Hey all at RVF. I've been lurking here for a few years, not posted too much since I've been sorting my life out and been developing my own knowledge. I'd feel hesitant about asking for wisdom if this wasn't such a big positive opportunity. Without further preamble, I'll jump in:
Throughout my life, I've struggled with social anxiety. It got to the point where in public middle / high school (before I was sent to boarding school halfway through high school) I had literally no friends that I would hang out with: I would come back home from school and sit on the computer playing games, watching porn, and sometimes doing HW. That started to slowly change at military school where I was forced to change in the face of dealing with bullying bullying, til I ended up coming to a large Northern California university in 2009. I was still often at a loss for what to do socially, but I managed to muster the courage to join rugby straight away upon joining and start developing my athleticism. I also joined my fraternity a few months after that. Also, following my freshman year, I started training BJJ at an MMA gym near my home in Orange County. I was convinced that the beginning of sophomore year would bring some change in my game, but it turned out I had a hell of a long way to go. The fraternity was pretty bad, with a bunch of older losers who had no game and didn't drink, and so my social position still didn't change, barring a couple make outs with substandard girls. Frustrated, midway through my Sophomore year I found Roosh's blog while searching "why can't I get laid" and started reading Bang.
After that it was a very slow change, where I started to go out more with non-fraternity friends, expanding my social circles and developing a different mentality. This culminated in me coming back to the fraternity at the beginning of 2012. At that point we had our back to the wall, with only 18 members total and 2 unfilled rooms. I started the No Fap / No Porn challenge for a month on top of taking my muay thai to another level, and had a month of rugby being suspended, so I had a lot more free time. With the help and cooperation of my brothers, I ended up partying my ass off, made out with dozens of chicks and failed to f-close once, and totally shed my insecurities / stopped giving a fuck about rejection. I became recruitment chair, and my new skills in game allow me over 2 years to bring our chapter to 40 active members at the current moment (which at our school is pretty decent, the largest fraternity is 70 members). My personal life has been greatly improve, shedding my insecurities, having greater athletic and sexual success (15+ bangs in 2013 vs. 3 in 2012 and 1 in 2011).
However, I now face a problem: these younger guys that I've recruited are cool and all, but have been sedated by the ills that afflict my generation: general lack of drive when in a comfortable situation, video games and pop culture rotting their minds, and all the other ideological straitjackets of our society. These guys are hungry for something more, and I along with other leaders in my chapter have failed (until now) to give them the tools to do that. It's hurting our fraternity's standing and slowing our growth to our potential.
Therefore, to get to the point (aka tl;dr): at my fraternity's meeting this Sunday night, I will be giving a workshop / presentation of around 15-30 minutes to present an "intro to the red pill."
What I want to do it at least expose these guys to the red pill type of thinking that has improved my life, and hopefully help them make the fraternity a place where men can find meaning in their lives beyond the hollow promises that we've been given about our careers and futures. I want to make self-improvement a part, and to inspire as much as possible these guys to pursue truth, justice, how to be a man, etc. I am the longest serving active member at this point, so I have quite a bit of respect in the chapter and think a lot of these guys would be willing to give something like this a shot if I'm pushing it. Doing this successfully will also improve the fraternity's social standing, which will help minimize my personal effort as recruitment chair and also let me slam more hot sorority chicks![[Image: banana.gif]](http://www.rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/new/banana.gif)
I intend to do this by exploring in general concepts of social proof, learning how to deal with rejection, self-examination, etc. and how they relate to their lives and the success of my fraternity. I have given presentations, but never one like this, so there's a couple things that I'm struggling with:
1) Are there any examples of "enter the red pill" type presentations or material which explain or illuminate the principles of masculine thinking in a concise way? It would be excellent to have something to base my presentation off of.
2)
We will be having finals the week after this meeting, and then 3 weeks of break after that. I intend to prescribe a course of action that these guys can follow for that next month that will involve them both educating themselves (i.e. reading Bang, RoK / other manosphere resources) and putting that learning into practice (i.e. do 1 approach per day, the Thumotic 30 Day Challenge, do starting strength / BJJ ). Are there any other recommendations for simple daily habits that can help people overcome rejection, become more practiced socially, more fit, etc.? Also, any few page articles or easily-readable resources that can do the same?
Thanks in advance for anyone who finds the time to contribute. Any help you can provide could really do some good for the lives of many of these young men. Also, since this is my first real significant post here, I'd like to thank all the cats dropping mad knowledge and wisdom on here, you've all helped me immeasurably.
Throughout my life, I've struggled with social anxiety. It got to the point where in public middle / high school (before I was sent to boarding school halfway through high school) I had literally no friends that I would hang out with: I would come back home from school and sit on the computer playing games, watching porn, and sometimes doing HW. That started to slowly change at military school where I was forced to change in the face of dealing with bullying bullying, til I ended up coming to a large Northern California university in 2009. I was still often at a loss for what to do socially, but I managed to muster the courage to join rugby straight away upon joining and start developing my athleticism. I also joined my fraternity a few months after that. Also, following my freshman year, I started training BJJ at an MMA gym near my home in Orange County. I was convinced that the beginning of sophomore year would bring some change in my game, but it turned out I had a hell of a long way to go. The fraternity was pretty bad, with a bunch of older losers who had no game and didn't drink, and so my social position still didn't change, barring a couple make outs with substandard girls. Frustrated, midway through my Sophomore year I found Roosh's blog while searching "why can't I get laid" and started reading Bang.
After that it was a very slow change, where I started to go out more with non-fraternity friends, expanding my social circles and developing a different mentality. This culminated in me coming back to the fraternity at the beginning of 2012. At that point we had our back to the wall, with only 18 members total and 2 unfilled rooms. I started the No Fap / No Porn challenge for a month on top of taking my muay thai to another level, and had a month of rugby being suspended, so I had a lot more free time. With the help and cooperation of my brothers, I ended up partying my ass off, made out with dozens of chicks and failed to f-close once, and totally shed my insecurities / stopped giving a fuck about rejection. I became recruitment chair, and my new skills in game allow me over 2 years to bring our chapter to 40 active members at the current moment (which at our school is pretty decent, the largest fraternity is 70 members). My personal life has been greatly improve, shedding my insecurities, having greater athletic and sexual success (15+ bangs in 2013 vs. 3 in 2012 and 1 in 2011).
However, I now face a problem: these younger guys that I've recruited are cool and all, but have been sedated by the ills that afflict my generation: general lack of drive when in a comfortable situation, video games and pop culture rotting their minds, and all the other ideological straitjackets of our society. These guys are hungry for something more, and I along with other leaders in my chapter have failed (until now) to give them the tools to do that. It's hurting our fraternity's standing and slowing our growth to our potential.
Therefore, to get to the point (aka tl;dr): at my fraternity's meeting this Sunday night, I will be giving a workshop / presentation of around 15-30 minutes to present an "intro to the red pill."
What I want to do it at least expose these guys to the red pill type of thinking that has improved my life, and hopefully help them make the fraternity a place where men can find meaning in their lives beyond the hollow promises that we've been given about our careers and futures. I want to make self-improvement a part, and to inspire as much as possible these guys to pursue truth, justice, how to be a man, etc. I am the longest serving active member at this point, so I have quite a bit of respect in the chapter and think a lot of these guys would be willing to give something like this a shot if I'm pushing it. Doing this successfully will also improve the fraternity's social standing, which will help minimize my personal effort as recruitment chair and also let me slam more hot sorority chicks
I intend to do this by exploring in general concepts of social proof, learning how to deal with rejection, self-examination, etc. and how they relate to their lives and the success of my fraternity. I have given presentations, but never one like this, so there's a couple things that I'm struggling with:
1) Are there any examples of "enter the red pill" type presentations or material which explain or illuminate the principles of masculine thinking in a concise way? It would be excellent to have something to base my presentation off of.
2)
We will be having finals the week after this meeting, and then 3 weeks of break after that. I intend to prescribe a course of action that these guys can follow for that next month that will involve them both educating themselves (i.e. reading Bang, RoK / other manosphere resources) and putting that learning into practice (i.e. do 1 approach per day, the Thumotic 30 Day Challenge, do starting strength / BJJ ). Are there any other recommendations for simple daily habits that can help people overcome rejection, become more practiced socially, more fit, etc.? Also, any few page articles or easily-readable resources that can do the same?
Thanks in advance for anyone who finds the time to contribute. Any help you can provide could really do some good for the lives of many of these young men. Also, since this is my first real significant post here, I'd like to thank all the cats dropping mad knowledge and wisdom on here, you've all helped me immeasurably.
