Quote: (07-26-2014 09:25 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:
For the guys here in long term monogamous relationships ...how often do you communicate with your girl?
How many texts, calls per day? How many times per week do you see her? How often do you "go out" for dinner or drinks?
What's the longest you've gone without her calling or texting you? Or you calling or texting her?
I've been dating a girl since last November. Very religious, conservative type; she prefers face-to-face or telephone interactions to text/social media.
For our first several dates, I limited contact strictly to logistical texting. We'd go out once a week, and I'd text her a day or two in advance to set it up, with no other contact in between. Since we've been dating, this is the longest we've gone without contacting each other.
After about two months of dating, we settled into a good habit of seeing each other roughly twice a week; we'd cook dinner and have a bottle of wine at my place mid-week, and then go out either Friday or Saturday for drinks downtown. She'd end up spending the night each time, but she'd leave early the next morning for class (she's in grad school) or I'd kick her out after breakfast on the weekends so I could hit the gym or run errands.
Even after a few months of dating like that, we'd rarely text (outside of logistics), although I attribute that mostly to our joint dislike of attempting to have extended conversations through text. From time to time I'd have to travel for work, and she would usually call me after dinner to chat for 30 min or so (not a problem because she's a smart girl and I actually enjoy our conversations).
Fortunately, my work and her school schedule kept us from seeing each other too much, and the two or three times per week type deal (with little-to-no contact between dates) was great. This is the model I'll attempt to recreate in future relationships. It's a good balance between enough sex to keep me satiated, and enough distance to where I maintain my own life/habits/goals and don't find myself spending an inordinate amount of time or money on a girl.