[jariel]

(10-04-2014 09:39 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

If this girl dropped 50-60 lbs, I believe she would be pretty. It's shame that she would rather live in delusion than just do the work to lose the weight that would make her so much, healthier, happier and more attractive.

If everyone were a winner, being a winner wouldn't mean so much.

I believe in doing the work, projections mean nothing.

As is, she's overweight and unattractive, most guys won't give her a second look, high-level guys won't even see her.

[Praetor Lupus]

There's probably thousands of women who've read her article commiserating with her and thinking what bastards these men are for not replying, all the while being signed up to these sites and never messaging men back themselves.

She had the misfortune not to message any desperate herbs. Given long enough, there would have been someone desperate enough to look past her size and even her cat in the hope of getting laid, just once.

[Mage]

Title of this thread is misleading to create clicks.

She is not a chick but a whale.

[Maciano]

"I wrote a profile on various datingsites, and 6 months later guys either had the temerity to either NOT respond to MY messages, or BE SOME LOSER I don't care for!!

I mean, what the fuck?! i'm hot, cool, young & I love cats!!

This sucks, I want people to do something. Can't Obama fix me up with some guy, like Jason Segel! I deserve it!"

[SteveMcMahon]

Update: Jason Segel read her story and asked her out on a date.

[SteveMcMahon]

(10-04-2014 01:07 PM)Hedonistic Traveler Wrote:  

I can only hope her "very intelligent" cat gives her some advice to help her out.

[Biologist]

The sense of entitlement of this woman really boggles the mind. Is she really that stupid to not realise that men are disgusted by obese women?

As for her receiving only 5 unsolicited messages in 9 months - I'm sure that this is a complete lie. What she is really saying is that she only received messages from 5 guys who she deemed at least somewhat attractive.

The messages she received from poor/boring/fat/physically unattractive men are invisible to her. How ironic.

[Private Man]

(10-05-2014 06:45 AM)Biologist Wrote:  

The messages she received from poor/boring/fat/physically unattractive men are invisible to her. How ironic.

As a guy doing the online dating thing, you are 100% correct.

[Captain Gh]

This bitch is just like the Rape mattress chick: Straight up lying for attention! She did receive messages, but just not from the Ryan Reynolds looking types that she'd like to have and thinks she deserves Somebody needs to remind this bitch that Fat bitches are like mopeds: You wouldn't mind riding one but just not in public!

[aphelion]

I don't think it's unreasonable that she only received 10 unsolicited messages. If she wasn't pounding the pavement messaging people and didn't log into her accounts, she had a lower chance of showing up in people's search algorithms, and her absence would have deterred people from contacting her.

There's no reason to message an overweight girl who hasn't logged into the site in 3 weeks - the mushroom festival ain't THAT cool.

[RexImperator]

How American girls can get tons opportunities for sex:

1) be in their 20's (earlier the better)
2) don't be born a hideous/disfigured/weird face
3) don't be fat

(Even #2 can probably be overcome if with a great ass.)

Any girl who meets all three basically is an automatic 6 or better.

[dicknixon72]

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[b]Did any of them turn into dates?[/b] No. That was the thing that was really jarring. The guys who reached out to me weren’t what I was looking for—based on the 60 seconds I spent on their profile. And that’s what I learned: you only have about 60 seconds to pitch yourself.

[b]What was wrong with them?[/b] Their interests didn’t really resonate. I wasn’t physically attracted to them. It’s not that they were bad-looking men. I’m sure they were great guys; it just wasn’t a great fit for me.

[b]Did you reply to them?[/b] I didn’t.

So, this means a handful of guys messaged her, I bet one or two were black or another minority she doesn't 'prefer' and the others were probably in her weight range (40-50lbs overweight) but not morbidly obese...and she didn't even give thme the respect of saying, "No thanks."

Yet she posts this self-edifacing crap about herself.

...

What the fuck? Either shop in your budget or do something about your budget. Fucking moron.

[The Father]

Basically, if it has a vagina and doesn't have a face like an onion (i.e., makes you cry), it can get a date. Two exceptions:

Fat chicks and wall victims.

The former is well covered on this thread, so i'll address the latter. I knew a very cute chick with a great body. I mean, smokin' body. Even into her mid-30s. I remember one time i had a pool party and DAMN, in that bikini her legs and ass were fine. She dated a guy in our circle, he never wanted to get married and of course she did, but she couldn't bring herself to leave him until she hit the big 4-0. By that time, she had lost a step. So she put herself out on Match and...nothing! Couldn't buy a date. This same girl was smoking 5-6 yrs earlier. But at 40, the guys have all the power...and they don't want 40 year olds! They want 25-32 yr olds. Even guys from 45-50, if they've got looks and money, won't go over 36 (and only then for a hot specimen).

[etshella]

"Their interests didn’t really resonate. I wasn’t physically attracted to them. It’s not that they were bad-looking men. I’m sure they were great guys; it just wasn’t a great fit for me."

And now she knows why the 40 men didn't bother to respond.

[slats7]

don't fret, honey. the government is on it.

http://freebeacon.com/issues/feds-wonder...get-dates/

[assman]

(10-05-2014 08:45 PM)slats7 Wrote:  

don't fret, honey. the government is on it.

http://freebeacon.com/issues/feds-wonder...get-dates/

“However, no studies have actually examined whether the interpersonal skills and intimate relationships of obese and non-obese girls differ.”

Differences they will find in the intimate relationships of obese and non-obese girls:
1. Obese girls don't receive oral. Non-obese girls get their pussies licked.
2. A large percentage of obese girls' sexual interactions involve giving oral only.
3. Guys don't bother with condoms with obese girls because that would deny them what little pleasure there was in thrusting into her folds.
4. A large percentage of obese girls' sexual interactions are one and done (pump 'n dump).

[The Father]

(10-05-2014 08:12 PM)etshella Wrote:  

"I’m sure they were great guys; it just wasn’t a great fit for me."

Given your size, only Ron Jeremy or a fireplug would be a good "fit" for you...

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(10-05-2014 06:48 PM)The Father Wrote:  

Basically, if it has a vagina and doesn't have a face like an onion (i.e., makes you cry), it can get a date. Two exceptions:

Fat chicks and wall victims.

...

Even those get dates, if they dress in sexy clothes and allure to the fact that they will put out fast. There are plenty of guys - even good looking ones - who will fuck anything when thirsty.

Of course that way they won't be getting LTR-interested men, but on the other hand - who knows? At least that way they would be getting dates.

[DJ-Matt]

This GIF from another thread is deserving of this topic:

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I Tried Online Dating And No One Messaged Me Back

   

[jariel]

(10-06-2014 01:12 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:  

Even those get dates, if they dress in sexy clothes and allure to the fact that they will put out fast. There are plenty of guys - even good looking ones - who will fuck anything when thirsty.

Of course that way they won't be getting LTR-interested men, but on the other hand - who knows? At least that way they would be getting dates.

Well ya, when a girl doesn't want to participate in the hookup culture it's because she wants to be courted.

That's fine, but no one is courting a fat, boring chick who thinks her witty about me message is supposed to get your dick hard.

She's just delusional.

Delusional and single go hand-and-hand, it means your Friday and Saturday nights will be spent alone on your couch with your best friends, Cheetos and TiVo.

[slats7]

(10-04-2014 12:58 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

That's why alcohol was invented fellas. It lowers the price of pussy and reduces men's high standards for women. No wonder prohibition failed.

speaking of which, anyone see Homeland last night?

nsfw

[canary]

(10-04-2014 09:52 AM)jariel Wrote:  

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Online dating has made me feel more alone and rejected than ever.

I expected life after college to be hard. Entering the workforce in one of the more turbulent economic times in our nation’s history meant I would have to work harder to break into the communications industry. Moving out of my parents house would mean learning how to live on a strict budget, resulting in many ramen noodle dinners the week before payday. However, I did not expect that my dating life would be this difficult.

For the life of me, I cannot get a date. Just typing that sentence stung. As a single, straight female living in a metropolitan neighborhood, one would think that it would be fairly simple to meet men. I’m not a huge drinker, so the bar scene has never really been my thing. Not that there’s anything wrong with it, but I’m not into one night stands either.

Although I am an introvert and would rather spend time with my cat while watching Netflix, I ventured out of my comfort zone and joined a co-ed softball league and registered for a comedy class. That was a bust. Most of the guys were taken, while the others showed zero interest in my lame attempts to flirt. When that didn’t pan out, I turned to the one avenue that has never let me down: the Internet.


My online dating bio that my friend Erica wrote. It pretty much sums me up to a tee.

Online dating seemed ideal, and was surely going to be the gateway to widen my dating horizons. As a writer and a marketer, it should have been almost effortless to create a dazzling dating profile. No awkward pick-up lines, or reading between the lines. In this digital dating landscape, I was able to put my best self first.

Similar to online shopping for shoes, I perused the catalog of men "selected" specifically for me. What could be better than having tailored dates sent in my inbox every day?

Over a span of a week, I reached out to 10 different guys, crafting short but thoughtful messages. Radio silence followed.

Determined, I scoped out more matches, reached out and waited for a bite. Nope -- it ended up being another round of rejections. So really, it was like being shot down by 20 consecutive times. Twenty men that were perfect for me based on my personality and interests were not interested in me even though I "looked" and "sounded" my best. Even at my best I was not desirable. To someone who struggles with self-esteem issues on an hourly basis, this was a kick in the gut.

After a month of only getting two messages from men that were not my type, and receiving no response from any of my "matches" (there had to be over 40 at that point), I enlisted feedback from my friends.

I was positive switching out profile photos, having my best friend pen a wittier "about me" summary and broadening my "match" settings would make a world of difference to potential suitors. It was a digital makeover, and just like in the movies where the girl turns heads after her transformation, my new profile would gain traction.

Nothing happened. My inbox remained empty, and my insecurities were increasing with each click. What was turning them away? Was it my looks -- which was based on the best photos of me? Or was it my personality, my being? Something has to be turning them off, and the speculation of what it could be has rattled my confidence.


My profile photo, which used to make me feel confident about how great I looked. Now I question if I was as pretty as I felt that night.

If I am being myself and it hasn't attracted anyone, then perhaps I have way bigger fish to fry than trying to get a date.

Online dating has made me feel more alone and rejected than ever. Because it has been such a draining experience, I made the decision to delete all of my online dating profiles, five profiles altogether.


The sad, destitute inbox of shame.

Has anyone else ever experienced a similar situation in online dating? Instead of lifting you up, has it shaken up the stability your self-image? They say love hurts, but being rejected before you're even acknowledged hurts even more.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/xojane-/on...lp00000592

She's boring, unattractive, and has low-self esteem.

Why won't you men MAN UP and date this girl?

Can't you see she's trying?

She even got a friend to write a wittier "About Me" message on her profile!

so what do you think about the girl?

[Simeon_Strangelight]

This is an old thread.

It is an absolutely weird way of doing online dating. She somehow used a platform which lets women do 100% of the approaches. She contacted certainly men who were all far superior in market value to her. She said that all 10 men took a look at her profile and had subsequently no interest in contacting her. That is not how online dating works.

Even an obese idiotic land-whale like her can get countless dates - just not with the men she thinks she should get.

[Suits]

I'm glad this thread got bumped. I'm pretty sure I missed it first time around.

Just more evidence supporting the theory that women always think they deserve a man of value than they themselves offer.

[Leonard D Neubache]

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Online dating has made me feel more alone and rejected than ever.
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Nothing happened. My inbox remained empty, and my insecurities were increasing with each click. What was turning them away? Was it my looks

Yes.

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-- which was based on the best photos of me? Or was it my personality,

No, it's definitely the looks.

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my being?

Uhh, I suppose, in as much as your being encompasses your looks...

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Something has to be turning them off,

The looks, lady. The looks. More specifically the fat.

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and the speculation of what it could be has rattled my confidence.

What fucking speculation, you fat cunt?

There's not much in this world that makes me want to raise my voice, but when I see some fat bitch hamstering implausible reasons men are not interested in her in order to obfuscate the plain and obvious fact that she needs to put the fucking pastries down, it trips something in my hind brain that makes me want to slap the ever living shit out of them.