[funkyzeit]

I have problems with that too, but my reason is that most of dudes are cockblockers in places i frequent. They actively try to start shit with me because I approached a girl they've been looking at for two hours.

The ones that are not cockblocking me are either too broke or too afraid to pursue same things in life.

[Parlay44]

Who needs friends when you have Facebook?

[Barry Scrotada]

(12-07-2013 06:08 PM)Peregrine Wrote:  

MikeCF wrote a solid post on the effects of selfishness and male friendships. http://dangerandplay.com/2013/09/27/the-ten-year-test/

Mikecf is Danger&Play? ...Learn something new every day.

[bodmon]

(12-11-2013 01:23 PM)Barry Scrotada Wrote:  

(12-07-2013 06:08 PM)Peregrine Wrote:  

MikeCF wrote a solid post on the effects of selfishness and male friendships. http://dangerandplay.com/2013/09/27/the-ten-year-test/

Mikecf is Danger&Play? ...Learn something new every day.

lol srs, is he really d&p?

[Hazaer]

Adding another angle to this thread here.. I have the exact same problem as the OP. Being in my late 20s, guys I encounter have almost no game and not interested in practising it as well. Therefore they try to leach off my attempts at game or ridicule discussions about any of the red pill suggestions I make. I notice they also then start to become too clingy and competitive about even the simplest things like sports or games. I think the red pill mindset is an important trait that guys have to share if they are to be friends even if they share similar interests in hobbies or sports otherwise the relationship would not be fulfilling for both parties. Its unfortunate that quality guys that I meet tend to move away for work/study and they are hard to come by.

For guys with little to no friends but somewhat game aware, an interesting point to discuss is how are they are viewed by girls that they date. Would that lower the guy's status as it might indicate that he doesn't have much of a social life apart from work? But one positive outcome from this might be that the game aware guy can show more value to girls if he is hanging out with his beta acquaintances provided they are not serious cock blockers.

[redpillage]

(12-07-2013 04:56 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  

How selfish are you?

I am extremely selfish (often without realizing it).

Its great for women, but horrible for making friends.

Exactly right. You want to make friends for life? Start leading man! If you have any skills go and start training/teaching others. My personal experience is that you find very high quality folks in martial arts. There are some dickheads but if you join a class of 20 able bodied guys I'd be surprised if you didn't make at least one or two good friends

[General Stalin]

It would be interesting if there were some real studies on this sort of thing.

Most people have the same observation - their "closest" friends tend to be the friends they've had since they were kids. I think the reason for this is all about life perspective and development. When you're in your young and formative years, the people you become good friends with end up being a part of your life development - playing a role in shaping who you become as an adult and also become a part of your childhood. This makes them an important staple in your life that you share something with that you can never even hope to share with someone else you meet as an adult. Of course there are exceptions to this as some people can grow more easily attached to others, and some people never had close friends as children etc.

I think there is a lot to be said about that. I'm almost 30 and people I meet nowadays I can certainly call "friends" but they will never be as close as my lifelong friends that I grew up with. This isn't because I don't want them to be, but as an adult everyone generally has their best friends recruited and don't really have that door open anymore to share the deep male bonds you form with friends from childhood.

Even people who have become "close" friends with in my 20's who I've known for years - since I moved I don't talk to them much and it doesn't really matter. they were adults when I met them and had their own shit going and are pursuing their own shit to this day and spending their social time with their close childhood friends. I've met a few good dudes since moving across the country who I would consider friends but we aren't super close and I don't think we ever really will be because they have other social priorities and life shit that far precedes me entering their life.

[EDantes]

(12-07-2013 03:16 PM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

I think every man needs a homie who he can trust, talk and chill with on a day to day basis. The problem is that it's hard to find like minded guys and I often have a complete different personality than most guys. If I meet a cool dude he is either a criminal or a career obsessed nerd. Some guys I meet are cool but all they do for fun is smoke weed and drink alcohol which is not my thing, so the friendship remains superficial. The amount of good male friends I had in my life can be counted on 1 hand. Is it something about me that's turning people away or do you guys experience the same?

Kind of feel the same way - when I used to go out to the bars and clubs to pick up chicks I would meet some guys who were cool to hang out with but it never blossomed into deep friendship, and some of them didn't seem like they did much other than hang out at bars and get high and the like. Tried to get some guys I knew to do things like learn poker together or play tennis but they weren't too interested.

If it makes any difference though I've heard that deep friendship, especially today is a rare thing rather than the norm (just like "true love").