[weambulance]

^ I don't have a great answer for you, because the words alone don't mean much. There's a big difference between a girl sounding annoyed or bored with a "you're not done yet?" and a girl grabbing you hungrily and saying "please come for me, I want to see you come!".

I've never had a girl be in a hurry to finish after literally only a minute or two. Sometimes (often) girls are used to guys who can only last a few minutes, and it takes a bit to train them for a longer sexual experience.

I've only had one girl negatively ask me why I wasn't done yet. It was the girl I lost my virginity to, the very first time I had sex with her, and the sex was not good. Other girls have begged for me to come and whatnot but it's fun to turn that into teasing her, "you don't get my come yet, you haven't earned it" sort of stuff.

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To answer the thread... I don't really care how much they orgasm. They generally seem pretty happy when I'm done with them, either way.

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But during sex most women just want to lose all ability to control the situation. It's one reason I've only ever done doggy-style or missionary on a first lay. Having her on top might work if you've been fucking for a long time, but for a new lay don't let her have any control.

She can be on top without having control. I like to have a girl straddle me, put her feet flat so she's squatting down on my dick, then pull her chest down toward me and pound up into her. You can really get a jackhammer going like that if you have good core strength; gravity is doing a lot of the work for you so you can go very fast. It works better if she just relaxes and doesn't try to get in rhythm with you, because it screws everything up if she gets off rhythm.

[party1981]

I've made about 20% of the girls I fuck come.

The biggest factors, by far, are:

1. How orgasmic she is; how much she masturbates; how much she watches porn; how much she tells me what to do because she knows what that is

2. The differential between my hotness and her hotness: the more relatively hot I am, the more likely she is to come.

Multiple girls have told me that they never orgasm. Sometimes they masturbate or watch porn, but they don't know how to make themselves orgasm. Well, fuck that, if you don't know how to get yourself off, I'm probably not going to do it (and I don't care either way).

I've also met girls who require way too much stimulation to come. They'll start masturbating, and it just take 8 minutes of fast, hard, constant pounding with their fingers to finally get there. It's exhausting just to watch them do it, and I don't make a great effort to do the same thing.

Re: the second point: it was the less attractive girls who squirted all over my bed. If she was trashy, uneducated, and/or plain looking (yes, I've hooked up with less attractive women in moments of loneliness and weakness - sometimes that's better than Pornhub), then she was more likely to come.

As I've gotten older, I've gotten better at sex. One of my recent lays told me afterward that she had multiple orgasms - I had no idea.

I also want to distinguish between:

A. "I don't care whether you orgasm" is the best frame of mind to have
B. Whether a woman orgasms is not important to her attraction to you and how satisfied she feels in the relationship

I tend to agree with A, but I know that B is simply false. There are some scientific studies showing that female orgasms predict female happiness and relationship longevity. Most of the happy couples I know are couples where the guy makes the girl come (e.g., every single time). I would love to have that magic touch and ability to make girls come every time - I don't, but it's a great skill to have.

One last note: I met a guy/girl couple at a swingers sex party who said he could make every girl in that mansion squirt with his fingers. And I believed him (he made the girl squirt in front of all of us). I've tried to do what he did, but I can't reproduce his results. I'd love to learn from someone like that. This also shows that there are several (3+) different types of female orgasms, connected to fundamentally different nerves in the female genital area (clitoral, cervical, etc.).

[soup]

When I want to, and she has to be ready for it.

[AneroidOcean]

(06-12-2014 01:37 PM)party1981 Wrote:  

Multiple girls have told me that they never orgasm. Sometimes they masturbate or watch porn, but they don't know how to make themselves orgasm. Well, fuck that, if you don't know how to get yourself off, I'm probably not going to do it (and I don't care either way).

This is a good point. It is ultimately EVERY person's job to get THEMSELVES off. Yes, it's absolutely something that can be helped along/caused by the partner, but if the girl has a mental block you won't be able to get her off. That's not a situation where I'd really even count it as a failure if she can't get herself off in the first place.

Making a girl cum is fucking fun and hot. I wouldn't want to fuck a girl that I can't get off. I enjoy how they look/react/feel when they cum.

[Yatagan]

Where's the "who gives a fuck if they orgasm?" poll option?

[Catch 22]

They're orgasming now? Good for them.

Next is somebody going to tell me the clitoris is real?

[ColSpanker]

An old player told me years ago to always leave them smiling and they'll come back for more.

[poly_72]

Ill give myself a 75%. I dont know but when I get a slutty chick I fuck her like no tommorow but when I get a good clearn girl. I get selfish and I could care less if they orgasm. Its wierd.