When gaming a girl, it's best to be goal-oriented. You want the lay, so you focus on that, and what you talk about is focused on getting it. Probably you are not talking about topics that are fascinating to yourself, because for her it may be boring. Such a conversation would be counter-productive to your goal, even though you may have thoughts about an interesting (to you) topic on your mind that you really do wish to share and discuss.
At work, the same goal-oriented use of language is obviously enforced. You must be PC, polite, respectful, and boring. Approved topics of conversation seem limited to sports or celebrity gossip, or stories from the weekend that are utterly boring and uninteresting. So at work, where most people spend the majority of their lives, usually again they are not talking about what's really on their mind, talking about real ideas or opinions or thoughts. It's not the place for it.
Then you have your social circle. This is ideally where one should (?) be able to express themselves freely and openly, but even here it can be difficult. Many people simply don't like discussions about any deep topics, and having conversations that may challenge peoples' beliefs is often viewed as offensive, rude, anti-social etc. Once again, the topics of conversation in many social situations seem limited to mindless inoffensive chit-chat. Many people also approach their social group in a very goal-oriented way. They maintain a social group with advantageous connections, to allow them leverage into business opportunities, opportunities with girls, etc. So again, you must bite your tongue lest your opinion offend someone and upset a delicate balance.
At the end of the day, after being "on" all the time, this is exhausting and stifling. It seems that there is practically no opportunity to have real honest conversations with people about important and interesting topics.
I know lots of people here are very "goal oriented" in their whole lives. Dedicated to fitness, making money, banging bitches, having the best clothes and cars, etc. All of this requires a tremendous amount of focus and dedication, as well as sacrifice.
Do others out there get the feeling that all of it is stifling? That you're repressing yourself to get what you want?
At work, the same goal-oriented use of language is obviously enforced. You must be PC, polite, respectful, and boring. Approved topics of conversation seem limited to sports or celebrity gossip, or stories from the weekend that are utterly boring and uninteresting. So at work, where most people spend the majority of their lives, usually again they are not talking about what's really on their mind, talking about real ideas or opinions or thoughts. It's not the place for it.
Then you have your social circle. This is ideally where one should (?) be able to express themselves freely and openly, but even here it can be difficult. Many people simply don't like discussions about any deep topics, and having conversations that may challenge peoples' beliefs is often viewed as offensive, rude, anti-social etc. Once again, the topics of conversation in many social situations seem limited to mindless inoffensive chit-chat. Many people also approach their social group in a very goal-oriented way. They maintain a social group with advantageous connections, to allow them leverage into business opportunities, opportunities with girls, etc. So again, you must bite your tongue lest your opinion offend someone and upset a delicate balance.
At the end of the day, after being "on" all the time, this is exhausting and stifling. It seems that there is practically no opportunity to have real honest conversations with people about important and interesting topics.
I know lots of people here are very "goal oriented" in their whole lives. Dedicated to fitness, making money, banging bitches, having the best clothes and cars, etc. All of this requires a tremendous amount of focus and dedication, as well as sacrifice.
Do others out there get the feeling that all of it is stifling? That you're repressing yourself to get what you want?