[cocoballs]

Let's say you have a main chick, who you really care about because on many occasions she showed you affection and positive qualities like family values, great cooking skills etc (things we all complain about that American women don't have). Not to mention amazing sex and great looks.

But of course she still IS a female, which means she is a self-obsessed narcissist with ADD who posts dumb ass pics with the corniest hashtags, attention whores the shit out of her Facebook even when she literally has nothing to talk about, doesn't say no to alcohol even during lunch break etc. Whenever I tell her to stop doing stuff, she does, but a few weeks later she forgets that convo ever happened.

Now before you tell me to dump her and spin more plates - duh. I can always resort to that, but for now I'd rather try to make it work and just learn to look past the stupid petty things. But how?? I'm a grown man who values his time and his businesses, I only drink alcohol to relax when I'm exhausted, I hate small talk, I hate clubs, nightlife and loud people with a passion. (When I do go out it's ONLY to hang out with potential clients OR to meet bitches - in both scenarios I spend as little time in the club as possible)

So how do I live with the fact that she is the complete opposite of me socially and intellectually, and NOT get angry all the time? There's gotta be some mental tricks or exercises I can do to just stay calm and not let the little shit upset me. This seems like a community full of cerebral and analytical people, so I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem.

[Travesty]

Your anger represents your disappointment that she is not capable of changing.

You can't make a cat bark. Especially in America if that's where you are.

It sounds like you are purple pill about this situation. If you really enjoy her company accept what she brings to the table.

[cocoballs]

Haha "purple pill" that's sad

I agree with you. The question is how do I accept it? Because at the end of the day EVERY cute young chick out here is gonna be like that. This is the generation we live in, and if we wanna be living in it we have to accept the dumb ass social media attention whoring AND the ADD party culture AND the borderline alcoholism.

[cocoballs]

Lol she just now facetimed me from her office where her boss made some new advertising deal with a liquor company and they're all celebrating by "tasting" the liquor. Everybody drunk as fuck. I hung up on her and texted "sober up, then call me". Beta move?

[tawillionaire]

Drinking at noon during work? Sounds like a really bad sign. I don't think you need a game forum, you need an alcoholic forum.

[Cr33pin]

[Travesty]

I think you know the answer.

This girl shouldn't be your main if she frustrates you. She should be a side piece.

Keeping her as a main you can try being more aloof and not angry. Dread game her, keep raising your value. She may fall in line out of fear but I doubt it. There are no magic words or quick solution for human behavior.

Accepting her would be seeing her getting a buzz on at work as a pregame for wild sex later. You would have to make lemons into lemonade. You would have to laugh at her silly behavior and think it is cute and endearing.

But you know you won't.

[cocoballs]

You are correct. I just think that the majority of young hot girls are like that and if I wanna stay in the game I have to figure out away to not let people's stupidity get to me.

[soup]

Hate-fuck her.

[General Stalin]

If she is frustrating you then it's doomed to fail and you're only going to start resenting her more. Keep her around as a lay but move her to the back burner and be on the hunt for a new "main girl" if that's what you're after. Besides, as was already said, paying less attention to her may possibly get her to value you more.

Force yourself out of co-dependent/beta behavior. It is the hardest part of the red pill but it honestly the most essential. If you're not completely happy with a girl then stop rationalizing/convincing yourself shit can turn around or whatever and go with your gut.

[Beyond Borders]

(04-25-2014 05:58 PM)cocoballs Wrote:  

Haha "purple pill" that's sad

I agree with you. The question is how do I accept it? Because at the end of the day EVERY cute young chick out here is gonna be like that. This is the generation we live in, and if we wanna be living in it we have to accept the dumb ass social media attention whoring AND the ADD party culture AND the borderline alcoholism.

I think you are doing a lot of rationalizing here. Humans have an uncanny ability to rationalize just about anything if it satisfies an emotional urge.

Also sounds like you're working with some limiting beliefs. There are plenty of women who are not big on partying. Get out there and try to meet some - I can tell you right now this relationship simply isn't going to work. You should probably look into meeting different types of girls and if you're going to continue hanging with this type, keep emotions as far out of it as possible.

If she's making you angry, it's because you care about her too much. And there's nothing wrong with caring about women, but there's a lot wrong with caring about women you're incompatible with. You're just going to drive each other crazy, and I imagine the relationship will get more and more sour as time goes on.

Dysfunctional sucks and I sense that's where this one's eventually heading.

(04-25-2014 06:14 PM)cocoballs Wrote:  

Lol she just now facetimed me from her office where her boss made some new advertising deal with a liquor company and they're all celebrating by "tasting" the liquor. Everybody drunk as fuck. I hung up on her and texted "sober up, then call me". Beta move?

Sounds like this is her work and lifestyle. I don't think she'd be able to change for you with all the social pressure even if she wanted to.

I'm not saying this to give you another rationalization either; I'm saying probably ought to find a new chick.

[Onto]

The real question is why are you attracted to this kind of woman?

Until you figure that puzzle out, you will most likely keep wearing the same brand.

[cocoballs]

Thank you guys. Lots of good responses here. I agree with pretty much everything that has been said.

Onto - I think we are all attracted to this type of woman cuz it's the sexiest type. I know there are chicks out there who don't drink or party but they're usually on the fugly side. I honestly don't believe there are 8.5s or 9s that don't like to drink, party and AW on the internet.

[Onto]

(04-28-2014 05:52 PM)cocoballs Wrote:  

Thank you guys. Lots of good responses here. I agree with pretty much everything that has been said.

Onto - I think we are all attracted to this type of woman cuz it's the sexiest type. I know there are chicks out there who don't drink or party but they're usually on the fugly side. I honestly don't believe there are 8.5s or 9s that don't like to drink, party and AW on the internet.

I once thought as you do. I once dated the same kind of woman you do. I still find myself attracted, albeit more rarely, to that kind of woman, but it fades very fast because I know why they are attractive to me. It's more like, "Oh yeah, I remember I used to go for that", and I see the ugliness instead.

It is a real truth that the women in America (Western Civ) have degenerated as a whole, but the other truth is that we create the world we live in. There are good looking women out there that aren't demonic, alcoholic, sluts who want to be the Goddess all day and relativize their boyfriend in the process.

Trouble is, you might not find them very attractive.

Ever see a good, beautiful, put-together woman in love with a deadbeat, waste of a dude? I've seen that quite often. Wonder what the attraction is?

[CJ]

You should never let a girl get you that pissed off, any girl that annoys me immediately gets dropped back in the rotation (or completely out).

Back burner her for sure, and treat her like a side chick until she learns better behavior. Although, TBQH, it doesn't sound like she's doing anything that drastic. If what she's doing on her social media bothers you, you might need to relax a bit, unless she's posting pictures with another guy's dick in her mouth or something.

[cocoballs]

Hahahaha she just broke up with me because she saw a pic of me playing Jenga with some girls. Jenga! fucking JENGA!! (Did I mention she's crazy over the top jealous? Lol)

Thank god that's over! Thanks guys for the excellent responses, y'all can close this thread now.

[anonymous123]

It sounds like she is cookoo for cocoballs!

(sorry, couldn't resist!)

[Beyond Borders]

(04-28-2014 08:59 PM)cocoballs Wrote:  

Thanks guys for the excellent responses, y'all can close this thread now.

You're not getting off that easy.

[cocoballs]

Lol hey man I stand behind the premise of this thread. I'm sure my next lizard will be exactly like her and probably drive me crazy with her stupidity too. So maybe I just need to dumb down a bit.

[cocoballs]

This new chick I met told me that she does regular monthly dinners with all her girlfriends, no guys allowed to "talk shit and catch up cuz we don't see each other that much anymore". And I was immediately reminded of this thread. What do you guys think, are these "dinners" a 100% fool proof excuse to meet other dudes or are they really as innocent as she made them sound? Granted, she said dinners at "restaurants, maybe a lounge, but no clubs".

[Samseau]

(05-01-2014 03:11 PM)cocoballs Wrote:  

And I was immediately reminded of this thread. What do you guys think, are these "dinners" a 100% fool proof excuse to meet other dudes or are they really as innocent as she made them sound? .

Who cares? She doesn't matter. Focus on yourself.

[heavy]

Anger comes from wanting to control something that you can't. It could something out of anyone's control (weather, earthquake, aneurysm, stubbing toe) or because you can't control someone else.

That said, I have a couple serious dents in my wall...not because of a woman I can't control tho.

[cocoballs]

Samseau:

I am focused on myself. She doesn't matter until I start fucking her raw. Then all of a sudden her potential infidelity becomes a health risk for me. Ergo she matters.