Quote: (05-20-2014 01:43 AM)Feisbook Control Wrote:
These situations are a major mindfuck because they're so Kafka-esque. You're meant to go along to get along, even if the other person is being an unprofessional dickhead and affecting your ability to do your own job. Yet the moment you call them out on that, everyone acts like you're the person behaving inappropriately and being unreasonable. I don't know, is it so unreasonable to be angry when someone openly fucks with you? Is anger an illegitimate response after you've asked nicely a dozen times?
Eventually though, I realised that the deeper issue is just that when you interact with idiots, there is no winning solution other than not interacting with idiots. If you give up or lower your standards, you become just like them. If you react against them, they play "gotcha" with you, whether that was their intention all along or not (and that question -- are they intentionally fucking with me or just that idiotic that they really don't see what's going on here? -- is a secondary mindfuck).
My solution in digging myself out of this mess and the collateral damage it has inflicted in other areas of my life has been threefold. Firstly, knowing that I am going to leave, I have stopped giving as much of a shit, or have engaged in petty politicking whereby I try to employ passive-aggressive modes of pinning something on someone else. Those are really bad both in terms of my responsibilities as a teacher and upon myself, and I could see how long term, they would be devastating, even if adaptive in a sense. That's no way to live life.
I feel you. That's the shit I am dealing with, too everyday. I am young and just about to finish an IT apprenticeship and I am already going mad.
Please explain to me why people have to make shit as difficult as possible for you? When I started there I just wanted to do a good job and keep my whole private life separate.
I got moved into an office of three people with a supervisor spending half of his day telling me private shit and complaining. After every interaction with a customer on the phone he would face me and start complaining.
I resisted the whole thing in the beginning trying to be professional but he would constantly come at me. If I ignored it or told him "Man I just want to get some work done" he would start with "What is wrong with you? Do you have a bad day?" and march to the other colleagues with that. So I caved in listening to his bullshit most of the time.
One time I basically carried out my job and the job of three of my lazy colleagues at the same time and was going strong. Would I have continued like that they would have had to either change their attitude or get fired. One colleague noticed this and came at me "Man you are doing all the work of this lazy bitches. Aren't you pissed about that? I would hate them..." and I made the mistake of nodding to that.
So when the other colleagues came into the office he went like "Hey people Bad-Habit just told me that he thinks you are a bunch of lazy bitches and is tired of doing all your work."
Motherfucker stabbed me right in the back.
Someone please tell me what motivates these people? I just want to be professional and do my work and they have to come up with their bickering and attacks and all kinds of shit to disrespect me and undermine my abilities.
Are they scared? I just don't get it. I never attacked someone out of the blue. Is it just me? Should I change my behaviour and start planning attacks on people to move up the ranks?