The narcissistic asshole in me thought this the whole time I was writing this:
With the advent of the Internet, social media and mind-numbingly superficial websites such as Tumblr and Reddit has allowed the growth of a curious corner of the web: people who don't identify as gay, straight or transsexual.
Check out this picture:
Clearly, this woman is starting from herself and extrapolating outwards. As she admits, she is a white, heterosexual female narcissist. If she was gay, she would most likely put trans people on the bottom of the hierarchy, then gay people right above that.
Assuming transsexuality is a real biological phenomenon, this woman thinks being born a black transsexual is better than being pan or demi. Wow, identifying as pansexual or demiromantic must really be an awful, terrible experience as the heterosexist patriarchy must really be oppressing the asexuals, the pansexuals and the demiromantics? Just what are these horribly put upon folk?
Before we consider the identities, remember narcissism produces much unused emotional energy. Often times, it is burned off in one's own head as self-absorbed fantasies in which they are the star. It can be burned off playing video games or being a keyboard jockey on the Internet. Suppression of intellect - which is a very real and dangerous concept in America - results in incredible levels of intellectual masturbation, which will become apparent shortly.
Wait, people see you as a robot? Do they mean a narcissist?
The most important concept that birthed all the ensuing concepts of pansexuality and demiromanticism is asexuality. Asexuality is generally defined as a person who lacks primary sexual attraction and/or sexual desire. Primary sexual attraction is defined as meeting somebody and, without knowing them, deciding they are sexually attractive based solely on physical appearances. This may or may not result in sexual desire or arousal. Sexual attraction is regarded as non-consensual and sexual desire is regarded as the consensual part of expressing sexuality.
Further, is the concept of contingent sexual attraction, otherwise known as romantic attraction or post-romantic arousal. This concept is that somebody is not motivated by primary sexual attraction, but after getting to know somebody, romantic feelings are engendered and sexual desire necessarily follows, but, as always, is either acted upon or not, depending on the consent of the parties. If the romantic attraction fades, then the sexual desire does as well, as the sexual desire was exclusively based out of romantic feelings. Contrasted with primary sexual attraction that leads to romantic attraction, the primary attraction can possibly remain after the romantic aspects fade away.
Still, there are broad categories of attraction based on sex or gender. The two overarching categories are of primary sexual attraction and romantic attraction. There are, obviously, hetero-, homo- and bi-identified people, but there are also people are identify as pansexual, who claim to be attracted to anybody without regard to the artifices of America's patriarchal gender binary. There are also demiromantics who never experience primary sexual attraction and only experience romantic attraction - i.e. their sexuality is completely contingent on emotionally connecting with a person before sleeping with them - if they do at all.
An important concept is extenuating circumstances. Often, as they are so ruthlessly oppressed by society, they are forced to have sex with people that they don't believe they are attracted to. Remember, their identity is the most important factor in their life, so if narcissistic armor breaks one night or in one relationship, it needs to get rebuilt quickly. Like I pointed out today here, there is a real, palpable danger inherent interacting with these people, especially sexually. If somebody that knows of their identity as X, Y or Z and sees them with you, especially in a sexual manner, you could be risking physical confrontation, a harassment allegation or being arrested for rape. These people are thoroughly smashed in the head - don't interact with them, at all.
What is stunning about this movement and the people identifying with it, is the complete inability to understand themselves or sexuality. It is completely clinical and weirdly hierarchical & pseudo-intellectual fare that endeavors to use intellectual energy to normalize their pathologies.
I don't believe asexuality is a biological phenomenon precisely because it serves no evolutionary purpose. As some evolutionary biologists shrewdly note, a lack of sexual desire is very much heritable.
One of the founding persons of this movement is a man who goes by the handle of Rabger. He has a famous post online that outlines much of what I stated above. First, he displays his narcissism, as he assumes women decide to sleep with men purely based on physical attraction. He doesn't consider women's sexuality in his approach. Women don't worry about this, as under his model of asexuality, as they immediately and narcissistically assume they fall under the demiromantic prong. Some women admit they are attracted to men outright, but as any player knows, her perception of physical attraction is fueled by body language, perceived confidence and physical size. Often with these sorts of people - like when they see boys playing with dolls and girls playing with Legos -they do little to ascertain what actually is going in the minds of the kids; they don't understand that when a man or a woman says a person is hot it is usually based on different criteria.
This approach to sexuality is based purely out of personal interests and how they are perceived by others. Liberal society teaches people - most especially in college - that there is nothing worse than being a white, heterosexual male. What complicates this message is that minorities are still subject to racial discrimination, but the victim hierarchy is hotly disputed and many outlets try to flip the hierarchy completely and down white people and heterosexuals. Like I said, this message of hating white, heterosexual men is by far and away most pushed by college. White, heterosexual women absolutely fear social judgment for meeting 66% of that nasty privilege, so they immediately double-down on feminism and male privilege in order to ward off disapproval from authority figures and social peers.
This movement reeks of that approach, as it is filled with people that are terrified of social judgment, but are also filled with the terror at becoming somebody. The fact many asexuals talk about masturbating frequently or not at all both strongly suggest narcissism. Sitting behind your computer monitor and tugging it to women you will never meet or fuck IS narcissistic. Not even touching your own dick? The softest of men do this, as they can't even admit they even have a sexuality. If they were to masturbate, it would most likely be generously lubricated by their tears.
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The evidence is just piling up. This man clearly never got healthy amounts of approval from women growing up, so has chosen the simp route. The incessant need for reassurances of love from a woman says that he never got unconditional love from a woman as a boy. Needing ice cream to be spoon-fed to you from a woman, as a grown man? There are just some men you can't reach.
The narcissistic sexual hierarchy is on full display here, as women with male abandonment issues link up with inverted narcissistic males and produce the unholy union otherwise known as relationships outside the "false" binary of hetero and homosexual unions.
Completely and utterly unable to properly understand themselves and their impulses, they need ideologies erected that reflect the complexes they have tended to throughout their life. Asexuality and all that is just the fanciful and narcissistic blowing up of heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality into weird permutations such as pansexuality.
As previously noted, this phenomenon isn't happening in the ghetto of a city or some rural trailer, it is happening on college campuses and on the computer screens of disaffected teenagers and 20-somethings. People with real shit to deal with aren't wondering if their sexual attraction is based out of the gender binary. All the unused emotional and intellectual energy that is suppressed by modern society explodes in movements such as these.
Everybody has a sexuality. Men are attracted to youth and beauty. Women are hypergamous and attracted to power and the Dark Triad of psychological traits. These uncomfortable and universal truths about humanity are eminently displeasing to the privileged crowds of the asexual, demiromantic and pansexual people. Told being privileged is a social condition so utterly hateful, they need to find ways to escape the narrowed eyes of society and authority figures.
As expected, they draw on their narcissism and moral puritanism and cough up some scientifically unsound bullshit about their lack of sexuality. The needless prioritization of social approval, combined with their fear of becoming somebody in real life when they can be anything in their head is what fuels this movement.
The fear of being somebody plays out in a few ways. For example, if they offer a contrary opinion in a particular forum, they risk being labeled a racist, misogynist or homophobic. These people learn dissenting opinions are only voiced by bad people or authority figures. When an authority on race - often a black person - offers a dissenting opinion, it is taken seriously if more important authority figures approve. The needle is only moved farther and farther towards claims of hatred - i.e. we live in a misogynistic society, we live in a deeply misogynistic society or we live in a such thoroughly male-dominated and disgustingly misogynistic society that women aren't even allowed to express any emotion, as a woman, without male approval.
See my point? Since authority figures in society are seeking to cleave the in's from the out's, people who voice dissenting opinions are put 100% on the defensive in order to prove they are not a member of the supremely evil (hateful) out-group. As such, the in-group can push the needle to dangerous extremes and caricatures of their beliefs.
In order to not be in that put upon group of being privileged, these sorts of people seek to create classes of people based on their narcissistic self valuation. The constant bleating of people identifying for themselves as to who they are is a drum beat to death in the community. Like in the Gervais Principle, these people are dimly and vaguely aware of the Matrix, but cannot handle its reality. Trapped between being Clueless and being Losers, they narcissistically suppress their thoughts and utilize this idea of asexuality and its spawn to avoid dealing with their real thoughts and emotions.
The suppression of emotion, of sexuality and who they are in order to avoid judgment of society and authority and, simultaneously, seek their approval is narcissism. These people are probably difficult to reach in real life and therapy, as they are so thoroughly convinced that they are so different and unique that it is nigh impossible to reach them.
Let them cry in their Lexus, as white heterosexual women, that society discriminates against their sexuality. Remember, they would be better off born a gay black man in Brooklyn. Remember that.
With the advent of the Internet, social media and mind-numbingly superficial websites such as Tumblr and Reddit has allowed the growth of a curious corner of the web: people who don't identify as gay, straight or transsexual.
Check out this picture:
Clearly, this woman is starting from herself and extrapolating outwards. As she admits, she is a white, heterosexual female narcissist. If she was gay, she would most likely put trans people on the bottom of the hierarchy, then gay people right above that.
Assuming transsexuality is a real biological phenomenon, this woman thinks being born a black transsexual is better than being pan or demi. Wow, identifying as pansexual or demiromantic must really be an awful, terrible experience as the heterosexist patriarchy must really be oppressing the asexuals, the pansexuals and the demiromantics? Just what are these horribly put upon folk?
Before we consider the identities, remember narcissism produces much unused emotional energy. Often times, it is burned off in one's own head as self-absorbed fantasies in which they are the star. It can be burned off playing video games or being a keyboard jockey on the Internet. Suppression of intellect - which is a very real and dangerous concept in America - results in incredible levels of intellectual masturbation, which will become apparent shortly.
Wait, people see you as a robot? Do they mean a narcissist?
The most important concept that birthed all the ensuing concepts of pansexuality and demiromanticism is asexuality. Asexuality is generally defined as a person who lacks primary sexual attraction and/or sexual desire. Primary sexual attraction is defined as meeting somebody and, without knowing them, deciding they are sexually attractive based solely on physical appearances. This may or may not result in sexual desire or arousal. Sexual attraction is regarded as non-consensual and sexual desire is regarded as the consensual part of expressing sexuality.
Further, is the concept of contingent sexual attraction, otherwise known as romantic attraction or post-romantic arousal. This concept is that somebody is not motivated by primary sexual attraction, but after getting to know somebody, romantic feelings are engendered and sexual desire necessarily follows, but, as always, is either acted upon or not, depending on the consent of the parties. If the romantic attraction fades, then the sexual desire does as well, as the sexual desire was exclusively based out of romantic feelings. Contrasted with primary sexual attraction that leads to romantic attraction, the primary attraction can possibly remain after the romantic aspects fade away.
Still, there are broad categories of attraction based on sex or gender. The two overarching categories are of primary sexual attraction and romantic attraction. There are, obviously, hetero-, homo- and bi-identified people, but there are also people are identify as pansexual, who claim to be attracted to anybody without regard to the artifices of America's patriarchal gender binary. There are also demiromantics who never experience primary sexual attraction and only experience romantic attraction - i.e. their sexuality is completely contingent on emotionally connecting with a person before sleeping with them - if they do at all.
An important concept is extenuating circumstances. Often, as they are so ruthlessly oppressed by society, they are forced to have sex with people that they don't believe they are attracted to. Remember, their identity is the most important factor in their life, so if narcissistic armor breaks one night or in one relationship, it needs to get rebuilt quickly. Like I pointed out today here, there is a real, palpable danger inherent interacting with these people, especially sexually. If somebody that knows of their identity as X, Y or Z and sees them with you, especially in a sexual manner, you could be risking physical confrontation, a harassment allegation or being arrested for rape. These people are thoroughly smashed in the head - don't interact with them, at all.
What is stunning about this movement and the people identifying with it, is the complete inability to understand themselves or sexuality. It is completely clinical and weirdly hierarchical & pseudo-intellectual fare that endeavors to use intellectual energy to normalize their pathologies.
I don't believe asexuality is a biological phenomenon precisely because it serves no evolutionary purpose. As some evolutionary biologists shrewdly note, a lack of sexual desire is very much heritable.
One of the founding persons of this movement is a man who goes by the handle of Rabger. He has a famous post online that outlines much of what I stated above. First, he displays his narcissism, as he assumes women decide to sleep with men purely based on physical attraction. He doesn't consider women's sexuality in his approach. Women don't worry about this, as under his model of asexuality, as they immediately and narcissistically assume they fall under the demiromantic prong. Some women admit they are attracted to men outright, but as any player knows, her perception of physical attraction is fueled by body language, perceived confidence and physical size. Often with these sorts of people - like when they see boys playing with dolls and girls playing with Legos -they do little to ascertain what actually is going in the minds of the kids; they don't understand that when a man or a woman says a person is hot it is usually based on different criteria.
This approach to sexuality is based purely out of personal interests and how they are perceived by others. Liberal society teaches people - most especially in college - that there is nothing worse than being a white, heterosexual male. What complicates this message is that minorities are still subject to racial discrimination, but the victim hierarchy is hotly disputed and many outlets try to flip the hierarchy completely and down white people and heterosexuals. Like I said, this message of hating white, heterosexual men is by far and away most pushed by college. White, heterosexual women absolutely fear social judgment for meeting 66% of that nasty privilege, so they immediately double-down on feminism and male privilege in order to ward off disapproval from authority figures and social peers.
This movement reeks of that approach, as it is filled with people that are terrified of social judgment, but are also filled with the terror at becoming somebody. The fact many asexuals talk about masturbating frequently or not at all both strongly suggest narcissism. Sitting behind your computer monitor and tugging it to women you will never meet or fuck IS narcissistic. Not even touching your own dick? The softest of men do this, as they can't even admit they even have a sexuality. If they were to masturbate, it would most likely be generously lubricated by their tears.
Check out this herb on AVENwiki:
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If you just cuddle, that's ok, and she loves you. If you end up having sex, that's ok, and she loves you. If you get all self-conscious, totally lose the mood, and have an "Oh damn, I totally didn't relax" freakout, that's ok and she loves you. In fact, if that happens, I suggest you both make a point of laughing at the ridiculousness of it all - maybe pre-agree that if you freak out, then that means she has to feed you ice-cream until you calm down again, or some circuit-breaker like that.
The evidence is just piling up. This man clearly never got healthy amounts of approval from women growing up, so has chosen the simp route. The incessant need for reassurances of love from a woman says that he never got unconditional love from a woman as a boy. Needing ice cream to be spoon-fed to you from a woman, as a grown man? There are just some men you can't reach.
The narcissistic sexual hierarchy is on full display here, as women with male abandonment issues link up with inverted narcissistic males and produce the unholy union otherwise known as relationships outside the "false" binary of hetero and homosexual unions.
Completely and utterly unable to properly understand themselves and their impulses, they need ideologies erected that reflect the complexes they have tended to throughout their life. Asexuality and all that is just the fanciful and narcissistic blowing up of heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality into weird permutations such as pansexuality.
As previously noted, this phenomenon isn't happening in the ghetto of a city or some rural trailer, it is happening on college campuses and on the computer screens of disaffected teenagers and 20-somethings. People with real shit to deal with aren't wondering if their sexual attraction is based out of the gender binary. All the unused emotional and intellectual energy that is suppressed by modern society explodes in movements such as these.
Everybody has a sexuality. Men are attracted to youth and beauty. Women are hypergamous and attracted to power and the Dark Triad of psychological traits. These uncomfortable and universal truths about humanity are eminently displeasing to the privileged crowds of the asexual, demiromantic and pansexual people. Told being privileged is a social condition so utterly hateful, they need to find ways to escape the narrowed eyes of society and authority figures.
As expected, they draw on their narcissism and moral puritanism and cough up some scientifically unsound bullshit about their lack of sexuality. The needless prioritization of social approval, combined with their fear of becoming somebody in real life when they can be anything in their head is what fuels this movement.
The fear of being somebody plays out in a few ways. For example, if they offer a contrary opinion in a particular forum, they risk being labeled a racist, misogynist or homophobic. These people learn dissenting opinions are only voiced by bad people or authority figures. When an authority on race - often a black person - offers a dissenting opinion, it is taken seriously if more important authority figures approve. The needle is only moved farther and farther towards claims of hatred - i.e. we live in a misogynistic society, we live in a deeply misogynistic society or we live in a such thoroughly male-dominated and disgustingly misogynistic society that women aren't even allowed to express any emotion, as a woman, without male approval.
See my point? Since authority figures in society are seeking to cleave the in's from the out's, people who voice dissenting opinions are put 100% on the defensive in order to prove they are not a member of the supremely evil (hateful) out-group. As such, the in-group can push the needle to dangerous extremes and caricatures of their beliefs.
In order to not be in that put upon group of being privileged, these sorts of people seek to create classes of people based on their narcissistic self valuation. The constant bleating of people identifying for themselves as to who they are is a drum beat to death in the community. Like in the Gervais Principle, these people are dimly and vaguely aware of the Matrix, but cannot handle its reality. Trapped between being Clueless and being Losers, they narcissistically suppress their thoughts and utilize this idea of asexuality and its spawn to avoid dealing with their real thoughts and emotions.
The suppression of emotion, of sexuality and who they are in order to avoid judgment of society and authority and, simultaneously, seek their approval is narcissism. These people are probably difficult to reach in real life and therapy, as they are so thoroughly convinced that they are so different and unique that it is nigh impossible to reach them.
Let them cry in their Lexus, as white heterosexual women, that society discriminates against their sexuality. Remember, they would be better off born a gay black man in Brooklyn. Remember that.