[The Beast1]

Why are you answering her questions? She's not a cop, your boss, or your mother (even then I wouldn't explain).

Tell her to GTFO. Hairs come from all sorts of places. Not your problem, not your care.

Say, "I have no idea, but if you're here trying to collect evidence you can walk out that door." Be persistent and say, "No, i don't know, but I don't care about your personal vendetta. The door is there if you don't like it. I don't negotiate with terrorists."

I've stopped explaining my bad behavior to women. If I get caught red handed, I just own up to it and apologize (if need be). I don't explain why 100 times over and over again. It's so annoying. Otherwise, show her the door. She'll wise up and come back. If not, problem solved!

[Vendetta]

"my favorite thing to do is slowly walk up to her, look her in the eyes, grab her by the throat or a handful of hair on the back of her head, and start making out with her."

Haha! That's pretty 'Bond'!

"I've stopped explaining my bad behavior to women. If I get caught red handed, I just own up to it and apologize (if need be). I don't explain why 100 times over and over again. It's so annoying. Otherwise, show her the door. She'll wise up and come back. If not, problem solved! "

Yeah - the first time it pissed me off so I pretty much told her, well, guess it's best if you go home then.

She was also saying today that she wanted to count my condoms. She knew last time I had 14. Fuck no. I just said I won't let anyone do that.

Weirdly, she later sent me Line pictures of bunny rabbits popping out of holes saying, "Hi!"

I think the things is with just being honest is... it's impossible to snag them in the first place by being honest. I've tried it. They say, "Well, I appreciate you being honest but no thanks".

So I lie. Then once the lie is in place, it gets harder to admit the truth.

[JayJuanGee]

(12-09-2013 12:51 PM)Vendetta Wrote:  

I think the things is with just being honest is... it's impossible to snag them in the first place by being honest. I've tried it. They say, "Well, I appreciate you being honest but no thanks".

So I lie. Then once the lie is in place, it gets harder to admit the truth.

I sense that this practice of a guy's framing with the girl is NOT really about honesty.

I mean I get you that if you have some kind of philosophy that a guy should be mostly honest then that mind-set is going to come back to bite you in the ass. And, ultimately that is the wrong frame for a guy that wants to bang more than one girl at a time.


Ultimately, a guy does NOT want to be in a frame in which he is having to explain things, whether he is in a oneitis relationship or NOT, and he does NOT want the girl to be controlling the kinds of things discussed. NO problem going along with her for a while, but a girl's questioning a guy about personal beyond his comfort level, then she is merely losing perspective of her place in the relationship.

In sum, i may be willing to answer some of a girl's questions about my personal life and about my activities (b/c there may be nothing wrong with a certain level of curiosity and sharing b/c she may be showing healthy interest and curiosity and these various kinds of discussion are part of the foreplay and the generating and keeping interest); however, if she starts to attempt to control the frame too much, and if she does NOT get my hints about her going too far (whether I have to be very direct or NOT), then likely I will cut her off or at least I will put her at a distance.....

My approach will also, in part, depend upon my other options, and the more equal caliber girls waiting in the wings, the less I will tolerate. I may completely sever her from a relationship with me if she continues to persist in behavior that I am considering to be going too far. In that regard, asking about hairs is fine... and maybe even asking about condoms is o.k.... so long as she is fun about it, rather than interrogating... With the condoms, a guy can have fun with that, and ask her why she is asking or even say various ways that he uses condoms.. implying a variety of uses for them, of course, without getting defensive and just having fun with the topics. As soon as it is NOT fun, then she may have to either exit or be put at a distance.


Regarding lying and telling the truth there is a practical aspect of keeping track, and frequently, I find some variation of the truth to be much easier to keep track, but that would NOT mean that I exercise any kind of open book practice or even to create that impression. Generally, the girl is going to know that I am NOT an open book kind of guy.... and she's gotta be willing to accept that.

[DVY]

LMAO we could do a "thai girl says".

Thai girl- I dont like when you fuck me then go fuck other girls.
Thai girl- Why you 50+ condoms?
Thai girl- What stain *points on the bedsheet?
Thai girl- Baby I love you so much, but you bang other girls. You don't love me.
Thai girl- Ok fine baby, you can only have non-condom sex with me. With your other girls, you use condom
Thai girl- *Grabs limp penis* Giggles* So cute, little. Big *shakes head* monster kill me

[Celtic]

google rooshs girlfriend cheating guide. it talks about doing a csi style sweep on your place if you have a girl over.

i think if you do miss something, you could say you had a group of friends over and one of the girls needed to take a nap or passed out drunk.

[Beyond Borders]

(11-24-2013 07:42 PM)JJ Roberts Wrote:  

(11-24-2013 05:47 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

Yeah.

Easy.

Makes life a cakewalk.

G, didn't say it was easy.

I'm pretty sure the G was being serious. Not sarcastic.

[Beyond Borders]

(11-24-2013 03:06 PM)Vendetta Wrote:  

At least the other Thai girls hold up hairs and say, "not mine" and that's about that.

hahaha I think we all know which Thai girls you mean.

To be honest, normal Thai girls have a reputation for being the the most jealous women in the world. Even when you're not cheating they do these interrogations all the time. If you don't put them in their place and teach them it doesn't fly, that is. They do it to their Thai boyfriends too.

It's honestly one of the most annoying things about Thai women, in my opinion, as they'll just never trust you even if you're faithful.

That said, a lot of them will also stick with a guy they know is cheating, crossing their fingers he'll come around. Her bunny text was a typical icebreaker preceding her completely ignoring the subject until next time.

As crazy emotional as they are, they seem to thrive on being a sucker in love, with all the ups and downs that come with it. Or have just given up on the idea of ever finding a faithful man.

Quote:

Whenever I start feeling sorry for girls, I remind myself how often I've felt utterly destroyed by their actions in the past and it emboldens me to persevere, stone cold and without weakness.

Well...kind of unfair considering you're taking the dysfunction of American women out on Asian broads, especially if she's really a "good sort" as you say (though she may not necessarily be). Not that I've never broken an innocent girl's heart, as I've done my share in the Land of Smiles and back home, but it bears keeping in mind.

I'm actually an honesty-is-the-best-policy kind of guy but when I was a drinker I was always making myself dishonest - when in a relationship anyways, when not in one I made no excuses for my fun. With Asian women I find the best way to deal with it is to joke the subject away without answering and let them draw their own conclusions from that. If you tell them straight up you're banging other broads in the beginning, you're right that a lot of them will roll out.

It's not a lie if you refuse to answer the questions, though, and that tends to be enough to keep all but the most conservative of them around.

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

[LeightonBlackstock]

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

This makes me terrified to pump and dump here :O.

Recently I've taken to Neil Strauss's advice of always messaging the girl the next day, even if I have buyer's remorse.

[Beyond Borders]

(12-10-2013 09:18 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

This makes me terrified to pump and dump here :O.

Recently I've taken to Neil Strauss's advice of always messaging the girl the next day.

haha I thought that might get someone.

It's honestly not a big concern unless you've been with someone for a while. They're not going to cut off some guy's wanker after just sleeping with him once. If they were planning on marriage or are married and (especially) depending on him as the breadwinner, well, chances start to go up a "tad bit."

For the typical guy running around banging women there I'd say don't worry about it.

But...then again...with an emotional imbalance (more so than other Thai women) and the idea already embedded in the culture....

[Vendetta]

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

I have actually hidden my one and only kitchen knife on a couple of occasions as I felt she was getting too crazy sad!

The time she found hair she tried insisting that I go to bed while she would just sit in the living room. Nah. It was then I told her best if she leave. I imagined her waking me up with a knife at my throat.

Or worse.

[Beyond Borders]

(12-10-2013 09:25 AM)Vendetta Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

I have actually hidden my one and only kitchen knife on a couple of occasions as I felt she was getting too crazy sad!

The time she found hair she tried insisting that I go to bed while she would just sit in the living room. Nah. It was then I told her best if she leave. I imagined her waking me up with a knife at my throat.

Or worse.

I used to run with a bunch of Thai guys and I have one Thai buddy - nicest guy you ever met and skinny as a rail - and he has a big scar on his arm. Asked our other homies once what happened to him and turns out his bitch of a girlfriend, who I was also friends with (you learn to accept that some of these women are just demonic crazy lol), shanked him in the arm.

Not a bar girl at all. Sweet, clean-looking Thai girl from a middle class family. Didn't drink or anything and actually quite a looker.

When I acted shocked, all my friends just shrugged and said, well, he cheated on her...

Even the men completely accepted it as a valid reason for your woman gashing your arm open.

Shows what I know...hahaha

They said he just turned and ran away from her. I must admit imagining him running from her bleeding out of his arm and her eyes bugging out (refer to the pissed look in Thai soap operas) got me laughing a little bit, especially considering they were still together.

Went out with the dude one night and he eagerly banged a prostitute in a Thai whorehouse without a condum. Dude looks like a young teenager but certainly living on the edge.

[Vendetta]

(12-10-2013 09:29 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:25 AM)Vendetta Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

I have actually hidden my one and only kitchen knife on a couple of occasions as I felt she was getting too crazy sad!

The time she found hair she tried insisting that I go to bed while she would just sit in the living room. Nah. It was then I told her best if she leave. I imagined her waking me up with a knife at my throat.

Or worse.

I used to run with a bunch of Thai guys and I have one Thai buddy - nicest guy you ever met and skinny as a rail - and he has a big scar on his arm. Asked our other homies once what happened to him and turns out his bitch of a girlfriend, who I was also friends with (you learn to accept that some of these women are just demonic crazy lol), shanked him in the arm.

Not a bar girl at all. Sweet, clean-looking Thai girl from a middle class family. Didn't drink or anything and actually quite a looker.

When I acted shocked, all my friends just shrugged and said, well, he cheated on her...

Even the men completely accepted it as a valid reason for your woman gashing your arm open.

Shows what I know...hahaha

They said he just turned and ran away from her. I must admit imagining him running from her bleeding out of her arm got me laughing a little bit, especially considering they were still together.

Went out with the dude one night and he eagerly banged a prostitute in a Thai whorehouse without a condum. Dude looks like a young teenager but certainly living on the edge.

Haha, what do you think of that Leighton?

Welcome to Thailand!!

[LeightonBlackstock]

(12-10-2013 09:22 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:18 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

This makes me terrified to pump and dump here :O.

Recently I've taken to Neil Strauss's advice of always messaging the girl the next day.

haha I thought that might get someone.

It's honestly not a big concern unless you've been with someone for a while. They're not going to cut off some guy's wanker after just sleeping with him once. If they were planning on marriage or are married and (especially) depending on him as the breadwinner, well, chances start to go up a "tad bit."

For the typical guy running around banging women there I'd say don't worry about it.

Haha, ok that's good to know. I honestly do have an irrational fear about this though.

When I was here in July. I slept with a girl and moved my stuff into her room for the next night because I thought it'd be better than staying with the backpackers on Sukhumvit Soi 38. (Most things in life are better than that).

But I slowly realised she was mental (she smashed a bottle over a Korean girl's head in London and she made a knife action near my balls to make a point that 'I shouldn't be a butterfly man'.)

She wanted to go and walk around the riverside that night, but before we did that she wanted to go to the hairdresser's. I dropped her off and said I'd wait in the internet café opposite. I then waited for the elevator doors to close in front of her, then I walked back to the hotel, went up to the room, grabbed all my stuff, walked hastily downstairs, did a faux-calm Mr Bean walk through the lobby and went to another part of the city.

I pulled her from Levels.

I'm going there tonight :/.

[Beyond Borders]

(12-10-2013 09:33 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

Haha, ok that's good to know. I honestly do have an irrational fear about this though.

Well, a healthy dose of irrational fear isn't the worst thing to have in Southeast Asia. lol As long as you don't have so much it ruins your time.

You'll probably be fine. She's no doubt been with a lot of other whiteboys since July and chances are you won't even see her. If you do, she'll probably be with another guy.

If not and she recognizes you, smile and raise your glass like nothing ever happened. If she looks unsure about recognizing you, pretend you don't see her.

If she confronts you somewhat mellow, have a dumb excuse, even if it makes no sense, and change the subject. Or immerse yourself with another girl (she won't want to have problems with another bargirl).

If she gets really confrontational though and throws more than a few dagger glances, I'd find a way to exit and go somewhere else.

If she threatens you and demands a little cash, well, you might consider kicking down a couple thousand baht just to be done with it. Hand it over with a smile and put it behind you.

A smile and/or some extortion money go a long way in Thailand.

[Vendetta]

(12-10-2013 10:17 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

have a dumb excuse, even if it makes no sense

This isn't bad advice actually as it's probably better for a Thai person to hear a lie but which saves them 'face' than to have the truth be told if it makes them lose 'face'.

This is why they lie all the fucking time, even public officials etc.

[Beyond Borders]

That's why I gave it, Man! lol

I try not to make "too much" of a habit of talking out of my ass and have a pretty solid understanding of how to deal with Thais from various backgrounds.

It's also pretty normal there to avoid anything uncomfortable or confrontational (unless her lid has already flipped), so if you give her the out, she will probably take it. Confrontation is usually a no-no. For the same reason don't hesitate to turn and beeline out of the place as soon as she raises her voice. It's okay to run from your problems in Thailand. lol

Just imagine you are also trying to save face for yourself and you'll skate right through. Because even if she wants to push it, her cultural instincts will keep her from putting you in that position.

If she is a low-class bargirl, as I presumed in my post above, then it's hard to know exactly what to expect though. They're accustomed to ignoring social ettiquette, but they're also accustomed to flaky off and on sexual relationships and all the bullshit that comes with them.

I've had some dodgy run-ins with nightlife girls too but in most cases when we saw each other again we just completely ignored one another or exchanged an awkward smile. I'd start bullshitting with whatever new guy they had to show I was on her side and not blowing her cover. Often ended up joking around with each other or banging again some other time.

Had a love/hate relationship with the seedy after-hours bars for years. I'd hang out with more respectable Thais but late night if I was drunk and had no proper vag on layaway I'd hop on my motorbike and race over to the dark side. I swear sometimes after seeing these broads with the hundredth guy you felt like you were in on the whole thing together. haha

[JayJuanGee]

(12-10-2013 09:33 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:22 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:18 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote:  

(12-10-2013 09:07 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Have fun. And don't sleep next to kitchen knives. These girls are also well known for the "slice."

This makes me terrified to pump and dump here :O.

Recently I've taken to Neil Strauss's advice of always messaging the girl the next day.

haha I thought that might get someone.

It's honestly not a big concern unless you've been with someone for a while. They're not going to cut off some guy's wanker after just sleeping with him once. If they were planning on marriage or are married and (especially) depending on him as the breadwinner, well, chances start to go up a "tad bit."

For the typical guy running around banging women there I'd say don't worry about it.

Haha, ok that's good to know. I honestly do have an irrational fear about this though.

When I was here in July. I slept with a girl and moved my stuff into her room for the next night because I thought it'd be better than staying with the backpackers on Sukhumvit Soi 38. (Most things in life are better than that).

But I slowly realised she was mental (she smashed a bottle over a Korean girl's head in London and she made a knife action near my balls to make a point that 'I shouldn't be a butterfly man'.)

She wanted to go and walk around the riverside that night, but before we did that she wanted to go to the hairdresser's. I dropped her off and said I'd wait in the internet café opposite. I then waited for the elevator doors to close in front of her, then I walked back to the hotel, went up to the room, grabbed all my stuff, walked hastily downstairs, did a faux-calm Mr Bean walk through the lobby and went to another part of the city.

I pulled her from Levels.

I'm going there tonight :/.

@BB - You give really solid suggestions concerning various scenarios that may play out.. Situation A, B, C, D..... thus reaction W, X, Y, Z.... That is really great shit to consider the various ways these interactions might go down.


@ LeightonB.... You describe a situation in which we do NOT always know what we are getting into, and I agree with you b/c I have experienced some of my own drama with women..... and in my experience, the drama gets worse the longer you know the girl... and surely some girls and cultures seem to be more predisposed to drama.... but their true personalities come out more and more the more that time passes.

Like you say, as we start to see evidence of a underlying psycho, I think that it is real good to exit early before thing get too shady or out of control. On the other hand, guys are NOT always going to know how to play it very well, and some guys may be willing to live on the edge a little bit... I prefer NOT to have any of my useful parts damaged via crazy girl wielding a knife.