I would like to hear opinions on this kind of common cases, I will put my experience of the last month just as an example (situations may vary off course):
Three times in the past month I have approached a nice girl in a Latin country while on a short bus ride (40 mins or so) this after receiving some IOI's ... I've approached indirectly and ended up sitting by her side, nice conversation, light touching, making her laugh a lot, casually holding her hand and day game as usual (note they are said to be single) ... When I think there is enough rapport established I tell her we exchange phone numbers to keep in touch and she replies that she will take my number and she will call [insert lame excuse here], I ask a couple more times and she doesn't comply. So that is basically the scenario.
What have I done? ... Well, gave her my number and hope she will call when she says she will. What has happened? ... None of them ever called. Enough of that.
So this is how I am handling it now:
After she ask for my number w/o wanting to give me hers I tell her that we have two options:
1- We both exchange numbers and give us the opportunity to get to know us better
2- None of us will give away the number and that opportunity will be missed.
So I ask her what she want's to do, 1 or 2?
Regardless the answer I will say in playful way ... ok there is a 3rd option ... why don't you come with me now to my area, we can have a slice of pizza, ice cream, beer etc (to try to get her to my place obviously) and we have a nice time and talk some more.
If she insists to only get my number to call me then I would ditch... I just say "well I think I'am going back to my window seat it was nice meeting you", put the earphones on or whatever.
My take by doing so is that there is a reason why she doesn't give out the number (even if she is showing all indicators that she is attracted to me), therefore I think there is 95% of chance she won't call if I give her mine ... I rather not give it to her and take the other 5% percent on dignity, coolness and self esteem by cutting the interaction cold (in a nice no big deal way)... It really feels so much better and portrays the right message of a no BS kind of guy !
I will just hit to another girl when I see a chance and that's it...
I would like to hear other points of view about handling these specific cases of the infamous "I will be the one to call you BS" on her end ....
Three times in the past month I have approached a nice girl in a Latin country while on a short bus ride (40 mins or so) this after receiving some IOI's ... I've approached indirectly and ended up sitting by her side, nice conversation, light touching, making her laugh a lot, casually holding her hand and day game as usual (note they are said to be single) ... When I think there is enough rapport established I tell her we exchange phone numbers to keep in touch and she replies that she will take my number and she will call [insert lame excuse here], I ask a couple more times and she doesn't comply. So that is basically the scenario.
What have I done? ... Well, gave her my number and hope she will call when she says she will. What has happened? ... None of them ever called. Enough of that.
So this is how I am handling it now:
After she ask for my number w/o wanting to give me hers I tell her that we have two options:
1- We both exchange numbers and give us the opportunity to get to know us better
2- None of us will give away the number and that opportunity will be missed.
So I ask her what she want's to do, 1 or 2?
Regardless the answer I will say in playful way ... ok there is a 3rd option ... why don't you come with me now to my area, we can have a slice of pizza, ice cream, beer etc (to try to get her to my place obviously) and we have a nice time and talk some more.
If she insists to only get my number to call me then I would ditch... I just say "well I think I'am going back to my window seat it was nice meeting you", put the earphones on or whatever.
My take by doing so is that there is a reason why she doesn't give out the number (even if she is showing all indicators that she is attracted to me), therefore I think there is 95% of chance she won't call if I give her mine ... I rather not give it to her and take the other 5% percent on dignity, coolness and self esteem by cutting the interaction cold (in a nice no big deal way)... It really feels so much better and portrays the right message of a no BS kind of guy !
I will just hit to another girl when I see a chance and that's it...
I would like to hear other points of view about handling these specific cases of the infamous "I will be the one to call you BS" on her end ....