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Best way to motivate myself to approach when daygaming alone?
08-06-2014, 05:36 PM
My situation is such that I have a lot of free time in the weekdays now, which I'd like to spend doing daygame.
My nightgame wings don't have this same freedom, so it looks like I'll have to go at it alone.
What can I do to push myself into approaching?
I am afraid that I might just waste my days aimlessly wandering around as a nervous wreck. :[
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08-06-2014, 05:38 PM
I started small. Just go up to each hot girl and ask for directions. Do it so many times that you get bored, and youll want to do more.
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08-06-2014, 05:55 PM
It comes with practice, the more you go out solo, the easier it becomes. Don't expect to go out once or a couple of times and expect it to all fall in place.
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08-06-2014, 06:20 PM
It's not as bad as you think.
What you're nervous about is getting out there. I get the same way but once I'm ACTUALLY out there, in the middle of hot chicks, it's not that bad.
I agree with the directions bit. And also, remember that once you have opened a chick, the next thing you say should be significantly easier to drop out of your mouth.
That can be "by the way, I like the xxx you're wearing.. I was shopping for my sisters birthday blah blah blah" or "let me guess his name (the dog she's walking with)."
"Let me guess" has worked well for me. It's flirtatious and engages them sometimes even more than "by the way."
Also dress well and walk like you're the boss (eg posture). I've improved posture quite a bit recently (chest up, stand straight, look people on the eye consciously as much as possible). This has helped a lot as I think it gets one more noticed amongst guys that don't do that.
As I'm writing this, I'm actually surprised as I consider myself a beginner. But I've learned a lot in very little time thanks to the older and younger players here. So I promise this is all from recent on the pavement true newbie experience.
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08-06-2014, 07:22 PM
Great advice in the thread so far. Work on the small wins, then build your way up:
Smiling at girls and holding eye contact until they look away --> Saying "Hi" --> Following up the greeting with a compliment or observation --> Engaging a girl in a 2-10 minute conversation --> Having a conversation and closing by getting her number --> Insta-date --> SDL
You'll likely need to approach at least 5-10 girls at each stage before becoming comfortable enough to move on to the rest. But once you've mastered a stage, consider it a success-don't hold back on giving yourself credit until after you've day banged a girl. Every step counts.
Also, the usual physiological advice: lift big, sleep well, don't masturbate.
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08-07-2014, 05:30 AM
Walking down the street with 'swag' I think you americans call it
Girl gives you an IOI, cheeky smirk on your face and just say 'Hey', you'll get a smile or hey back. That's your warmup.
Next one you can actually do the same with, stop and talk to her about whatever the fuck you want
3rd one, stop, talk to her and hit on her indirectly
4th one, stop, talk to her and hit on her directly
It'll just make it fun, get rid of any approach anxiety you have as you envelope yourself in each interaction.
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08-08-2014, 12:02 AM
Start off by hitting on service industry employees. They are almost always nice to you since it is their job even though they may not even be interested at all. This is what I like to do and it is a good way to get your juices flowing.
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08-08-2014, 01:02 PM
This might be a shocker but I actually use SEX to motivate myself
It's important for me at least to maintain the link between what I'm doing and why I'm doing it
Sometimes before I go into a venue I'll watch a couple of minutes of porn on my phone (in my vehicle) to refresh those images in my mind
If I see a girl I might want to approach, I imagine what her face will look like with my cock in her mouth or how her ass will look up in the air as I'm doggie styling her
Also, stop fapping- the slightly uncomfortable sensation of full balls is motivating
"If anything's gonna happen, it's gonna happen out there!- Captain Ron
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08-08-2014, 02:05 PM
Do not masturbate.
Do not night game.
Only orgasm if it's with a girl you met from day game.
Do not break these rules!