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Emotional deficiencies in the manosphere
10-16-2014, 01:11 PM
There is very little introspection in the Manosphere.
Topics concerning end game usually come from the mouths of game denialists, so it is easy to toss them aside without thinking them through. As players we have entered a new matrix, with a series of new rules, but regardless it is still a matrix and the rules have been collectivized. There are certain notions of this "new matrix" that go unquestioned, such as, for instance, that the goal of every player should be to "fuck as many birds as possible", or that marriage and family is unthinkable. I will not debate these particular points, but I 'am' arguing that they have been elevated to pure dogma. The response you get from a so-called "red-piller" when debating end game is similar to that of debating the existence of God with a Christian. You don't get that spirit of seeking the truth, of relentessly questioning one's beliefs. That was the reason we "swallowed the red pill" in the first place.
At first, we were in a matrix where our ideas coincided with those of everyone else. And now, we all think equally about many things, certain points that should never be questioned. If there is ever an indicator to question one's beliefs it is when they are the same as everyone else's. If you think the same way everyone around you does, even in an isolated corner of the Internet, you know there is something wrong and you have some introspection to do. But introspection means battling face-to-face with your ego, and that is a battle most people cannot fight.
Think of R-selection. In the West, most women seek out casual sex, pursue careers and avoid long-term commitment to men. They ALL do it, they ALL think equally. Ideological contagion. Now, in the above statement, replace the word "women" with "men". The phrase still makes sense. As men we are just as vulnerable to this phenomenon. We take on the values of our society without even realizing, we don't wonder if it acts against our happiness, or if we are "victims of society". Those are things we call women, but women don't realize it is happening to them any more than WE realize it is happening to US.
As an older player looking back into the past, I ask myself many questions and I try to pinpoint where I went wrong so I never make the same mistakes again. Did meaningless sex with women I never saw again ever make me happy? Not really. Was the woman's beauty always directly proportional to my happiness? Not always. There were only a few times when I was truly happy, a reduced number of special people throughout my journey that stuck out. Those people will probably be the last thing I remember before dying, I won't remember my career or my hobbies, those things were just there to pass the time. Only the people, the few ones that made me happy, will matter.
Why then did I pursue these things, and why did I make the mistakes that I did? I did it because of ego and ideological contagion. "I am not going to the gym for girls, I am doing it for me. I am not fucking lots of girls to prove anything to the world or to my former beta self, or because I must prove to myself that I can do what he can do, or 'this is what players do. I don't pump and dump women because I grew up a society that taught me that is the way to behave. Women are for sex, love doesn't exist... I don't understand how a man and a woman can share a human bond, society taught me love was social construct, a commercial farce. Must every bond lead to marriage, can there not be even temporary commitment without marriage... or even, what is the role of family in a man's life? Surely family must have no place in my life, surely all those societies of the past were caught up in primitive ways." Not long ago sex became an act of hatred, almost of vengeance, over a lost love or a history of disrespect.
I recently read Roosh's epilogue on Anna. There was one paragraph that stuck out to me:
"Even after this experience, I feel no more comfortable committing to any woman. The idea of love and living happily ever after is an abstract fantasy that becomes less likely with every passing year. I’m essentially re-living the same thing over and over again, running in the same hamster wheel but in different places with different women, and soon I will meet another Anna and let her go too. How absurd it is to be so capable of meeting good women but choose loneliness instead! It’s loneliness to some, but freedom to me, and I choose this freedom over creating a family, freedom over long-term relationships with good women. And I’m prepared, I think, to live with that choice."
The freedom and independence of Western civilization. This paragraph saddened me, because it is so eerily close to how women think. It reminded me of how, in the West, everything good in life was wiped out by meager ideas.