I don't feel like motivating a woman to improve herself. If she doesn't want to do it on her own then she deserves a below-average guy.
Team Nachos
Quote: (12-28-2013 01:21 PM)DVY Wrote:
@parlay44- Flip the script man. What if a girl didn't feel like motivating you- didn't have your back, didnt encourage what you love and held dear to you.
I agree that its pointless to help people who refuse to change, but those who want to change but have doubts, insecurities or hang-ups... why not give them emotional support?
The golden rule states to treat others as one would like to treat oneself.
It is fun to take, conquer and dominate, but its equally enjoyable to help, caress and elevate others to new heights.
Am I really the only one who thinks this way?????
Quote: (12-28-2013 03:12 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:
Quote: (12-28-2013 01:21 PM)DVY Wrote:
@parlay44- Flip the script man. What if a girl didn't feel like motivating you- didn't have your back, didnt encourage what you love and held dear to you.
I agree that its pointless to help people who refuse to change, but those who want to change but have doubts, insecurities or hang-ups... why not give them emotional support?
The golden rule states to treat others as one would like to treat oneself.
It is fun to take, conquer and dominate, but its equally enjoyable to help, caress and elevate others to new heights.
Am I really the only one who thinks this way?????
A woman is supposed to be your complement not your equal.
Quote: (12-28-2013 11:50 AM)horn Wrote:
Beyonce is hot, but not 9 hot. Give me Rihanna or Toni Braxton or Ashanti back in the day.
I used to be into size 0 girls, but no longer. Getting older I appreciate curves a lot more.
I think soup said it right, you can upgrade them, but always let them know they gotta do better in the future. Reward and dread, as others like CH have noted.
Quote: (12-27-2013 08:01 PM)Timoteo Wrote:
I think if you're performing the upgrade by suggesting to her that she'd look better wearing this, or doing that, and SHE'S paying for it herself, then I don't really see the harm. I'm less worried about her possibly dropping me for another dude than how she looks and acts when she's with ME.
Quote: (12-29-2013 06:08 AM)baristabanger Wrote:
I don't know if this is "upgrading", but I live in a relatively small area and make do with what I got. I'll drop little hints that something about a girl I'm seeing is not up to spec with me. Maybe a slight random comment how her ass has "potential". Sure as shit, the girl I'm seeing now, after subtle shaming, is hitting the gym 4 times a week doing squats and 45 min of cardio. Little to no effort on my part.