Ok, this is an account of my experience in the last few years and especially in the last few months. I'm materializing it for the first time so it might be a bit chaotic, but I hope you'll find it useful. Of there's some other post with the same concepts, apologies. I tried to search for it but couldn't find it, but it was even hard to know how to title this thread so it might be under a completely different name.
I will start with a full disclosure. I'm Mexican and have been living in Barcelona for the last 7 years. I wrote two PU books (in Spanish) and used to have a 6000 strong forum (in Mexico. The forum still stands, but some other people are running it now). Hence, I have game and some social skills. I'm also 37, but look way younger (girls never guess my age right and I do nothing to convince them otherwise as I'm not really focused on a LTR atm). I work out and have a pretty good fashion sense.
But... I was in a relationship for 4 years, first long distance (3 years, in which I didn't care too much) and then she moved in with me and it became really serious. We finished it last summer and I found myself without any friends to go out with. Not depressed or anything, just without friends as almost all of them were married or had kids.
So, I figured I had to start from scratch, and this time I wanted to do it right. For years, I had been going out to different clubs in Barcelona but there was one that always found better, a big fancy place, were all the hotter girls were. However, none of my friends really liked it, essentially because the girls' average age is pretty low 18-21 because the music is too commercial and mostly because didn't really felt confident picking up there. So, I ended up not going there at all, but now that I had to start from scratch I understood that was the place where I wanted to be.
But I had to rebuild my social circle, so I started to go to parties with the sole intention of meeting people, not so much picking up girls. I have to say I was really lucky, in a CouchSurfing party I met this other Mexican guy, 24 years old, who loved to party as much as I did and a very talented natural, so we hit it off immediately and started going out to Opium to try our luck.
We did pretty well in those first few months. We picked up a few hot girls, and essentially had a lot of fun. But we quickly discovered that we had a big problem that kept on repeating again and again. Sometimes, when we were gaming the hottest girls in the place, some chump will go to their group and said "hey! do you want to go to the vip area?" and, like that... they were gone. That was frustrating as shit, and we obviously understood that something had to be done. But we didn't want to pay for those tables, they were at least 500 euro a night, and there obviously had to be another way. We let that linger on for the last months of the years, but by the start of 2014 I understood something had to be done.
I'm a very analytical person, who loves science and trying to understand phenomena, so I devised a strategy to maximize our chances in the club, based on things I'd read in the past (PU and not PU) and some others that I'd sense. Obviously, I was very lucky, but as everything in life, when luck and effort go hand in hand, results are going to be made.
The first thing was to make a name for ourselves at the club. We had to know everyone there, from the bouncers to the bartenders, and that exactly what we did. We started to go every day, which in winter in Barcelona means being the only ones in the clubs with the staff, but that's exactly what we wanted. Everytime we got in, we said hi to the bouncers and asked for their names, then we made sure to go out and chat a little with them. They were actually really cool guys, who enjoyed the company. Then we did the same with the bartenders, really hot girls who also enjoyed chatting with guys who weren't drunk and trying to pick them up. And then the wardrobe ladies, and then the go-go dancers (I even ended up briefly dating one of them). The purpose was to make ourselves known and make ourselves a reputation of being cool guys, but also to actually meet this people who shared the same passion for the night that we had. We actually formed bonds with them, and knew about their lives.
In the space of a month we didn't need to pay cover to enter the club anymore, then we didn't have make the cue outside, then we could bring all the friends we wanted with us, and especially, all the girls we wanted with us. Club staff and owners love guys who can bring hot girls in, so that's what we did. It wasn't unusual that we found a group of hot girls on the very long cue outside the club and asked them if they wanted to get in quickly and for free, they always said yes and we essentially had them once inside.
Then, the second part of the issue started. We were very well known, but the whole vip stuff was still missing. Again, luck was on our side, but I'm pretty sure this can be replicated with some adjustments.
There was this new cool bar, very close to the club. The first time we came, it was full of hot girls, unbelievable. So we decided that we would make that place our pre-game spot. And, again, we started going there on slow nights, talking to the bartenders and the managers, until we met one of the owners, an extremely cool guy with whom we clicked immediately. Later on, we discovered that he was one the resident dj's of the club we liked, and also one of the owners of one of the biggest party organising companies in town.
We started to hang out with him and his friends, and we met all sorts of fantastic people. We also did something very important, bring lots of people to their bar. In these few months in which I was single, I managed to meet lots of new people and always brought them to the bar, my wingman is a ridiculously sociable person so he brought some more. There were nights in which 50% of the people at the bar were people we brought!
Then we started to hang out with these people outside the bar. We went to Ibiza together and really bonded. We all rented a villa together and had a blast. You know, all these people that, when you look at them from the outside seem snobby and unreachable, are actually awesome when you meet them.
Since then, the vip issue was solved, they organise the parties at the club two days of the week, and we are now part of their circle. We are actually more or less free to bring as many hot girls we want to the vip area and we get introduced to tons of girls every night. On days they don't organise the parties, we can get tables at a big discount. We have even started a company and will work with them bringing large groups of tourists to their parties and to other awesome things in Barcelona and Ibiza (if you have some contacts in your countries and want to participate, PM me!).
Every night we are with different girls, either because we know them during the day and ask them if they want to come to our parties with us (the club is the biggest and best known in Barcelona so they mostly say yes), or inside the club, where we have now become the "chumps" that take girls out of guys hands by asking them if they want to go to the vip area with us. Add this to the fact that we are good looking, well dressed guys and the recipe is served. We are now bringing hot girls to our places for after-parties almost on a two times a week basis (almost I'm not banging as many as I'd like to, partly because of epical bad luck and partly I guess for game issues, might make a post of it). And if we fail, we know that the next night is going to be a fresh start.
Essentially, at 37 I'm living a life I never dreamt of living, and it's just started. I passed from not having friends to go out with, to hang out with the coolest possible people in the span of one year. Who would have thought.
As I said, it's quite possible to replicate this if you have the right mindset and are willing to give value to people, either by being an open, friendly, generous person and by providing them with things they are interested on. It's just a question of be willing of leaving your comfort zone and try it.
I will stop because this is already too long, but if you have questions, I will be glad to answer them all.
I will start with a full disclosure. I'm Mexican and have been living in Barcelona for the last 7 years. I wrote two PU books (in Spanish) and used to have a 6000 strong forum (in Mexico. The forum still stands, but some other people are running it now). Hence, I have game and some social skills. I'm also 37, but look way younger (girls never guess my age right and I do nothing to convince them otherwise as I'm not really focused on a LTR atm). I work out and have a pretty good fashion sense.
But... I was in a relationship for 4 years, first long distance (3 years, in which I didn't care too much) and then she moved in with me and it became really serious. We finished it last summer and I found myself without any friends to go out with. Not depressed or anything, just without friends as almost all of them were married or had kids.
So, I figured I had to start from scratch, and this time I wanted to do it right. For years, I had been going out to different clubs in Barcelona but there was one that always found better, a big fancy place, were all the hotter girls were. However, none of my friends really liked it, essentially because the girls' average age is pretty low 18-21 because the music is too commercial and mostly because didn't really felt confident picking up there. So, I ended up not going there at all, but now that I had to start from scratch I understood that was the place where I wanted to be.
But I had to rebuild my social circle, so I started to go to parties with the sole intention of meeting people, not so much picking up girls. I have to say I was really lucky, in a CouchSurfing party I met this other Mexican guy, 24 years old, who loved to party as much as I did and a very talented natural, so we hit it off immediately and started going out to Opium to try our luck.
We did pretty well in those first few months. We picked up a few hot girls, and essentially had a lot of fun. But we quickly discovered that we had a big problem that kept on repeating again and again. Sometimes, when we were gaming the hottest girls in the place, some chump will go to their group and said "hey! do you want to go to the vip area?" and, like that... they were gone. That was frustrating as shit, and we obviously understood that something had to be done. But we didn't want to pay for those tables, they were at least 500 euro a night, and there obviously had to be another way. We let that linger on for the last months of the years, but by the start of 2014 I understood something had to be done.
I'm a very analytical person, who loves science and trying to understand phenomena, so I devised a strategy to maximize our chances in the club, based on things I'd read in the past (PU and not PU) and some others that I'd sense. Obviously, I was very lucky, but as everything in life, when luck and effort go hand in hand, results are going to be made.
The first thing was to make a name for ourselves at the club. We had to know everyone there, from the bouncers to the bartenders, and that exactly what we did. We started to go every day, which in winter in Barcelona means being the only ones in the clubs with the staff, but that's exactly what we wanted. Everytime we got in, we said hi to the bouncers and asked for their names, then we made sure to go out and chat a little with them. They were actually really cool guys, who enjoyed the company. Then we did the same with the bartenders, really hot girls who also enjoyed chatting with guys who weren't drunk and trying to pick them up. And then the wardrobe ladies, and then the go-go dancers (I even ended up briefly dating one of them). The purpose was to make ourselves known and make ourselves a reputation of being cool guys, but also to actually meet this people who shared the same passion for the night that we had. We actually formed bonds with them, and knew about their lives.
In the space of a month we didn't need to pay cover to enter the club anymore, then we didn't have make the cue outside, then we could bring all the friends we wanted with us, and especially, all the girls we wanted with us. Club staff and owners love guys who can bring hot girls in, so that's what we did. It wasn't unusual that we found a group of hot girls on the very long cue outside the club and asked them if they wanted to get in quickly and for free, they always said yes and we essentially had them once inside.
Then, the second part of the issue started. We were very well known, but the whole vip stuff was still missing. Again, luck was on our side, but I'm pretty sure this can be replicated with some adjustments.
There was this new cool bar, very close to the club. The first time we came, it was full of hot girls, unbelievable. So we decided that we would make that place our pre-game spot. And, again, we started going there on slow nights, talking to the bartenders and the managers, until we met one of the owners, an extremely cool guy with whom we clicked immediately. Later on, we discovered that he was one the resident dj's of the club we liked, and also one of the owners of one of the biggest party organising companies in town.
We started to hang out with him and his friends, and we met all sorts of fantastic people. We also did something very important, bring lots of people to their bar. In these few months in which I was single, I managed to meet lots of new people and always brought them to the bar, my wingman is a ridiculously sociable person so he brought some more. There were nights in which 50% of the people at the bar were people we brought!
Then we started to hang out with these people outside the bar. We went to Ibiza together and really bonded. We all rented a villa together and had a blast. You know, all these people that, when you look at them from the outside seem snobby and unreachable, are actually awesome when you meet them.
Since then, the vip issue was solved, they organise the parties at the club two days of the week, and we are now part of their circle. We are actually more or less free to bring as many hot girls we want to the vip area and we get introduced to tons of girls every night. On days they don't organise the parties, we can get tables at a big discount. We have even started a company and will work with them bringing large groups of tourists to their parties and to other awesome things in Barcelona and Ibiza (if you have some contacts in your countries and want to participate, PM me!).
Every night we are with different girls, either because we know them during the day and ask them if they want to come to our parties with us (the club is the biggest and best known in Barcelona so they mostly say yes), or inside the club, where we have now become the "chumps" that take girls out of guys hands by asking them if they want to go to the vip area with us. Add this to the fact that we are good looking, well dressed guys and the recipe is served. We are now bringing hot girls to our places for after-parties almost on a two times a week basis (almost I'm not banging as many as I'd like to, partly because of epical bad luck and partly I guess for game issues, might make a post of it). And if we fail, we know that the next night is going to be a fresh start.
Essentially, at 37 I'm living a life I never dreamt of living, and it's just started. I passed from not having friends to go out with, to hang out with the coolest possible people in the span of one year. Who would have thought.
As I said, it's quite possible to replicate this if you have the right mindset and are willing to give value to people, either by being an open, friendly, generous person and by providing them with things they are interested on. It's just a question of be willing of leaving your comfort zone and try it.
I will stop because this is already too long, but if you have questions, I will be glad to answer them all.
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