[Foolsgo1d]

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ver a span of a week, I reached out to 10 different guys, crafting short but thoughtful messages. Radio silence followed.

Determined, I scoped out more matches, reached out and waited for a bite. Nope -- it ended up being another round of rejections. So really, it was like being shot down by 20 consecutive times. Twenty men that were perfect for me based on my personality and interests were not interested in me even though I "looked" and "sounded" my best. Even at my best I was not desirable. To someone who struggles with self-esteem issues on an hourly basis, this was a kick in the gut.

Translation - "I was hitting on guys who are slim/athletic, tall with dark handsome traits and I dont know why they haven't responded".

And I also noticed how guys who she was not attracted too became "unsolicited messages". At least she didn't use the creepy word for them.

[Redwood]

I would think she used the word "unsolicited" instead of "creepy" to somehow show how she is non-judgmental.

[Parlay44]

That's why alcohol was invented fellas. It lowers the price of pussy and reduces men's high standards for women. No wonder prohibition failed.

[Hedonistic Traveler]

(10-04-2014 10:33 AM)jariel Wrote:  

She did an interview about the article:

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What was wrong with them? Their interests didn’t really resonate. I wasn’t physically attracted to them[b]. It’s not that they were bad-looking men. I’m sure they were great guys; it just wasn’t a great fit for me.

[b]Did you reply to them? I didn’t.

...


Were there any downsides to writing about your datelessness? There was a lot of body shaming—I was shocked. Ninety per cent of the xoJane comments were really great. But then there was the ten per cent that were really mean. For example: “She hasn’t gotten any replies because she’s fat.” “You’re fat and your profile is off-putting.” “Fat girls are revolting.” Initially those comments shook me and triggered every insecurity in my body. I watched the comments roll in, and I just sat there crying my eyes out.


[b]What’s your type? I would love to date someone like [b]Leonard from Big Bang Theory[b].

This chick is so fucking delusional. She ignores the guys who are interested in dating her, dismissing them as unattractive. Maybe she should just accept that she's unattractive too. I wouldn't be surprised if some of those guys were willing to date-down with her.

And fucking "bodyshaming", what a sham. No one feels bad about criticizing drug users, alcoholics and smokers, but to criticize someone for eating themselves into an early, and oversized, grave is forbidden. In a way fat guys have it better, no one tries to help them rationalize their lack of success.

And she thinks she should be dating a fictional guy that looks like Johnny Galiki? This is who he's dating right now.



Even if he wasn't famous he'd be out of her league. I can only hope her "very intelligent" cat gives her some advice to help her out.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

I wanted to make my 2000th post something cool, but here I am commenting on a fat chick's pics. Sign of the times. My take:

First, she would never date Johnny Galecki (Sheldon from "Big Bang Theory") in real life.

He's around 5'5" and fat women avoid short guys because "they make me feel too big when I stand next to them." I've heard fat women say this in real life. Of course, if you don't want to date them because they "make you look like a loser," you're "Shallow Hal" (look it up).

Second, she got no replies because she's the worst kind of fat - boring, bland, conservative fat. If you're gonna get stuck with a fat chick, they need to be the kind you can spot online as being really wild, since at least that offers a novel experience.

I'm not fan of tattoos, piercings, weird hair, or the odd subculture that usually comes with them when fat girls have them (polyamory, bisexuality, fetish stuff). But being with a wild fat girl has to be better than being with a fat girl who has a thin girl's sense of entitlement. For one thing, you probably won't have to buy her dinner first -- a positive in more ways than one.

[R Smoov]

Trigger warnings: cat, iced coffee, four year old niece, peanut butter smoothies, Hulu (who the fuck uses this), softball, try clean eating (try harder bitch), write about life is awkward.

Life has it's ways of shutting down those who shut down others.

[Glaucon]

First time princess whale does not get what she wants.

Welcome to real life, it is time for you to join in...It always starts with a kick in the face, do not worry.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

I call bullshit on the story.

It is either fake, she is attention whoring or has some extremely strange limitations set up. I read recently about a girl who put her pics under a man and was surprised she did not get messages at all.

5 messages on over 5 different profiles? Even as a fat girl she should have gotten at least 10-20 times more over a few months on all those sites.

Here en experiment on OKCupid:



The results after 4 months:

The two top girls got 2000-5000 messages, but their mailbox was full.

The girl in the article is slimmer than the whale in the experiment.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/06/2...xperiment/

[AnonymousBosch]

(10-04-2014 10:10 AM)assman Wrote:  

Her profile blurb is awful (why on earth do women think these blurbs are witty or unique - they all sound the same!)

That's one of the worst profiles I've read in my life. I'm left with the conclusion she's an immature, sedentary, fat-and-sugar craving moron.

The more girls try to be unique and witty, the more production line it sounds.

[CRR]

@AB - As I said once in the online hamster thread, the absolute worst personality trait a woman can have is 'sarcastic' or some variation.

@Zelcorpion - I'd agree, but as DOBA pointed out, she gives off a fat girl with a thin girl's sense of entitlement vibe. I think if a fat girl appears to be willing to have fun, thirsty dudes will contact her. If she's looking for a relationship, it will be much fewer. And the ones who do are never "a good match". So I think it's entirely believable.

Re this woman in particular, as a self proclaimed "marketer" she should've known that the men "selected" for her were done so to get her to join the site. I set up a fake profile on Match with no picture, answered some basic questions, and all my "matches" happened to be young 9s and 10s. One would think a "marketer" would notice "marketing" when it is staring right at them.

[Parlay44]

(10-04-2014 02:22 PM)Glaucon Wrote:  

First time princess whale does not get what she wants.

Welcome to real life, it is time for you to join in...It always starts with a kick in the face, do not worry.

Made me think of Mr Crabs' daughter Pearl the whale.

[AnonymousBosch]

(10-04-2014 03:23 PM)CRR Wrote:  

@AB - As I said once in the online hamster thread, the absolute worst personality trait a woman can have is 'sarcastic' or some variation.

It's a huge red flag for me for female mediocrity.

Got a sarcastic POF message this morning from a woman about my size, obviously-trying to prove her intellectual superiority over a guy who lifts heavy things by pretending to be not interested in me, unless, of course, I respond with interest, then she totally will be. Girl Logic. *shrug*

Amongst other tedious, quirky 'funny' crap in her profile, she claimed to be a big Tori Amos / Lorde / Kate Bush fan.

My only response:

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"I was aware of a lot of my friends being into things that I wasn't into. Like sarcasm. It had never been a part of my family - they still don't use sarcasm. I don't actually think it's nice. I think sarcasm is a very cheap and negative way of trying to get laughs and make yourself superior." Kate Bush, Flexipop, 1982.

[scorpion]

The funniest thing about this to me is the fact that she actually thought this was a story worth sharing. The basic premise of the article being: "I am a young person unable to meet anyone through online dating. This is most unusual and terrible, woe is me."

For the average man, this fact is so commonplace that it would be like feeling the need to notify the entire world of the amazing fact that the shit he took this morning was brown, or that he got shitfaced drunk and lost his car keys. I mean, who would have thought such things were possible, right? I must tell everyone and seek support and validation!

This is more proof for the idea that the average woman would shrivel up into a ball and cry hysterically if forced to endure the existence of the average man for even a single day. Their level of entitlement and solipsism renders them completely blind to the basic reality that underlies male existence: no one gives a fuck about you. Women simply are not mentally and emotionally equipped to handle something like that, and so you get articles like this, with a woman bemoaning as cruel fate what is literally the common, everyday experience of men, in this case men who use online dating.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(10-04-2014 04:28 PM)scorpion Wrote:  

...

This is more proof for the idea that the average woman would shrivel up into a ball and cry hysterically if forced to endure the existence of the average man for even a single day. Their level of entitlement and solipsism renders them completely blind to the basic reality that underlies male existence: no one gives a fuck about you. Women simply are not mentally and emotionally equipped to handle something like that, and so you get articles like this, with a woman bemoaning as cruel fate what is literally the common, everyday experience of men, in this case men who use online dating.

This reminds me of this masculine looking lesbian who disguised herself as a man only to break down at the end of the experience, because she simply could no longer manage to be a man. She said that being a man was a lot tougher than she thought. Especially when it came to dating she was shocked how rude women were to her, when she approached them as a "man". At the end of the experience (and her final emotional breakdown) she conceded that men are somehow mentally wired differently in order to even "manage" life as a man - especially when it comes to dating or relationships with women.

Her great-grandmother would have just shaken her head and said: "What do you expect? You are fat while being young and expect the hottest brightest man while being entitled and narcissistic."

[speakeasy]

(10-04-2014 04:28 PM)scorpion Wrote:  

The funniest thing about this to me is the fact that she actually thought this was a story worth sharing. The basic premise of the article being: "I am a young person unable to meet anyone through online dating. This is most unusual and terrible, woe is me."

For the average man, this fact is so commonplace that it would be like feeling the need to notify the entire world of the amazing fact that the shit he took this morning was brown, or that he got shitfaced drunk and lost his car keys. I mean, who would have thought such things were possible, right? I must tell everyone and seek support and validation!

This is more proof for the idea that the average woman would shrivel up into a ball and cry hysterically if forced to endure the existence of the average man for even a single day. Their level of entitlement and solipsism renders them completely blind to the basic reality that underlies male existence: no one gives a fuck about you. Women simply are not mentally and emotionally equipped to handle something like that, and so you get articles like this, with a woman bemoaning as cruel fate what is literally the common, everyday experience of men, in this case men who use online dating.

[Hades]

Welcome to the life of a low value man, ugly fat woman.

[CRR]

(10-04-2014 04:28 PM)scorpion Wrote:  

The funniest thing about this to me is the fact that she actually thought this was a story worth sharing. The basic premise of the article being: "I am a young person unable to meet anyone through online dating. This is most unusual and terrible, woe is me."

For the average man, this fact is so commonplace that it would be like feeling the need to notify the entire world of the amazing fact that the shit he took this morning was brown, or that he got shitfaced drunk and lost his car keys. I mean, who would have thought such things were possible, right? I must tell everyone and seek support and validation!

This is more proof for the idea that the average woman would shrivel up into a ball and cry hysterically if forced to endure the existence of the average man for even a single day. Their level of entitlement and solipsism renders them completely blind to the basic reality that underlies male existence: no one gives a fuck about you. Women simply are not mentally and emotionally equipped to handle something like that, and so you get articles like this, with a woman bemoaning as cruel fate what is literally the common, everyday experience of men, in this case men who use online dating.

Indeed, great overall post.

Regarding the bolded part, that is a basic notion of being a man. You are born as nothing, you are entitled to nothing, and where you go is determined by who you become and what you do to achieve that.

And we embrace that challenge, enduring the failures and successes along the way, accepting responsibility and trying to make our mark in the world. NOT expecting the world to adapt to us.

[AnonymousBosch]

(10-04-2014 04:28 PM)scorpion Wrote:  

Their level of entitlement and solipsism renders them completely blind to the basic reality that underlies male existence: no one gives a fuck about you.

Spot on. Note this passage about the men she rejected:

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What was wrong with them? Their interests didn’t really resonate. I wasn’t physically attracted to them. It’s not that they were bad-looking men. I’m sure they were great guys; it just wasn’t a great fit for me.

She can't flip that around and consider men might think she was a great girl, but not a great fit for them.

To do so would require the ability to see men as more than actors performing the requirements of her script.

[StrikeBack]

She sent out 40 messages and got 5 responses back. Decent ratio for online dating, I take it (never done OD myself), if she were a man.

[Gimlet]

From the beginning of time until now, women selected a mate based on the best of the men who wanted HER. If she wanted something better, her dad had to put up a dowry, i.e. bringing something more to the table than her fabulous self. She shouldn't be sending messages to men in the first place... that she is doing so is another example of how feminism has failed modern women. She is simply chasing after being P & D'd, and apparently she is reaching so high she can't even get that.

[TheWastelander]

Fat girls are retarded, routinely lie to themselves as well as others, and have been completely lied to by other women who want them to stay fat so they have less competition.

Fat acceptance is one big lie.

Lying and gluttony are sins, damn it. Fat girls should be ashamed!

[jariel]

If put in terms of a job interview, how a woman looks will get her an interview, it's the other things that will determine whether or not she gets the job.

At this point, this girl can't get a interview.

I'm sure that sucks, but it's real, realer than having her pretend that a witty about me message or her pointless communications degree is going to get a guy to get up, take a shower, put on something decent and take her some place decent to have a great time.

She's brings little to nothing to the table.

Unfortunately for women, rom-coms have made them believe that all they have to do is exist for us to be willing to attempt to move mountains to make all their whims and dreams come true.

[jariel]

(10-04-2014 08:59 PM)TheWastelander Wrote:  

Fat acceptance is one big lie.

Every time you see a slim girl running around a track, a neighborhood, wherever, she's living the opposite of fat acceptance.

[MrXY]

She's lying when she says she only got five unsolicited messages in 9 months.

She had profiles on five sites! She would get more than five messages from Nigerian scammers alone in 9 months. Yes, she's fat but not grotesquely so, she's young and her face is ok-based on what I have been told by women of their experiences and those of their friends, even women much less attractive, much fatter, and much older than this girl get ample messages.

9 months is 36 weeks; if she only got 3 messages per week, that's 108 messages total per site. Times five sites. I wouldn't be surprised at all if she got over 500 messages.

But if she told the truth , she wouldn't look like a victim, which is de rigueur for writing an article for a feminist site. Plus, it would raise the question of why she rejected all these men and she would have to explain why she has ridiculous standards for men while herself being quite mediocre. That wouldn't fit the narrative either.

If this girl dropped 50-60 lbs, I believe she would be pretty. It's shame that she would rather live in delusion than just do the work to lose the weight that would make her so much, healthier, happier and more attractive.

[T and A Man]

She doesn't mean she got zero response, she means 'no body ' messaged her, as in the ones she finds attractive.

Those that did respond are invisible to her, persona non-grata, practically sub human in her eyes