Ok. This is a huge problem for me. The thing with me is that I can get overly sensitive when someone makes a slick comment to me. I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to be called names and what not and usually demand respect. But at the same time, this has made me "boring" I guess because people can't really say anything to me cause then I get mad. I'm not sure if this is the right approach or if I should just lighten up and if so how?
I attribute this to maybe being raised bitch-made? I was too emotionally attached to my mother at a young age and went to her always when my safety was threatened. My mother never really let me out to play with friends because I had to "do my chores." She was very overprotected of me.
So to give you an example of these slick comments, I was arguing with a cousin of mying about being old. (I'm 25 and he's 24). Here's how it went.
As you notice, this argument got even uglier as it went on and on up to the point that I don't even talk to the guy anymore. He's also a guy who is a lot taller than me so he feels some sense of superiority.
My thing is that I just made a simple comment on this chick who she thought I was young. It was an innocent light comment that sparked into a crazy argument.
He says I started it with me getting butthurt from the chemo comment. And he thinks I blew it out of our of proportion. Now I ask you guys, what do you guys think? Should I lighten up or was he right and I got butthurt, or did he get butthurt?
How do you check people on slick comments like these? Any advice?
Also my game can be defined as confident beta which I still pull. I'm generally a nice guy with eveybody, but I sometimes feel like people walk all over me for my niceness.
Everytime someone makes slick comments like "you're so stupid" or "You're so dumb" or "you idiot" or "you're an idiot". My blood boils. Is this right? If not, how do I go about ending this?
How do I reverse this? Thanks in advanced.
I attribute this to maybe being raised bitch-made? I was too emotionally attached to my mother at a young age and went to her always when my safety was threatened. My mother never really let me out to play with friends because I had to "do my chores." She was very overprotected of me.
So to give you an example of these slick comments, I was arguing with a cousin of mying about being old. (I'm 25 and he's 24). Here's how it went.
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Me: Hey, my Asian friend Huan said I looked young. She told me that I look 20.
Cousin: "Well she must be blind, because that chemo made you look like you're 45 old man"
(I'm a cancer survivor, and beat cancer 3 years ago).
Me: "Well you look like you're 70 with that beard"
Cousin: "[i]Well this beard gets the ladies, when was the last time you got a bitch that was 18-19?"[/i]
Me: "Well I have had an 18-19 year old before, quite plenty actually, and I didn't need a beard either"
Cousin: "Im not asking with the beard genius, I'm talking about with a beard. Oh that's right, cause you can't grow one. Women love to rub the beard"
Me:"Some chicks love the beard, some chicks think its old. I think you look 70, and plus Huan is on my side on this" (And I ended with a smile)
Cousin: "How the fuck do I look 70 with the beard, when chicks dig the beard? You're just butthurt cause you look 45 and the chemo fucked up your skin cells. Besides, its not like you are going to get any from her anyway"
As you notice, this argument got even uglier as it went on and on up to the point that I don't even talk to the guy anymore. He's also a guy who is a lot taller than me so he feels some sense of superiority.
My thing is that I just made a simple comment on this chick who she thought I was young. It was an innocent light comment that sparked into a crazy argument.
He says I started it with me getting butthurt from the chemo comment. And he thinks I blew it out of our of proportion. Now I ask you guys, what do you guys think? Should I lighten up or was he right and I got butthurt, or did he get butthurt?
How do you check people on slick comments like these? Any advice?
Also my game can be defined as confident beta which I still pull. I'm generally a nice guy with eveybody, but I sometimes feel like people walk all over me for my niceness.
Everytime someone makes slick comments like "you're so stupid" or "You're so dumb" or "you idiot" or "you're an idiot". My blood boils. Is this right? If not, how do I go about ending this?
How do I reverse this? Thanks in advanced.