i'm putting this here as its my first thread and also i'm pretty sure this is a newbie question (for the record I did do a search and nothing specific to this topic).
Question is when do you maintain frame and when do you relent?? ill admit im a stubborn bastard at the best of times and the idea of folding to what I see as a woman's shit tests isn't my thing, with that in mind here's the situation.
Aside from my normal day/night game I got three prospects from online game. all going well building the attraction etc.
Girl 1) tried seeing her once, I relented to her "busy" schedule, only saw her once and it didn't amount to anything. she went dark for a while and came back.
basically my whole attitude was "tried it your way, now if we do it at all we do it my way" and needless to say she didn't like it, kept trying to get me to go to her schedule along with "I don't do what any man tells me what to do" and I have to say the only reason why I entertained the idea was I didn't get to bang her and redheads are a "femme fatale" for me.
long story short she made out I was pushy and overbearing and my entire stance was my way and if she didn't like it - move along. until she persisted to try and get me to go along with what she wanted (but no sex when I saw her again I cannot count how many times she said that) and in the end I said in a polite manner; fuck off. and again with the "you're pushy and overbearing and I am less inclined to see you" so if ever there was a bang possibility it was lost.
Girl 2) single mum, got her number had some good text game, texted me telling me how much she has lived being only 29, ex party girl blah blah blah then called to promote just how hardcore she is etc etc. last night she says "I want to do something" and when I ask what she goes "well you don't have a car so I guess you wont find out unless you get one" (she doesn't have a car and I have a motorcycle but the work ute is at my disposal which she knows). I laughed and said "im not going out tonight" (I had work early in the morning and I was knackered from the gym). so I get a "whatever your loss" and im kinda glad, did NOT want to really deal with her after that. another potential bang (if at all) = gone
Girl 3) 30, feels the need to crap on about her past and how she is so scarred (im sensing a theme) anyway she wasn't too bad on the looks scale so I agree to meet her, I had a cocktail lounge in mind (because I wanted to go there just haven't had the chance so two birds one stone) and she asks what to wear (the usual reason being previous partners etc have never taken them somewhere more upmarket than the local pub) so I tell her dress, heels etc. then says "well you should still like me if I came in sandals and a summerdress" and I replied "you go to a nice place, you dress nice and if you don't ill consider it a big middle finger so no"
anyway long story short im a controlling manipulative bastard (same as girl #1) blah blah I tell her I don't want to see her and she ends with "well keep my number in case you want to give me another chance"
so based on all that when would you keep frame and when would you relent and give in?? I have some hope that I did the right thing because it looks like they were either used to getting their own way or wasting time anyway.
Question is when do you maintain frame and when do you relent?? ill admit im a stubborn bastard at the best of times and the idea of folding to what I see as a woman's shit tests isn't my thing, with that in mind here's the situation.
Aside from my normal day/night game I got three prospects from online game. all going well building the attraction etc.
Girl 1) tried seeing her once, I relented to her "busy" schedule, only saw her once and it didn't amount to anything. she went dark for a while and came back.
basically my whole attitude was "tried it your way, now if we do it at all we do it my way" and needless to say she didn't like it, kept trying to get me to go to her schedule along with "I don't do what any man tells me what to do" and I have to say the only reason why I entertained the idea was I didn't get to bang her and redheads are a "femme fatale" for me.
long story short she made out I was pushy and overbearing and my entire stance was my way and if she didn't like it - move along. until she persisted to try and get me to go along with what she wanted (but no sex when I saw her again I cannot count how many times she said that) and in the end I said in a polite manner; fuck off. and again with the "you're pushy and overbearing and I am less inclined to see you" so if ever there was a bang possibility it was lost.
Girl 2) single mum, got her number had some good text game, texted me telling me how much she has lived being only 29, ex party girl blah blah blah then called to promote just how hardcore she is etc etc. last night she says "I want to do something" and when I ask what she goes "well you don't have a car so I guess you wont find out unless you get one" (she doesn't have a car and I have a motorcycle but the work ute is at my disposal which she knows). I laughed and said "im not going out tonight" (I had work early in the morning and I was knackered from the gym). so I get a "whatever your loss" and im kinda glad, did NOT want to really deal with her after that. another potential bang (if at all) = gone
Girl 3) 30, feels the need to crap on about her past and how she is so scarred (im sensing a theme) anyway she wasn't too bad on the looks scale so I agree to meet her, I had a cocktail lounge in mind (because I wanted to go there just haven't had the chance so two birds one stone) and she asks what to wear (the usual reason being previous partners etc have never taken them somewhere more upmarket than the local pub) so I tell her dress, heels etc. then says "well you should still like me if I came in sandals and a summerdress" and I replied "you go to a nice place, you dress nice and if you don't ill consider it a big middle finger so no"
anyway long story short im a controlling manipulative bastard (same as girl #1) blah blah I tell her I don't want to see her and she ends with "well keep my number in case you want to give me another chance"
so based on all that when would you keep frame and when would you relent and give in?? I have some hope that I did the right thing because it looks like they were either used to getting their own way or wasting time anyway.