I decided to take a bit of a dating sabbatical to get my shit together in regards to dating. I stopped posting on RVF and made a plan to get my shit together (get in shape, get a better job, move to a better city).
My journey in a nutshell: I moved to Tampa to get my feet wet in my journey to become a player.
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-13218.html
I have since moved to Orlando
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-32274.htmld
Had some struggles with low paying jobs, got a bad girlfriend, ended up tossing the chessboard off the table and started over again six months ago.
I now live in a college town (I’m about two miles from the University of Central Florida, second largest campus in the country in terms of enrollment). I got a nice job making decent pay and got a place on the east side.
I ironed out most of my issues. I feel 95% of the reason why I struggle with women is become of inner game. Off the top of my head.
1.) I still struggle with approach anxiety.
2.) I am too introverted. It is far easier for me to sit at home and catch up on Sons Of Anarchy than go out and chase girls.
3.) I have negative beliefs lingering in my brain, a lot of it is being too damn self conscious.
4.) I don’t escalate.
5.) I still struggle with believing I can get the girl, even when she is all over me.
I can see that my lack of success in the past is affecting my present.
As time goes on (I’m 31) I am starting to feel that pain of regret, something that comes naturally with aging. I see now that the world is no longer my oyster (or at least I don’t have that feeling). I want to get a move on in dealing with this issue, once and for all.
My plan is to start going out, minimum, two nights a week, and once during the day. Being that I live in a college town, or at least an area where there is a large campus, there quite a few spots where young women frequent-from local bars to Walmart. I am guaranteed to see a hot chick when I go to Publix, Walmart, hell, Dunkin Fucking Doughnuts has cute chicks here. Tailgating on Saturdays brings tons of young hotties out. I think Orlando has a lot of potential for a up and coming player looking to do damage.
The mental roadblocks are a pain though. I feel like I’m stuck in a cage with a lion when I see a girl I want to approach or when it is time to kiss. At times I push through it, but it does fuck up some for sure bangs.
Also, as much as I “don’t give a fuck.” I get annoyed every time I tell a coworker that I’m hitting a bar to swoop some college chicks and he/she says that I’m too old to be dating young girls. One coworker, in his 40s, really made an issue of it “What do you have to say to an eighteen year old?” And called me a pervert. *sigh* I should have known better. The guy has three daughters.
But again, inner game. My belief is that there are plenty of young women who would LOVE to be with me. Let the losers worry about losing. I’m going forward with what I want out of life.
Shout out to El Mechanico, Giovinny, Moma, OGNORTHCAL, iknowexactly, oldnemesis (r.i.p), and all the other players that helped me get to this point. I finally (finally), feel ready to tackle this endeavor once and for all.
I’m going out tonight to see what damage I can do. I’ll will be posting my journey here.
My journey in a nutshell: I moved to Tampa to get my feet wet in my journey to become a player.
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-13218.html
I have since moved to Orlando
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-32274.htmld
Had some struggles with low paying jobs, got a bad girlfriend, ended up tossing the chessboard off the table and started over again six months ago.
I now live in a college town (I’m about two miles from the University of Central Florida, second largest campus in the country in terms of enrollment). I got a nice job making decent pay and got a place on the east side.
I ironed out most of my issues. I feel 95% of the reason why I struggle with women is become of inner game. Off the top of my head.
1.) I still struggle with approach anxiety.
2.) I am too introverted. It is far easier for me to sit at home and catch up on Sons Of Anarchy than go out and chase girls.
3.) I have negative beliefs lingering in my brain, a lot of it is being too damn self conscious.
4.) I don’t escalate.
5.) I still struggle with believing I can get the girl, even when she is all over me.
I can see that my lack of success in the past is affecting my present.
As time goes on (I’m 31) I am starting to feel that pain of regret, something that comes naturally with aging. I see now that the world is no longer my oyster (or at least I don’t have that feeling). I want to get a move on in dealing with this issue, once and for all.
My plan is to start going out, minimum, two nights a week, and once during the day. Being that I live in a college town, or at least an area where there is a large campus, there quite a few spots where young women frequent-from local bars to Walmart. I am guaranteed to see a hot chick when I go to Publix, Walmart, hell, Dunkin Fucking Doughnuts has cute chicks here. Tailgating on Saturdays brings tons of young hotties out. I think Orlando has a lot of potential for a up and coming player looking to do damage.
The mental roadblocks are a pain though. I feel like I’m stuck in a cage with a lion when I see a girl I want to approach or when it is time to kiss. At times I push through it, but it does fuck up some for sure bangs.
Also, as much as I “don’t give a fuck.” I get annoyed every time I tell a coworker that I’m hitting a bar to swoop some college chicks and he/she says that I’m too old to be dating young girls. One coworker, in his 40s, really made an issue of it “What do you have to say to an eighteen year old?” And called me a pervert. *sigh* I should have known better. The guy has three daughters.
But again, inner game. My belief is that there are plenty of young women who would LOVE to be with me. Let the losers worry about losing. I’m going forward with what I want out of life.
Shout out to El Mechanico, Giovinny, Moma, OGNORTHCAL, iknowexactly, oldnemesis (r.i.p), and all the other players that helped me get to this point. I finally (finally), feel ready to tackle this endeavor once and for all.
I’m going out tonight to see what damage I can do. I’ll will be posting my journey here.