Quote: (08-17-2008 08:59 PM)KG Wrote:
Great to see the "Love Poll" thread go to $1 beers.
I was thinking the same thing. Perhaps we need a new poll. Which would you rather have: true love, or $1 beers?
I know which I'd pick. The love thing is overrated. Just a bunch of hormones and trained neural pathways that create a sense of attachment to a person who you may or may not actually be compatible with. In my case, I sure as hell *wasn't* compatible with her (in a very long list of ways) and could have done much better. At least we didn't get married!
It's really weird looking back. I could rattle off a dozen things that were wrong with her, and I'd have a hard time saying more than one or two positive things (not fat/in reasonable shape... hard to think of much else). Yet I freaked out for probably a month at the end trying to decide whether to stick it out or just bail, when you'd think it would be a very easy decision.
Ultimately I went ahead and had a "talk" with her about several issues that were becoming serious dealbreakers for me (her two horribly unruly dogs that were a pain in the ass; money management; unhealthy food/no home cooked meals; and so on). She interpreted the talk as being a direct attack on her, and a week later it was "bye, this ain't working, I'm leaving and moving to Texas."
Once I was moved out in a few days to a temporary place with a friend in CA, I *knew* I had done the right thing. No question in my mind. And yet just a few weeks earlier I had my doubts, "maybe this is all my fault..." -- and a few months before that "I think this is probably the girl I'm going to marry..." So weird that I could have thought that, when we're talking about someone who got seriously pissed off at me when I didn't call on a *4-day* fishing trip with my folks (which she was invited on, but declined!), never mind that the cell phone reception ain't so great in northern Minnesota, or that we were busy actually *doing* stuff and were trying to get *away* from modern technology and all, and I actually *did* call and leave a message from the airport in Minneapolis when I had my phone back on... seriously, WTF???