A couple of nights ago I went out for the first time with this girl who I've been flirting with for a while now (workplace social circle, she knows other girls I've dated within that circle). It was a quick setup -- a day's notice -- and it was open as far as time and place was concerned. I just told her we're going out after work "tomorrow". When the next day came, she attempted to give me shit twice -- she tried to downgrade it to lunch instead, which I said no to, then an hour before we both get off work she tried to press me for an actual venue then suggested we go to a pricey "dinner-date" place nearby for a quick chat and commented that my plan to "just walk up the street and hit a few places that suits the mood of the moment" was a "drawn out process". It took her three consecutive long text messages to explain all that hamster-ish shit, to which I replied with "nevermind". She replied "fineee. it is 6 then" and the date pushed through.
A bit of walk led us to this meh Japanese place. I made her pay the tab there and then we bounced to a pub for some drinks where I took care of the tab. I was up to my usual sexualized banter but it felt like the mood was overly friendly. Kino wasn't much help there because she's very used to me touching her all the time (although I know I should've upped that to new heights during that night). She expressed some disappointment over not being able to make me open up more while she was there telling me lots of things personal about her. She kept asking me about my n count, for example, but all she ever got was "what does your gut tell you? trust your instincts, it's always right" (she said 17 is in her head, but she doesn't know why).
I called her out twice for minding her phone while we were talking. Towards the end of the night, the mood has become too friendly that she felt okay to ring two of our friends (1 gay guy + 1 semi-player) who happen to be nearby to come join us at the pub which they did.
Me and this girl got to spend like 4 hours together before the 2 guys showed up and after they showed up another 2 hours as a group (it was fun hanging out with the 2 guys but it totally killed my vibe). We ended up walking home together but by this time I wasn't feeling it anymore. I told her point-blank that this night was disappointing and didn't even bothered to walk her to her door. It was like getting turned off and your mind completely veers away from the thought of sex after that. I went to bed not even thinking of her.
The next day, she approached me at my desk at work to chit-chat and she saw a book about psychological persuasion lying on my table (I work in Marketing) and commented "are you using that on me?" I said, "take it. read it. so next time, you'll know how you'll get me" and left it at that. She walked off with that book saying "ill text you later". No contact since then (2 days running) and I don't intend to interact with her for a while.
So, what do you think boys? What's your gut feel in this situation?
A bit of walk led us to this meh Japanese place. I made her pay the tab there and then we bounced to a pub for some drinks where I took care of the tab. I was up to my usual sexualized banter but it felt like the mood was overly friendly. Kino wasn't much help there because she's very used to me touching her all the time (although I know I should've upped that to new heights during that night). She expressed some disappointment over not being able to make me open up more while she was there telling me lots of things personal about her. She kept asking me about my n count, for example, but all she ever got was "what does your gut tell you? trust your instincts, it's always right" (she said 17 is in her head, but she doesn't know why).
I called her out twice for minding her phone while we were talking. Towards the end of the night, the mood has become too friendly that she felt okay to ring two of our friends (1 gay guy + 1 semi-player) who happen to be nearby to come join us at the pub which they did.
Me and this girl got to spend like 4 hours together before the 2 guys showed up and after they showed up another 2 hours as a group (it was fun hanging out with the 2 guys but it totally killed my vibe). We ended up walking home together but by this time I wasn't feeling it anymore. I told her point-blank that this night was disappointing and didn't even bothered to walk her to her door. It was like getting turned off and your mind completely veers away from the thought of sex after that. I went to bed not even thinking of her.
The next day, she approached me at my desk at work to chit-chat and she saw a book about psychological persuasion lying on my table (I work in Marketing) and commented "are you using that on me?" I said, "take it. read it. so next time, you'll know how you'll get me" and left it at that. She walked off with that book saying "ill text you later". No contact since then (2 days running) and I don't intend to interact with her for a while.
So, what do you think boys? What's your gut feel in this situation?