all my notches (10) so far have been from nightgame. the underlying frame is clear: this is a bar/club and i'm talking to you because i'm attracted to you. regardless of whether i open direct or indirect, in a short amount of time i will escalate things verbally and physically, and so if we don't smash on the same night, then i'll get your number and invite you out on a 1on1 date, which is a prelude to a smash.
however last night i tried something new. i went to a language meetup in my city. it is a mix of natives trying to learn new languages and foreigners trying to learn english. i went because there is also a pick up angle to it, though i don't yet know exactly how deep it goes.
i ended up talking to this black french girl who's here for 3 months to learn english. she was tall and thin. strong bbc genetics, like the kind of woman who'd give birth to olympians, lol. anyway, we had a decent chat. i came off cool and interesting and funny and so on, talking about life in the city, my job, my desire to learn spanish, etc. eventually i got the number, asking if she'd need an "english language buddy" or some shit like that. i teased her a bit on her first name (celine... celine dion) and we did that european-style kissing on the cheeks farewell and then i bounced.
now this is a completely indirect frame i'm starting out with. this shit is new to me. i don't know if there's any inkling of attraction at all. i mean, there may be, she could've come out that night to farm dick prospects, but then again for all i know i really am just a 'new friend' to her.
how does one get out of this indirect frame? what steps do you suggest in terms of texting/date set ups? please help me because i wanna bust all kinds of nuts up inside of her.
if i had to guess on my own, i'd say i should invite her early one evening to show her around the city and get coffee or something, and build attraction/comfort/whatever from scratch, and THEN go for the bar hop.
however last night i tried something new. i went to a language meetup in my city. it is a mix of natives trying to learn new languages and foreigners trying to learn english. i went because there is also a pick up angle to it, though i don't yet know exactly how deep it goes.
i ended up talking to this black french girl who's here for 3 months to learn english. she was tall and thin. strong bbc genetics, like the kind of woman who'd give birth to olympians, lol. anyway, we had a decent chat. i came off cool and interesting and funny and so on, talking about life in the city, my job, my desire to learn spanish, etc. eventually i got the number, asking if she'd need an "english language buddy" or some shit like that. i teased her a bit on her first name (celine... celine dion) and we did that european-style kissing on the cheeks farewell and then i bounced.
now this is a completely indirect frame i'm starting out with. this shit is new to me. i don't know if there's any inkling of attraction at all. i mean, there may be, she could've come out that night to farm dick prospects, but then again for all i know i really am just a 'new friend' to her.
how does one get out of this indirect frame? what steps do you suggest in terms of texting/date set ups? please help me because i wanna bust all kinds of nuts up inside of her.
if i had to guess on my own, i'd say i should invite her early one evening to show her around the city and get coffee or something, and build attraction/comfort/whatever from scratch, and THEN go for the bar hop.