I used to think that maintaining a strong frame with girls and not taking shit from them would never have you getting laid less - that there was no downside to conducting yourself with dignity. That you'd filter out the disrespectful chicks quickly, at no cost to your overall sex life.
I was wrong. Increasingly, my 'inability' to accept disrespect from women is leading to fewer bangs. And I don't think my tolerance has changed really, so much as shitty behavior has gotten more prevalent. I've talked to a couple guys I respect, and they've encountered something similar. Without this turning into another "American women suck" thread, I'm wondering - have *you* encountered this? How have you dealt with it?
Me, I'm not going to take any more shit from girls than I do now. I'm just wondering how other men in my situation have responded, and what I can do to alleviate the situation, or just come to terms with it. It's good to get some perspective on things. Also, I think 'warm approaching' girls through social scenes and such can allay this somewhat, but I rarely meet girls that way.
A couple common examples:
I was wrong. Increasingly, my 'inability' to accept disrespect from women is leading to fewer bangs. And I don't think my tolerance has changed really, so much as shitty behavior has gotten more prevalent. I've talked to a couple guys I respect, and they've encountered something similar. Without this turning into another "American women suck" thread, I'm wondering - have *you* encountered this? How have you dealt with it?
Me, I'm not going to take any more shit from girls than I do now. I'm just wondering how other men in my situation have responded, and what I can do to alleviate the situation, or just come to terms with it. It's good to get some perspective on things. Also, I think 'warm approaching' girls through social scenes and such can allay this somewhat, but I rarely meet girls that way.
A couple common examples:
- 1. Flaking: A girl flakes on you but still is interested in meeting up. I'll typically demand some sort of concession for this, eg her taking me out somewhere, treating me to something, etc.
2. Crude yet oversensitive: A girl gets mad at you for something you said, when she has said or done far worse to you. Especially common over text.
- 1. Solipsism - Girls are so absorbed with themselves they don't really conceive of how doing what they want may constitute disrespect towards others.
2. The Need To Emasculate Men - If you flatly mention that she was disrespectful, she will translate this into chick-speak of "you hurt my feelings" and thus now you are a little bitch worthy of her derision.
3. She is royalty: She's used to treating men like this without issue, but she isn't used to getting a taste of her own medicine. When you call her out, it may be the first and last time in her life that she gets raked over the coals. And you are definitely an asshole because you called her out and no one else has.