I did a search and didn't find anything in the forum covering getting into state, and how important it is (if it is at all).
PUA's define being in "STATE" as being in the zone. That feeling of impenetrability, where you feel like you're a bad motherfucker and no one can touch you. Like John Travolta in the club scenes in "Saturday Night Fever".
You can either get into state (or at least start getting in state) before you leave home, or you can get into state (or start getting into state) after you're already out and your night has already started.
Doing it at home is basically pre-gaming, and consists of whatever your pre-game ritual is. Going out cold is just that, going out cold; no pre-gaming outside of cleaning up & getting dressed.
In my experience, those days/nights when I just get up and leave without spending any time getting my state up are far less memorable than the days/nights when I put the time in to warm up. I still have fun either way, but when I warm up & boost my state before I leave home, my game is way more potent, and those are usually the nights where the craziest shit happens.
When I go out and I'm not in state: I have to get myself into a talkative mood. If I'm with a friend, that means talking shit with him until my words flow like Magic Don Juan; if I'm solo, that means short conversations with everyone I walk by until the social momentum builds up. Last time I went out cold & out of state, me & my friend walked around for an hour trying to build that momentum, and I didn't get into state until after I got rejected a couple times, and had a conversation with a butch bartender about Doug Funny's love for Pattie Mayonnaise. A couple of free whiskey shots later I was ready for action. Had fun that night, but nothing crazy...except for going to Clermont Lounge...two words: OLD Strippers.
When I spend an hour getting ready and boosting my state at home: As soon as I walk out the door my game is flowing. I'm feeling good, and I'm ready to run game on anybody. I'm in the zone and I don't give any fucks. Last time I went out already in the zone, I prevented a mini-riot, coached a random nerdy Asian kid into a club make out with a blonde party slut, got a few make outs myself, got a hand job next to the DJ booth (not from the DJ), AMOG'd a 7'0 tall giant (fuck do they feed these kids?), had shots with some dude who turned out to be an RSD student, danced like a coked out Cuban in Miami, had meaningful conversations with 20+ random people throughout the night, turned down a white cougar at the club recruiting black guys for a gang bang, and got served pancakes at iHop by a drag queen (possibly a tranny). Good times.
I do a few different things to get myself into state before going out:
1. Light work-out: gets the blood flowing and wakes me up. Push-ups, jumping jacks, sit-ups, jump rope, shadow boxing. 2-3 minutes of each followed by a light stretch usually does the trick for me.
2. Hot shower. 15 minutes in the heat and I'm clean and loose. I usually wash with dove on a daily basis since it's less harsh than the stuff with fragrances, but I might go with Irish Springs or something with a heavy scent for a night out.
3. James Brown. Blues or Funk depending on what I'm going for that night; do I wanna be cool, laid back, & mysterious, or do I wanna walk around like my dick weights a ton with a "The World Is Mine" attitude. James Brown usually covers both sides. The key part to really getting my state through the roof, I dance like James Brown while I get ready (minus the splits), this shit works. The GOAT.
4. The clothes. Clean & wrinkle free. Look in the mirror, get my shit tight (face, hair, smell, etc.), just the way I want it to look.
5. Walk out the door with one expectation: to absolutely kill it.
My best nights were nights I got into my zone BEFORE leaving the house.
Do you see a difference in your game when you're already in state before going out -VS- leaving the house cold and getting into state while you're out gaming?
How much does boosting your state before going out matter to your game?
What do you do to get yourself into state before you go out?
PUA's define being in "STATE" as being in the zone. That feeling of impenetrability, where you feel like you're a bad motherfucker and no one can touch you. Like John Travolta in the club scenes in "Saturday Night Fever".
You can either get into state (or at least start getting in state) before you leave home, or you can get into state (or start getting into state) after you're already out and your night has already started.
Doing it at home is basically pre-gaming, and consists of whatever your pre-game ritual is. Going out cold is just that, going out cold; no pre-gaming outside of cleaning up & getting dressed.
In my experience, those days/nights when I just get up and leave without spending any time getting my state up are far less memorable than the days/nights when I put the time in to warm up. I still have fun either way, but when I warm up & boost my state before I leave home, my game is way more potent, and those are usually the nights where the craziest shit happens.
When I go out and I'm not in state: I have to get myself into a talkative mood. If I'm with a friend, that means talking shit with him until my words flow like Magic Don Juan; if I'm solo, that means short conversations with everyone I walk by until the social momentum builds up. Last time I went out cold & out of state, me & my friend walked around for an hour trying to build that momentum, and I didn't get into state until after I got rejected a couple times, and had a conversation with a butch bartender about Doug Funny's love for Pattie Mayonnaise. A couple of free whiskey shots later I was ready for action. Had fun that night, but nothing crazy...except for going to Clermont Lounge...two words: OLD Strippers.
When I spend an hour getting ready and boosting my state at home: As soon as I walk out the door my game is flowing. I'm feeling good, and I'm ready to run game on anybody. I'm in the zone and I don't give any fucks. Last time I went out already in the zone, I prevented a mini-riot, coached a random nerdy Asian kid into a club make out with a blonde party slut, got a few make outs myself, got a hand job next to the DJ booth (not from the DJ), AMOG'd a 7'0 tall giant (fuck do they feed these kids?), had shots with some dude who turned out to be an RSD student, danced like a coked out Cuban in Miami, had meaningful conversations with 20+ random people throughout the night, turned down a white cougar at the club recruiting black guys for a gang bang, and got served pancakes at iHop by a drag queen (possibly a tranny). Good times.
I do a few different things to get myself into state before going out:
1. Light work-out: gets the blood flowing and wakes me up. Push-ups, jumping jacks, sit-ups, jump rope, shadow boxing. 2-3 minutes of each followed by a light stretch usually does the trick for me.
2. Hot shower. 15 minutes in the heat and I'm clean and loose. I usually wash with dove on a daily basis since it's less harsh than the stuff with fragrances, but I might go with Irish Springs or something with a heavy scent for a night out.
3. James Brown. Blues or Funk depending on what I'm going for that night; do I wanna be cool, laid back, & mysterious, or do I wanna walk around like my dick weights a ton with a "The World Is Mine" attitude. James Brown usually covers both sides. The key part to really getting my state through the roof, I dance like James Brown while I get ready (minus the splits), this shit works. The GOAT.
4. The clothes. Clean & wrinkle free. Look in the mirror, get my shit tight (face, hair, smell, etc.), just the way I want it to look.
5. Walk out the door with one expectation: to absolutely kill it.
My best nights were nights I got into my zone BEFORE leaving the house.
Do you see a difference in your game when you're already in state before going out -VS- leaving the house cold and getting into state while you're out gaming?
How much does boosting your state before going out matter to your game?
What do you do to get yourself into state before you go out?
"What's the difference between us.
We can start at the penis.
Or scream I just don't give a fuck and see who really means it."
- Marshall Bruce Mathers III