Quote: (06-18-2014 11:14 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
I met her in a coffee shop. All her texts leading to the date had ! ...single exclamations and a few smiley faces.
Good, so she knows what she was actually getting!
As for the text sign language, clearly you are younger than me. I don't see the significance here. Especially if you don't have a demonstrated text relationship which might shed light on how she uses text.
People I barely know have no problem being informal and using emoji's. I'm not hip enough to discern whether that means anything.
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
I think either it's that she just wanted attention from a guy she was attracted to .....or I should have just pulled her close as soon as we walked in and tried to fuck her.
For me at least, since I'm not jacked, Caveman style is always a gamble. If you are jacked, on some level she's interested in seeing your muscle work and feeling your strength. That's that animal attraction, and it's a big weapon in a player's arsenal. And by all means, if you've got it, flaunt it.
That being said, I'm not trying to make anyone feel uncomfortable or threatened.
Fear of my presence is not part of my game.
Fear of my absence is.
When the chick is being as generally unresponsive as you describe, the last thing I'm going to do is go all 50 Shades of Grey. In my view, she wasn't showing submission, but she was showing indifference at best, or amused mastery at worst. Like you were a little plaything, and she could be as pleasant as she wanted to be, but no more.
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
I'm the one that suggested she sit in the chair...as I'm currently living in a extended stay motel while my house gets renovated.
You mentioned this in a different post.
Out of curiosity, when did you mention this, and how did you bring it up?
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
So....instead of telling her to "sit" or "get" on the bed..the only other option as there's no couch....which I thought would be too much ( I know beta )....I told her to take a seat in the chair and I sat in a chair next to her first. I guess I could have just said "make yourself comfortable" and see what she decided to do.
It's a tough call.
I don't think you were dealing with a chick that likes to be ordered around and told what to do.
What should have happened, no matter where she sat, she should have sidled up to you. If she was digging you. Or at least made herself available for that.
It's true you have to lead, lead, lead. But she was to want to be led.
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
I felt kind of like a teenagers awkwardly groping the girl next door for a kiss after a while....and not like a man making a woman melt before him. this was due to her indifference
I guess I need to get better at making sexual undertones in our talk pre-bounce to the casa. ( or in my case la motel )....at the restaurant she was talking her head off about her party days as a younger girl, what her social life is like now...what her 4th july plans are yada yada. as I randomly kino'ed nodded and made supplementary comments and witticisms. She's a bit of a social butterfly/wine drinker/ definite extrovert/ fitness instructor/school teacher out for summer break. Short little ball of energy.
See that's an interesting point that you should have mentioned.
Fitness instructor? Very active? Former party girl?
How did you integrate that information into your rap?
Quote: (06-18-2014 10:03 AM)robreke Wrote:
Oh well...who knows if there'll be a second. She did make a point to tell me she enjoyed the date and "had a good time" two or more times on the drive back. Will give her a one day gap then send a comfort text tomorrow if I don't hear from her.
Lemme clarify a point. What I'm suggesting is to speed up the time table of the seduction, of the sex.
In terms of the sex/relationship, all might not be lost, but this is just regular seduction not FAST seduction. You could bang her, but it will be on her schedule.
That's not a problem if you have a lot of chicks in the pipeline. And having other chicks is the definition of Alpha in this situation. You won't be tempted to go all soft when she finally opens her legs, cause you're dance card is full.
Keep fighting the good fight.
WIA
I'm not jacked either...but I am tall and have kind of wide shoulders. A lot of shorter people defer to me it seems and she's short for a girl...about 5'3 or so.
I did bring up living in a motel during our drinks. I brought it up when she asked me where I lived. I told her my neighborhood...then my current living situation. And...when I suggested we go somewhere else...I said...yeah, we can go check out my fancy hotel rooms and all the cool channels...or some such. She agreed to it.
Once we got there...she asked me a bit about my house and questions like that as if she wanted to make sure I owned a house I guess.
As far as how I integrated this stuff in the conversation about her being alpha/party girl...I said stuff like " well aren't you the social butterfly" " you seem like a free spirit" at one point I told her "you're trouble" she seemed to take it in good spirit.
another thing...and I think it was a shit test....when I was taking her home...out of the blue...she said....I think I may dye my hair pink. I paused and told her I liked her blonde hair....but in retrospect I probably should have said something like....yeah, cool...it's a free country"
She probably just wanted to see how I would react to such a ridiculous suggestion.
I'll be texting her this p.m. we'll see how it goes.
Btw...I do have other dates with other girls lined up )