[JoyStick]

A girl I used to work with hit me up on Facebook wanting to hang out and catch up. She have hit me up before wanting to hang out and I just ignored her the first time. She's a cool chick but fat and I don't really care about catching up. How should I respond back without sounding like a dick?

[Onto]

Suggest hanging out at the gym together.

Oh wait, you don't want to be a dick. On second thought, how about saying that all your free time is being spent with a new girlfriend.

[Kingsley Davis]

That's what you get for been on Fatbook.

[Parlay44]

Offer to meet up at a buffet for lunch and troll her into eating til she's full.
Amuse yourself

[LaCobra]

In those cases i say yes, but don´t give an specific time and date.

[Parlay44]

You do what girls do. Friend zone them and use them in order to meet their hot friends. You can also let them suck your dick once in a while if they're cool about it. You gotta feel them out for that.

[Quintus Curtius]

There is a tried-and-true way to deal with this.

If a chick you want to bang wants to keep you in the friendzone, you should not accept this. Unless you like getting blueballs and feeling frustrated, it's a waste of your time. Deep down, she knows what you want, and knows that she was able to suppress your sexual urges and bend them to her will.

Be polite, curteous, but firm. When she offers to hang out, say something like, "Yeah, I appreciate that, but that just doesn't work for me. I'm looking for a different type of connection with you. Just being friends is not where I want to be."

Stand up for yourself in a firm but polite way.

You'll respect yourself, and she will respect you.

.

[JoyStick]

^ it's a girl I don't want to bang.

[JoyStick]

(05-13-2014 11:15 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Offer to meet up at a buffet for lunch and troll her into eating til she's full.
Amuse yourself

I'd be gross out probably. Haha.

[Cr33pin]

Q:Why do fat bitches give the bets head?

A:Cause they have to

[Samseau]

Why do you give a shit what she thinks about you

[Monty Brown]

Read the g manifestos blog post on unpicking up girls

[Parlay44]

(05-13-2014 12:22 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 11:15 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Offer to meet up at a buffet for lunch and troll her into eating til she's full.
Amuse yourself

I'd be gross out probably. Haha.

You gotta say things like "I like a woman who's not afraid to eat in front of me".
And "Salad is rabbit food".

[aphelion]

Go hang out with them. They got friends.

[pheonix500000]

(05-13-2014 12:32 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 12:22 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 11:15 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Offer to meet up at a buffet for lunch and troll her into eating til she's full.
Amuse yourself

I'd be gross out probably. Haha.

You gotta say things like "I like a woman who's not afraid to eat in front of me".
And "Salad is rabbit food".

hahaha you really are a devious man

[JoyStick]

(05-13-2014 12:23 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

Why do you give a shit what she thinks about you

I just don't want to be rude because she's a decent person.

[Tuthmosis]

I'm actually currently having this same problem. Right now, I'm resorting to my default being-semi-responsive-and-flakey approach, but I'm open to new ideas.

[jamaicabound]

girls you dont want to bang whats that? lol jk

[Mormon Nailer]

[Captain Gh]

We men persue casual sex. Women persue casual conversation. It is the exact equivalent for them. Even by being a fat girl, a dick means nothing to her since she could find a BBW lover on Craigslist instantly. I know you want to be a nice guy, but never let a woman other than a family member or a really close friend fuck you by taking your valuable time away.

Let her know that exactly, and she'll go away to find another man accepting to play the you might get some pussy by chilling with me game. That is their way of having sex with us. Since you don't want to bang, then don't let her fuck you

[Samseau]

(05-13-2014 12:56 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 12:23 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

Why do you give a shit what she thinks about you

I just don't want to be rude because she's a decent person.

Then if you need to cultivate a large group of acquaintances, you simply gather them all at once in order to entertain them.

For example, you gather a bunch of your best buddies, and a bunch of ugly chicks, and send them a group facebook message:

"Hey guys how's it going? Been meaning to catch up with everyone. I'm going out to Bar/Restaurant/Pizza Joint/Ice Cream/Whatever and I'm getting a big pitcher of beer for everyone to enjoy while we hang."

Because it's a group setting you don't have to worry about her hitting on you, and you can keep all of your friendships intact. You can also invite hot girls too just so you can be socially proofed.

[Parlay44]

(05-13-2014 12:40 PM)pheonix500000 Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 12:32 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 12:22 PM)JoyStick Wrote:  

(05-13-2014 11:15 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Offer to meet up at a buffet for lunch and troll her into eating til she's full.
Amuse yourself

I'd be gross out probably. Haha.

You gotta say things like "I like a woman who's not afraid to eat in front of me".
And "Salad is rabbit food".

hahaha you really are a devious man

Ohh dude. You gotta hear the shit I say to girls I actually like. A few times I've said "I'm gonna fatten you up so nobody will take you away from me".

I was at dinner with another girl and offered her an appetizer and she said "Do you like fat girls?" I replied "Only when I'm really drunk".

I love to taunt the hamster.

[Quintus Curtius]

Sorry, OP, I reread your post and realized that you don't want to bang this chick. So it's just a case of an "eager beaver" on your tip, right? Wanting to hang?

Nothing like a fat girl on your jock. (I think that was even a really old NWA song, from the late 80s? Dating myself here)

Your goal is to bow out from the interaction gracefully, without hurting any feelings or burning any bridges. You're being considerate, which is a good trait.

Anyway, my advice: do what everyone else does in this phony society we live in! Be charming and friendly, but be non-committal, vague, and elusive. Say you'll get in touch, but never initiate it. Be so busy (allegedly) that you never have time to hang out.

After a while, she will get the picture that you want the boundaries of the relationship to exist on a "Hi" and "See ya soon!" basis.