Sensationalist title, let me explain. I've lived in Spain all my life, and I do exclusively daygame, because nightgame is a waste of time.
Here is my breakdown, which I have carefully refined over about 2 years, and which has brought me consistent results.
1. The stop: Prior eye contact helps, but the effect is barely noticeable. Spanish girls get stopped by supplicating betas all the time. A front stop will yield 50% instant blowouts. You need to stop by running around. Complimenting in Spain is rampant, so it is crucial the stop is the perfect balance between dominance and vulnerability. Either you nail it or 50% she walks. Speak in English even if you speak Spanish. A Spanish-speaker will just be anchored back in her memory to all the other supplicators. Non-verbals are so important here, eye contact must be strong for the opener, and you must go low-pressure direct. A Spanish girl can smell indirect BS from miles away. When you compliment there must be plenty of "you knows" and "it's just that". If it doesn't sound like you gathered all the confidence in the world to approach, but that you are also dominant, she walks. I know I've done it right if she has a big smile on her face before I do anything, which is easy to achieve in other countries, but in Spain it is not.
2. After the vulnerability-dominance opener, you need to establish yourself as alpha. The same stuff applies here as anywhere else, teasing, negging, disagreeing, doing most of the talking... General push-pull, but it is crucial you drop the cockiness. A neg should not go further than "you look shy". Anything more and her fragile ego will tell her to walk. The Spanish woman thinks highly of herself, but the strategy is not put her down but to raise yourself up above her. Putting her down does not work. Taking the piss out of her works, but only to establish yourself as high-quality in that immediate moment. It is like a key that opens a door to the next chamber in the game, but you have to use the key immediately. While a girl from another nationality might date you if she finds you attractive, a Spanish woman will not.
3. During that initial push-pull chit-chat, she will shit-test heavily. This is easy to deal with, and is no different than any other nationality. It is also crucial that you suggestthat you are living there permanently. I usually include this in my first tease after the opener, almost in routine form, because it is probably the most important factor that she knows this. I say: "I've been living here for ages, but..."
4. When she likes you, the first question will come out, and it is always the same: "What do you do?". The answer to this one is incredibly important. The factors are: 1. It must seem important to her. 2. It must come off as a serious and plausible profession to the friends. Spanish girls move in packs, which means that everything you do during the set should be not only in accordance to the girl's perception, but also to the friends' perception. Girls are gold-diggers and chances are not lying will cost you the set, so you must know how to lie: suggest, don't tell. "You know, I travelled for a few years after my studies, but once I was done with that I had friends here that helped me get so-and-so seemingly-hard-to-get job." Avoid predictable things like lawyer or doctor, but make it something that makes the friend think of a serious man. A professorship is ideal.
5. You should tell her you are at least two years older than she is. If she asks, tell her to guess, and while she is guessing ask her age. She will tell you, so add 2 years to be sure of it. Then add another 2, so be 4 more than what she says.
6. Get that comfort down hard. Cover 5 topics and keep the spotlight on her: 1. Her travelling ambitions and past. 2. How she fills her free time. 3. Get back to her job. 4. Where are how she grew up. 5. Where she'd like to be in the future. Cycle naturally through these, not in interview style. 1,2 and 3 are light comfort, 4 and 5 are deep, to get her buzzing after she leaves. I like to use Gambler's "motivations, emotions, character traits" rule, which seems to work rather well here as a way of steering the conversation. During 4 and 5 I introduce vulnerability stories, with light references to being bullied as a kid (while smiling). Tried-and-tested, it does not reduce your value.
7. Between the third and fourth comfort topic, I introduce a routine with you MUST do if you want any success whatsoever. It is to buffer the "friends effect" that will be the primary cause of your flakes in these countries. It goes as follows: "You look quite independent minded, I can see it in your eyes that your opinions matter to you more than those of others [...] But, I don't know, I can also see you taking lots of advice from your friends and... (cheeky smile)". This works to buffer the effect, but it needs to be mixed with a logical incentive (which we cover with the money bit).
8. Then, you have to deal with the slut-effect. You need to use plausible deniablity to give the girl room for rationalization. A low-pressure compliment opener mixed with push-pull is direct, but buffered. If you also add "just as friends" (with a slight smile) at the number-close, it becomes ambiguous enough that the hamster will lean in the direction of the girl's desires. She knows your intent, but she can also cheat herself into thinking otherwise if she suffers from the slut-effect. Another possibility is to transpose that plausible deniability over to the friends, making it full-on logically ambiguous, where the friends aren't entirely sure about your intent either. I am unsure how to do this, if someone could suggest something I'd be grateful
9. The close must be solid, with a smile and deep eye contact, heads-turned as you walk away. I've lost plenty of girls because of half-assed closes.
10. On text everything sweet. No "elipsis game" or push-pull or anything that you'd use in America. The moment you give the friends any reason to disqualify you, they will.
11. On dates, my routine for loosening the date-to-bed process is I will bring up bad dating experiences. After she tells me hers, I say: "I remember this girl, many years ago who wanted to wait for sex because she "liked me too" much, ha, it amazes me sometimes how women think. Eventually I went on to date other girls because she was playing with me, but she flooded me with texts for weeks. I had to delete her number".
12. Pay for dates. I wouldn't recommend this with any other nationality aside from Russia, but I'd say it is a must here.
Those are my two-cents. I've managed to successfully get quite a few lays this way, but all girls want to become your girlfriend. I have concluded that one-night-stands are impossible, and if you get one it is out of luck. The main factors to consider are: 1. Like anywhere else, become a high-value man that connected with her. 2. Present plausible deniability on your intentions to the girl and to her friends. 3. Incentivize the girl to break out of her collective mindset through a buffer-routine and through the promise of money. It's all about the friends, the reason why everybody fails here is because the friends are the final decision-makers, and if you lack their immediate approval, you have to get it indirectly by what you tell the woman.
Here is my breakdown, which I have carefully refined over about 2 years, and which has brought me consistent results.
1. The stop: Prior eye contact helps, but the effect is barely noticeable. Spanish girls get stopped by supplicating betas all the time. A front stop will yield 50% instant blowouts. You need to stop by running around. Complimenting in Spain is rampant, so it is crucial the stop is the perfect balance between dominance and vulnerability. Either you nail it or 50% she walks. Speak in English even if you speak Spanish. A Spanish-speaker will just be anchored back in her memory to all the other supplicators. Non-verbals are so important here, eye contact must be strong for the opener, and you must go low-pressure direct. A Spanish girl can smell indirect BS from miles away. When you compliment there must be plenty of "you knows" and "it's just that". If it doesn't sound like you gathered all the confidence in the world to approach, but that you are also dominant, she walks. I know I've done it right if she has a big smile on her face before I do anything, which is easy to achieve in other countries, but in Spain it is not.
2. After the vulnerability-dominance opener, you need to establish yourself as alpha. The same stuff applies here as anywhere else, teasing, negging, disagreeing, doing most of the talking... General push-pull, but it is crucial you drop the cockiness. A neg should not go further than "you look shy". Anything more and her fragile ego will tell her to walk. The Spanish woman thinks highly of herself, but the strategy is not put her down but to raise yourself up above her. Putting her down does not work. Taking the piss out of her works, but only to establish yourself as high-quality in that immediate moment. It is like a key that opens a door to the next chamber in the game, but you have to use the key immediately. While a girl from another nationality might date you if she finds you attractive, a Spanish woman will not.
3. During that initial push-pull chit-chat, she will shit-test heavily. This is easy to deal with, and is no different than any other nationality. It is also crucial that you suggestthat you are living there permanently. I usually include this in my first tease after the opener, almost in routine form, because it is probably the most important factor that she knows this. I say: "I've been living here for ages, but..."
4. When she likes you, the first question will come out, and it is always the same: "What do you do?". The answer to this one is incredibly important. The factors are: 1. It must seem important to her. 2. It must come off as a serious and plausible profession to the friends. Spanish girls move in packs, which means that everything you do during the set should be not only in accordance to the girl's perception, but also to the friends' perception. Girls are gold-diggers and chances are not lying will cost you the set, so you must know how to lie: suggest, don't tell. "You know, I travelled for a few years after my studies, but once I was done with that I had friends here that helped me get so-and-so seemingly-hard-to-get job." Avoid predictable things like lawyer or doctor, but make it something that makes the friend think of a serious man. A professorship is ideal.
5. You should tell her you are at least two years older than she is. If she asks, tell her to guess, and while she is guessing ask her age. She will tell you, so add 2 years to be sure of it. Then add another 2, so be 4 more than what she says.
6. Get that comfort down hard. Cover 5 topics and keep the spotlight on her: 1. Her travelling ambitions and past. 2. How she fills her free time. 3. Get back to her job. 4. Where are how she grew up. 5. Where she'd like to be in the future. Cycle naturally through these, not in interview style. 1,2 and 3 are light comfort, 4 and 5 are deep, to get her buzzing after she leaves. I like to use Gambler's "motivations, emotions, character traits" rule, which seems to work rather well here as a way of steering the conversation. During 4 and 5 I introduce vulnerability stories, with light references to being bullied as a kid (while smiling). Tried-and-tested, it does not reduce your value.
7. Between the third and fourth comfort topic, I introduce a routine with you MUST do if you want any success whatsoever. It is to buffer the "friends effect" that will be the primary cause of your flakes in these countries. It goes as follows: "You look quite independent minded, I can see it in your eyes that your opinions matter to you more than those of others [...] But, I don't know, I can also see you taking lots of advice from your friends and... (cheeky smile)". This works to buffer the effect, but it needs to be mixed with a logical incentive (which we cover with the money bit).
8. Then, you have to deal with the slut-effect. You need to use plausible deniablity to give the girl room for rationalization. A low-pressure compliment opener mixed with push-pull is direct, but buffered. If you also add "just as friends" (with a slight smile) at the number-close, it becomes ambiguous enough that the hamster will lean in the direction of the girl's desires. She knows your intent, but she can also cheat herself into thinking otherwise if she suffers from the slut-effect. Another possibility is to transpose that plausible deniability over to the friends, making it full-on logically ambiguous, where the friends aren't entirely sure about your intent either. I am unsure how to do this, if someone could suggest something I'd be grateful
9. The close must be solid, with a smile and deep eye contact, heads-turned as you walk away. I've lost plenty of girls because of half-assed closes.
10. On text everything sweet. No "elipsis game" or push-pull or anything that you'd use in America. The moment you give the friends any reason to disqualify you, they will.
11. On dates, my routine for loosening the date-to-bed process is I will bring up bad dating experiences. After she tells me hers, I say: "I remember this girl, many years ago who wanted to wait for sex because she "liked me too" much, ha, it amazes me sometimes how women think. Eventually I went on to date other girls because she was playing with me, but she flooded me with texts for weeks. I had to delete her number".
12. Pay for dates. I wouldn't recommend this with any other nationality aside from Russia, but I'd say it is a must here.
Those are my two-cents. I've managed to successfully get quite a few lays this way, but all girls want to become your girlfriend. I have concluded that one-night-stands are impossible, and if you get one it is out of luck. The main factors to consider are: 1. Like anywhere else, become a high-value man that connected with her. 2. Present plausible deniability on your intentions to the girl and to her friends. 3. Incentivize the girl to break out of her collective mindset through a buffer-routine and through the promise of money. It's all about the friends, the reason why everybody fails here is because the friends are the final decision-makers, and if you lack their immediate approval, you have to get it indirectly by what you tell the woman.