of cheating in relationships" Had a girl tell me this. Hey, I appreciated the honesty.
8. She has more than one story of an ex boyfriend who went "apeshit" or some such when they broke up. It's usually her dumping them for greener more cock laden pastures. A girl was telling me about a guy who texted her a lot of times after she broke up with him . He texted her like 10 times in one night things like "I can't believe I was fooled by you. I can't believe I believed you, etc." Beta behavior on his part no doubt, but obviously the guy had been fucking her and thinking that that sex meant something special to both of them when in fact, she easily just walked away because of her inability to bond due to her sluttish past.

Women like this usually end up bad mouthing ex boyfriends and the way the breakups happened because , most often, it was the particular slut in question who was cheating, decided to move on, the boyfriend ( read beta ) had a meltdown. Then, since the woman either can't handle the guilt and/or there's no way she's going to own up to the fact that she was cheating and it was her fault the relationship ended, she resorts to ad hominem character attacks on her former ex.....ie, it was his fault....couldn't have been mine.

Oftentimes, women will just tell you these things either covertly or overtly.

These women from my life who have had these above mentioned attributes had no tats, weird piercings, etc. However, they were careerist women and by most definition sluts that were NOT to be trusted in any relationship. I caught them lying to me.....often ridiculous obvious lies....often lies that, upon reflection, I didn't realize the full degree of deception until days or weeks later.