This idea has been thrown around for quite some time. If you Google it you’ll be presented with inspirational speeches preaching the mantra and even step by step guides on how to go about doing it. The first person I heard to really drive this idea was Joe Rogan on his podcast. It’s something he will bring up from time to time applying it to both men and women. Usually he’ll talk about shitty friends who always let you down, tell you this is the last time they fuck you over only to do it again. And crazy women who you always end up arguing with but also have incredible sex with.
Most recently I've heard Mike from Danger and Play talk about this on his podcast. He discusses situations in his life where he realized he was in a toxic relationship so he cut that person off. His examples are on the extreme of this, he cut off communication to his close family, his Mother and two Brothers. Which to me shows a level of commitment to this idea that I do not possess. Personally for me I could not cut my Brothers or parents out of my life no matter the indiscretion.
However, I think this is a great frame of mind to approach life with and will lead to success more often than not. I think we've all been in those situations when we feel as though we’re carrying the weight of others, and it feels good for the most part for me at least to be the person people rely on. The problem occurs when people take advantage of this knowing that your dependable, that you’ll get it done, that they can always rely on you. That’s when this idea of cutting these people out of your life can be put to use.
My problem with this idea is that it works great for creatures dictated by logic but that is not our species. I know that the women I've had the worst relationships with I've also had the best sex with. My last relationship for example was a shit show, we were incompatible, we argued too much, I found her boring, she found me strange, but she was one of the best fucks I've ever had. My relationships with male friends is where I find it hardest to implement this idea as the most fun men I've ever met are usually complete fuck ups. I've had more laughs with what most people on this forum would consider ‘losers’ then I've ever had with friends I've looked up to.
That’s what I believe is the catch 22 with this idea, great in practice but in reality hard to implement and you might end up losing something. I think of these bad relationships with women and men to be like fast food and drugs. It’s all well and good to say cut that shit out of your life it has no benefits, its detrimental to your health, but fuck me if staying up for two days doing cocaine and MDMA with your unemployed waster friends isn't fun.
I've given this a lot of thought, because I believe there's a lot of value in this idea. My approach to the shit heads in my life is gonna be the same as my approach to fast food, drugs and alcohol which is not to cut it off it off completely, but to limit my exposure. What do the rest of you think? Can you achieve your full potential while occasionally associating with the dregs of society or are the two incompatible?
Most recently I've heard Mike from Danger and Play talk about this on his podcast. He discusses situations in his life where he realized he was in a toxic relationship so he cut that person off. His examples are on the extreme of this, he cut off communication to his close family, his Mother and two Brothers. Which to me shows a level of commitment to this idea that I do not possess. Personally for me I could not cut my Brothers or parents out of my life no matter the indiscretion.
However, I think this is a great frame of mind to approach life with and will lead to success more often than not. I think we've all been in those situations when we feel as though we’re carrying the weight of others, and it feels good for the most part for me at least to be the person people rely on. The problem occurs when people take advantage of this knowing that your dependable, that you’ll get it done, that they can always rely on you. That’s when this idea of cutting these people out of your life can be put to use.
My problem with this idea is that it works great for creatures dictated by logic but that is not our species. I know that the women I've had the worst relationships with I've also had the best sex with. My last relationship for example was a shit show, we were incompatible, we argued too much, I found her boring, she found me strange, but she was one of the best fucks I've ever had. My relationships with male friends is where I find it hardest to implement this idea as the most fun men I've ever met are usually complete fuck ups. I've had more laughs with what most people on this forum would consider ‘losers’ then I've ever had with friends I've looked up to.
That’s what I believe is the catch 22 with this idea, great in practice but in reality hard to implement and you might end up losing something. I think of these bad relationships with women and men to be like fast food and drugs. It’s all well and good to say cut that shit out of your life it has no benefits, its detrimental to your health, but fuck me if staying up for two days doing cocaine and MDMA with your unemployed waster friends isn't fun.
I've given this a lot of thought, because I believe there's a lot of value in this idea. My approach to the shit heads in my life is gonna be the same as my approach to fast food, drugs and alcohol which is not to cut it off it off completely, but to limit my exposure. What do the rest of you think? Can you achieve your full potential while occasionally associating with the dregs of society or are the two incompatible?
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