Quote: (03-17-2011 06:19 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2011 10:52 PM)Samseau Wrote:
I disagree with the beta assessment. I think what he's doing is alpha. The reasons:
1. Cheating on your girl is a serious blow to her ego, and she will feel like shit in comparison to you.
2. Cheating on your girl will most likely make her want you more, if she already wanted you in the first place.
3. A little bit of groveling will assuage her ego enough to at least talk to you.
But how does it fit into the "Apparently the stunt worked, because he was allowed back in — albeit to sleep on the couch."?
Actually this is something I always wanted to ask about: I hear it a lot that some girls here in US "show guys the door" or "she was not letting me in". Could someone explain the situation behind it, are those all guys live in their girlfriends' apartments? Because if this was my apartment, no girl would ever tell me where I should sleep in my apartment, not to mention the "allowed back in" crap. What is the logic there?
Okay, if he was kicked out of his own apartment, then I take back everything I said.
It seemed to me that she kicked him out because she has ownership of it. I assumed because he is a comedian, he lacks money, and does not own the apartment.
Quote: (03-17-2011 07:33 AM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2011 10:52 PM)Samseau Wrote:
I disagree with the beta assessment. I think what he's doing is alpha. The reasons:
1. Cheating on your girl is a serious blow to her ego, and she will feel like shit in comparison to you.
2. Cheating on your girl will most likely make her want you more, if she already wanted you in the first place.
3. A little bit of groveling will assuage her ego enough to at least talk to you.
I can't see how any of these points would warrant these actions being considered "alpha" at all. The first two seem especially off-base: sure, cheating can make a girl want you more and it can hurt her ego, but this does not mean that cheating makes you more alpha. By that logic, any beta chump who finally finds a girlfriend and subsequently steps out on her can be considered to have upped his alpha cred, and I don't see that.
As for the 3rd point, groveling is beta. You are prostrating yourself for the sake of ONE woman's ego. This does not sound like a particularly "alpha" mindset.
First of all, I use a slightly modified definition of Roissy's definition of Alpha: that which is attractive to women.
Now, did his girlfriend take him back? Check. Why would she take him back? Either 1. He had something ($$$) to offer, or 2. she loved him.
He's just a 26-yr old no-name comedian, so I can't see him having much money unless he's inherited it.
So she must love him, and his ploy to get her back worked. Who cares if it was a little humiliating? Only results count, everything else is bullshit. Clearly, it was not a case of using money, coercion, or anything else except game that won her back, so the action in question must be alpha.
Furthermore, he couldn't cheat on her if he wasn't attracting more girls, which means he's alpha to other girls which means he's acting alpha.
Also, without knowing how attractive the girls are, it's very difficult to judge how alpha he is so we can't really infer too much.
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This man in the article also seems to have a very alpha composure within the photos, he clearly doesn't give much of a shit what others think of him, and the last sentence of the article, "'I think slowly she's coming round. Hopefully it won't take many more drastic measures like this.'" sounds more like confidence rather than beta guilt.
He is embarrassing himself for the sake of one woman's ego. That he is going through with this at all is a sign of his guilt at having done what he did. I don't see why he'd go through all of this trouble(he admits these measures are "drastic") if he had no regret for cheating on her.
As for your bit about his showing confidence? Plenty of betas show similar confidence when they approach their love interests with offers of flowers, gifts, and romantic dates. Plenty of betas are very confident in their supplication and certain that doing everything she wants and expressing clearly their undying love will win their woman's heart.
Plenty of betas fail miserably in this regard, and we do not mistake them for alphas. The "confidence" shown by this dude here is no different.
It doesn't matter if he embarrasses himself, what matters is if he
feels embarrassed.
Plenty of game detractors would say that by approaching hundreds of women I embarrasses myself, but I don't feel embarrassed at all. Approaching girls gets me laid and that means I'm acting alpha, which is what counts. This guy doesn't seem to give a fuck about what others think of him, and it shows. He knew he needed to seriously grovel in order to heal her wounded ego. You or I may not agree with his methods, but given the results of his actions, they cannot be called beta.
He even gets fame out of this shit, because now he's on the news. That will probably help his stand-up routine considerably. Since when do beta actions make you famous?
As to whether or not he felt regret for cheating - I'm sure he did, but it's not beta guilt as in "Oh, I've fucked it up forever and there's nothing more I can do oh woe is me" type of beta guilt. It's the alpha guilt of "dammit, I've fucked up and now there's damage control to be done."
He's gaming her, and his actions are more or less appropriate to the situation. Indeed, it's pretty creative.
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Even Roissy has a post where he says, after cheating on your girlfriend, to tell her "I know how you feel and you've never looked more beautiful to me than now."
That advice does not suggest the grovelling and supplication this guy is showing. If you honestly believe that Roissy would come anywhere close to condoning this type of thing, then I have some oceanfront property in Atlanta to sell you.
The point is not that Roissy would recommend this course of action. I don't recommend it either. The point is he needed to grovel some and even Roissy would agree. The comedian tried a risky gambit that could have been interpreted in many ways, alpha or beta, but the girl took him back so it worked in his favor as alpha.
There are no clear cut lines to decide if something is alpha or beta. It is always contextual. For all we know, the girl he was dating was a massive bitch who could only be calmed down with a massive act of groveling. Why any man would want to date such a creature is beyond me, but hey, he must really like the girl. Regardless, we don't know what the girl he's dating is like, nor do we know the man too well either, so benefit of the doubt must be given to the man that he's doing an action appropriate to her personality. Mystery would call this
calibration.
Quote: (03-17-2011 11:10 AM)Gmac Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2011 10:52 PM)Samseau Wrote:
I disagree with the beta assessment. I think what he's doing is alpha. The reasons:
Pedestal = Beta
Thread over.
I see no pedestalization here. Pedestalizing men don't cheat.
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