[OnlyMarryInTajikistan]

The best advice I could give is to focus on girls who are disabled themselves, which you have said you wouldn't mind doing. Surely there are places where you can find them en masse, maybe an association of sorts. Find these places and hit up as many as you can, create leads. You can do it through cold approach (I would recommend this a supplement), but your focus should be on social circle game. Remember that it is still your responsibility to create the attraction, ask the girl out and escalate, social-circle game doesn't eliminate the typical game model.

There are plenty of girls in a similar situation to yours that would like a companion. As long as you get rid of self-esteem / inner game issues, and you work on creating an attractive personality, there are plenty of girls that are hoping for a man in the same way you are hoping for a girl.

You must accept that your disability will be a huge crutch with girls who are not disabled. It would still be possible, but would require a great deal of luck that you cannot rely on. Females are fairly cruel and darwinistic, this is just part of their nature, so I wouldn't get upset by these comments you have received. As players, we have received far worse, in terms of cruelty from women I am surprised by nothing.
You can try to shoot for girls who are not disabled, and if you approach enough you will succeed. But you will be rejected enough times for you to hate the female gender, you want to make your rates as high as possible. As long as you accept what your prime demographic is, I think you can do well, live a satisfying life and even have a girl love you, if that is what you want.

[divergentseries]

(09-26-2014 07:10 PM)OnlyMarryInTajikistan Wrote:  

The best advice I could give is to focus on girls who are disabled themselves, which you have said you wouldn't mind doing. Surely there are places where you can find them en masse, maybe an association of sorts. Find these places and hit up as many as you can, create leads. You can do it through cold approach (I would recommend this a supplement), but your focus should be on social circle game. Remember that it is still your responsibility to create the attraction, ask the girl out and escalate, social-circle game doesn't eliminate the typical game model.

There are plenty of girls in a similar situation to yours that would like a companion. As long as you get rid of self-esteem / inner game issues, and you work on creating an attractive personality, there are plenty of girls that are hoping for a man in the same way you are hoping for a girl.

You must accept that your disability will be a huge crutch with girls who are not disabled. It would still be possible, but would require a great deal of luck that you cannot rely on. Females are fairly cruel and darwinistic, this is just part of their nature, so I wouldn't get upset by these comments you have received. As players, we have received far worse, in terms of cruelty from women I am surprised by nothing.
You can try to shoot for girls who are not disabled, and if you approach enough you will succeed. But you will be rejected enough times for you to hate the female gender, you want to make your rates as high as possible. As long as you accept what your prime demographic is, I think you can do well, live a satisfying life and even have a girl love you, if that is what you want.

Thanks, man, for giving it to me straight; this is what I needed to hear. To clarify: unlike most men (at least that's what I assume), I don't think a mild disability (such as being in a non-electric wheelchair or having only one arm) detracts that much from a woman's overall attractivity. So I'd gladly pick a woman who would, to most men, be a 6 or a 7 if she weren't in a wheelchair over a 4 without disabilities.



Question to other readers: how much of a dealbreaker exactly would a lady's (mild) disability be to you? Does it make for like 2 points difference, or more, or less? As an example, see this nice-looking woman (a solid 8 to me, with or without chair).

[jariel]

I have dated several girls with disabilities, will have to put up a sheet in the future.

Kind of feel like Missy and Timbaland in the early 2000s right now, so I'm going to slow down and spread out the information.