I Met The Girl Of My Dreams. She's Engaged But I Think She Likes Me. Should I Pursue?
03-13-2014, 11:39 PM
I'm a (part time) male model. I met a gorgeous model at a casting a few weeks ago but it wasn't any ol' hottie. It was one who I had a crush on for years who I finally met by pure coincidence and serendipity. The reason I'm writing is because there is a big obstacle in the way of my attaining her and i'm wondering if I should pursue at all and, if so, how.
My friend sent me a link for a music video by a famous artist a few years ago. I had mentioned wanting to visit a foreign city and, since the video takes place in that city, he thought I'd like to see it. It became my favorite music video of all time because, not only is the song great, but I thought (and still think) that the lead woman is the most beautiful woman I've laid my eyes on. I watched the video about once per month for the next 2 years and dreamed of meeting her all the while dating other girls in real life. I failed at several attempts to find out her name by googling info on the video. The only info I learned was that she was from that city.
I finally visited that city last year. I had a great time and saw and fucked beautiful woman everywhere but I had my eye out for the mystery girl; she was in the back of my mind.
I was in the waiting area of a model casting a few months after that trip and guess who strolls in?!?!? I did a quadruple take. I couldn't believe what was happening. I didn't make any fast moves because I wanted to figure out a plan of action. I walked over to my phone on the other side of the room that was charging and kept her in my peripheral. She was staring at me! I turned my body towards her while checking my phone but didn't look at her and I noticed her checking me out a bit. I sat down and hoped that we'd be called to audition together. Sure enough, we were. The audition was for a commercial that took place on a beach so we had to strip into bathing suits. There I was standing shoulder to shoulder, half naked, with the girl of my dreams. I was nervous as hell the whole time. But I sensed her holding eye contact extra long during our dialogue (that may have just been how she performs). However, after the audition we got dressed and she put a fat ring on her finger. Not sure if it was engaged or married but I was crushed nonetheless.
I waited for her outside and struck up convo by asking her if she was actually the gal in the video. She confirmed and we spoke for a few minutes before she excused herself. The convo went smoothly (no awkward silences) but it was kind of boring- no flirting, understandably.
I was dejected by the ring but I couldn't stop thinking about her, so I looked her up a few weeks later since I had her name and wrote on her instagram. I just said what's up and asked if she remembered me from the casting. After she said hey whats up and that she remembered me, I followed her profile and she returned in kind. From looking at her pics, she clearly has either a fiancee or husband.
Now I do NOT want to attempt to make her or anyone, for that matter, cheat on their significant other. Never. I feel like there's a reason we met, though, and I'm working off the chance that she's not happy in her relationship. Why not take advantage of a market inefficiency? I wouldn't touch her unless she left him. I haven't said anything else to her but, since she's currently taken, I'm considering the hail mary. I mentioned to her that I may move to her country for modeling work when we met. If I reach out to her again, my plan is to ask for her email bc I have some questions for my relocation. Once I get her attention I'm going to put all of my cards on the table and let her react.
What's your advice, gents?
Sincerely,
A Determined Man
My friend sent me a link for a music video by a famous artist a few years ago. I had mentioned wanting to visit a foreign city and, since the video takes place in that city, he thought I'd like to see it. It became my favorite music video of all time because, not only is the song great, but I thought (and still think) that the lead woman is the most beautiful woman I've laid my eyes on. I watched the video about once per month for the next 2 years and dreamed of meeting her all the while dating other girls in real life. I failed at several attempts to find out her name by googling info on the video. The only info I learned was that she was from that city.
I finally visited that city last year. I had a great time and saw and fucked beautiful woman everywhere but I had my eye out for the mystery girl; she was in the back of my mind.
I was in the waiting area of a model casting a few months after that trip and guess who strolls in?!?!? I did a quadruple take. I couldn't believe what was happening. I didn't make any fast moves because I wanted to figure out a plan of action. I walked over to my phone on the other side of the room that was charging and kept her in my peripheral. She was staring at me! I turned my body towards her while checking my phone but didn't look at her and I noticed her checking me out a bit. I sat down and hoped that we'd be called to audition together. Sure enough, we were. The audition was for a commercial that took place on a beach so we had to strip into bathing suits. There I was standing shoulder to shoulder, half naked, with the girl of my dreams. I was nervous as hell the whole time. But I sensed her holding eye contact extra long during our dialogue (that may have just been how she performs). However, after the audition we got dressed and she put a fat ring on her finger. Not sure if it was engaged or married but I was crushed nonetheless.
I waited for her outside and struck up convo by asking her if she was actually the gal in the video. She confirmed and we spoke for a few minutes before she excused herself. The convo went smoothly (no awkward silences) but it was kind of boring- no flirting, understandably.
I was dejected by the ring but I couldn't stop thinking about her, so I looked her up a few weeks later since I had her name and wrote on her instagram. I just said what's up and asked if she remembered me from the casting. After she said hey whats up and that she remembered me, I followed her profile and she returned in kind. From looking at her pics, she clearly has either a fiancee or husband.
Now I do NOT want to attempt to make her or anyone, for that matter, cheat on their significant other. Never. I feel like there's a reason we met, though, and I'm working off the chance that she's not happy in her relationship. Why not take advantage of a market inefficiency? I wouldn't touch her unless she left him. I haven't said anything else to her but, since she's currently taken, I'm considering the hail mary. I mentioned to her that I may move to her country for modeling work when we met. If I reach out to her again, my plan is to ask for her email bc I have some questions for my relocation. Once I get her attention I'm going to put all of my cards on the table and let her react.
What's your advice, gents?
Sincerely,
A Determined Man