Things Men Should Never Look For In Women: Add Yours
06-18-2014, 11:23 PM
Never expect a woman to recognize and/or reward you for your intelligence.
I wrote about thisa while back, and it's a subtle but important difference related to what guys have already said in the thread about not expecting intellectual stimulation from women:
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-26419-...#pid501398
Many men who grasp that they won't be able to find a women who's interested in the same intellectual pursuits as them, still fall victim to thinking that women will validate their intelligence.
Even worse, they rely on this as a point of pride and and their ego tells them it makes them better dating material.
Many of the women who say things like "I want a guy who's smart" in actuality mean 1 of 2 things:
1) They want a guy who's intelligence (or appearance of it) has resulted in prestige so they can status whore him around and use it to improve their own standing.
Dude is in a STEM field diligently working away on complex problems for years?
That's not something they can easily throw out at the gossip fests with the girlfriends, but if she said her man went to an IVY league school, speaks multiple languages, or appeared on TV, now she's beaming.
Even book publishing, they could care less about the material, or thought that went into it.
Hell, writing a cheesy self help book might make you look even more intelligent than the serious scholars, since you connected with her emotions:
2) They want a guy who just "gets it" and has a solution to her problems immediately, or tells her what she wants to hear.
This is why "smart" to her is more often an alpha with a bit of worldly knowledge, rather than someone who's knowledge may be extraordinary in traditional male areas, but she can't relate to.
Note: I'm not making a value judgement on types of intelligence, it's important to be well rounded, just calling it how women act on it.
Ties in to what others have said about girls saying they like "geeks" and imagining Ryan Gosling wearing glasses, rather than the emasculated weaklings from Big Bang Theory.