[robreke]

Love letters have a deep and long history. our grandparents and ancestors probably wrote many love letters to their beloveds throughout time immemorial.

That being said, a love letter is in itself beta and/or white knight. I know indifference/dominance/ letting the girl chase and alpha male attributes have been proven to work best. I'm more talking about a girl you may have seen/banged for a while to show her your memories of your time together.

Would like to hear some stories about anyone who has written one to a girl and how it turned out ( worked/ or utter failure/ turnoff)

[polymath]

Yes, I have written a few. I don't recommend it. My thoughts:

The only way she will respond positively to such a letter is if you have every other aspect of your masculinity down perfect, such that the loser-ness of writing a letter is outweighed by her attraction to you from other areas. Generally, however, it's a way of showing a girl that she has you in her pocket. That's just not sexy.

There are certainly girls who like this sort of thing, but it's still a little weird unless you're in a relationship.

[Old Fritz]

In the 6th grade I wrote a letter to a girl I had a crush on. She ripped it up into pieces and threw it in my face.

Never did that again

[robreke]

(09-14-2014 05:45 PM)Old Fritz Wrote:  

In the 6th grade I wrote a letter to a girl I had a crush on. She ripped it up into pieces and threw it in my face.

Never did that again

I'm referring to women that have at least a 55% or 60% "like" rating of you or better. Such as a fuck buddy who still likes you. An ex who you're in good communication with and returns all your calls / texts or a girl you've been seeing a while who you know "likes" you.

[Old Fritz]

(09-14-2014 05:50 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(09-14-2014 05:45 PM)Old Fritz Wrote:  

In the 6th grade I wrote a letter to a girl I had a crush on. She ripped it up into pieces and threw it in my face.

Never did that again

I'm referring to women that have at least a 55% or 60% "like" rating of you or better. Such as a fuck buddy who still likes you. An ex who you're in good communication with and returns all your calls / texts or a girl you've been seeing a while who you know "likes" you.

Oh nope. Fuck buddies were just fuck buddies and I don't speak to any of my exes.

[Bacchus]

No.

Remember that anything that you write will be shown to her friends and held against you in the future. If you must express your feelings, tell her in person (presumably after she has already done so). Face to face conversation is also a form of communication that is fading away.

[JoyStick]

There's no point, unless you're locked up.

[polymath]

(09-14-2014 11:22 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

There's no point, unless you're locked up.

[SydneyD]

nope

i hope you're not considering doing this though.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

If your attraction is in order and your relations are at their peak, a love letter will only spark and prolong the fire further. It's basically a small dose of vulnerability game. It doesn't even need to be especially Beta-ish.

Don't talk about how much you need her, talk about how much you are concerned about hurting her - it will get the hamster spinning at warp speed.

If you're having problems, it goes without saying that love letters are a bad idea that will sabotage you by displaying your weakness.

[Dalaran1991]

Love letter (shit I cringe at writing those) is one of the funny thing: those who want to do it probably should not do it at all, and those who should do it or would gain benefits from it never actually do it.

The thing about love letter is that, its emotion on a piece of paper. Its fragile, vulnerable and obvious. Dangerous combination. There will be very very few women in your life who deserve that privilege.

Even then, would you consider the emotional reaction upon receiving a love letter? Sorry to say but the time of Hamlet is passed. Most girls are so emotionally confused and disconnected today, if you bring them flowers they would get confused, much less a letter. Also consider the fact that she will be sharing it with all of her harem girlfriends.

The fact of writing the damn thing itself will also make you more emotionally invested in her.

Maybe if you have deep converted her, maybe. Else just dont.

[Texas_Tryhard]

She WILL share it with her friends. You'll look like a jackass. Girls of this generation are not the women of old. Fifty Shades of Grey is their Sonnet 18 and Stephenie Meyer is their Geoffrey Chaucer. They are not deserving of your prose, which is much better communicated through sex and action anyway.

Save your writing hand for your future wife, if there ever is one, but do not waste it on some harlot.

[brianmark]

(09-14-2014 12:43 PM)robreke Wrote:  

Love letters have a deep and long history. our grandparents and ancestors probably wrote many love letters to their beloveds throughout time immemorial.

That being said, a love letter is in itself beta and/or white knight. I know indifference/dominance/ letting the girl chase and alpha male attributes have been proven to work best. I'm more talking about a girl you may have seen/banged for a while to show her your memories of your time together.

Would like to hear some stories about anyone who has written one to a girl and how it turned out ( worked/ or utter failure/ turnoff)

Great idea 30 years ago. I don't think a girl of today can concentrate long enough to read anything longer than a text message. Keep short, sweet, and stupid!

[Redasfuck]

I cringe at all the cheeze I thought melted her gooey little heart. (while she was getting throat-gagged by a carny) She had piles of letters all in a box and I thought she loved the adoration so I piled it on thick. I got so good at writing shitty love letters that other men with even less game with me would pay me in beer to write theirs. The main topic of 90% of them? How to win her back. Not one of us ever mustered enough feelings/emotions (it was the 90's) to give them those tingles that greasy indifferent carny could.

[Comte De St. Germain]

Write a love letter in this day and become the laughing stock of her group of friends and anyone who heard of it. Sorry but I'm not committing social seppuku and I don't think anyone in this age would either.

[HawkWrites]

Never have and it's beta to the max to do so. You're pouring all your feelings onto a piece of paper and thereby leaving a trail of proof for all your messed-up feelings for a chick that most likely doesn't reciprocate those beliefs.

Every story I've heard of one of the females I know receiving one has been met with constant laughter from both her and myself. No good can come of it unless you're already in a deeply committed relationship (but in that case, why wouldn't you just say it face-to-face).

[Hardy Daytona]

I just saw this thread title and it brought back a memory I thought I'd repressed years ago.
Several years ago before getting out of college I gave a love letter to a girl. It was hand-written in my best cursive, laced with poetic reference and scented with aftershave.
I'm getting sick just thinking about it.
She passed it around to her girlfriends before putting me in the friendzone.
That was an important lesson I learned the hard way.
Never again.