[gandt]

(08-06-2013 01:58 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

If you have low self-confidence or self-esteem then that's the first thing you need to fix. No amount of Game or cool clothes is going to overcome or compensate for that. This is not something I or most people can fix. It's something you are going to have to work on fixing yourself or get professional help. You can try this cheap book and see if it helps:

The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident (It's from the same guy that wrote Models)

If it is written by Mark Manson then I am sure it is a great book. The guy is pure money.

I actually think you can use game and dressing sharp as a mechanism to help you become more confident. Small things like that get the ball rolling, which can then snowball into a more confident vibe.

[WestCoast]

@gandt I spend max $500 on suits. Basically I find a suit that fits 1 or 2 of the following: shoulders, arm sleeves, waist.

Then I just get the thing tailored ($20-40).

Custom does look much better but I only have one custom suit (interviews etc.).

In terms of the above comments, looking sharp dramatically increases confidence. If you go from getting head turned to 100% her giving you a shot or at least getting eye fucked by 4's and 5's at least you know you improved. Looking good also makes you feel better when you walk out the door. I literally feel worse if I dress like crap (which of course I still do when I feel like staying in all day and resting).

Finally, keeping this on track with mentors. Be careful who you let mentor you in general. As an example if someone has strong game it does not mean they know how to manage a career. If they know those two they may not know how to lift properly be in shape etc. So guys should definitely not put all their eggs into one person. Off of here most guys have decent game so make your own judgement as to what other life advice they can offer. Be smart about who you link up with, be choosy with your friends (long term of course).

[Millz]

I can mentor guys on game in the UK London specifically.. I mean I'm only 24 but compared to most guys I encounter I feel like a God.
So if anyone wants me to teach them or just have someone to go places with then let me know

[Nomad77]

I am not saying not to dress well or as best as you can. What I am saying is that it cannot fix a self confidence problem. It's just a band-aid on the wound. It only covers it up for a bit. You have to fix the wound to do well.

I am BIG believer in taking care of core/foundational issues first and surface stuff like clothes last.

[Stun]

(08-05-2013 03:29 PM)bacan Wrote:  

How much does stuff cost at Zara? Like $40 shirts and stuff like that?

It depends most of the dress slim fit shirts are $50-60, pants are the same. Jackets can be $99-199 or more.

They have slim fit fitted shirts and boxy office shirts. Used to have normal fitted shirts, but I haven't seen any in there in awhile.

[Snowplow]

I could use a mentor in Chicago, specifically with style and wardrobe. I dress pretty casual (jeans and tshirt) for the most part.

[Nomad77]

For those of you that want to be a player. See if you meet these requirements:

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-14263.html

[Nomad77]

Krauser does a break-down of some PUA boot-camp in NYC. If you would be dumb enough to pay a guy like this to help you pickup women then you deserve to lose your money.

http://krauserpua.com/2013/08/07/vince-k...id-in-nyc/

[Ltcfreedom]

Went out on Monday with nomad and another forum member,,man i felt like i was being over polite or something like i didnt want to step on people's toes,,apparently it shows in my body language also,,gonna try again tonight

[Nomad77]

As you saw, I was much more rude than you, and the girls did not seem to mind except for the fat, ugly one

[Nomad77]

A lot of dating guru's talk about this. Mark Manson calls it demographics in his book Models. Here RSD Tyler talks about it in this video. The point is to realize that most girls are just not going to be into you and just accept it and keep looking for the ones that are. Depending on your location they could be more or less girls into you. If hipster girls normally find you attractive and you go to a high end night club you probably won't find one girl in there that finds you attractive. The key is finding places that have girls that find you attractive the way you are right now.

[Nomad77]

Anyone wants to help someone in NJ?

[luggage]

not really a begginer but any mentors in EE. Specifically romania?

[Cobra]

I could use some help; I'm in Chicago ... approach anxiety is my enemy even though conversational and social ability is not.

[Nomad77]

Have you read this information on this thread and any books?

[Nomad77]

Damn, I came close to scoring a hit last night. I don’t even remember how many girls I approached.
After Adam left, I saw this middle-eastern guy approaching girl and really trying. He had no Game
but he had balls. So I started winging for him. The problem those guys have is that they just don’t understand
Western culture social rules and they are always all over the girls. But after donating a set of two Italian
girls to some non-English speaking Italian guys we went back to Clevelander.

As I walked in I saw this young girl just standing by the bar. I rolled up to her and made some
comment about her shoes. Within 15 seconds I knew I had hooked, it was on. She started showing me
her tattoos and I was all over her. Then her boyfriend showed up… If she didn’t have a boyfriend there
we would have been going to town – it was so on with this girl.

The point is, if you had ask me, would she hook. I would have said no. I easily spoke to over 20 girls
last night and there was no way for me to know that this girl and I would have this instant attraction.
You can never know. You have to do the approaches and just be looking for that hook point.

On another note, I was helping another RVF guy last night. I constantly forget how difficult it is for a lot
of guys out there. I know it’s not easy when I see these guys struggling but I also admire them for having
the courage to try. You have to put in the work, there is no way around that.

[Doctor and the Bartender]

I'm moving to Amman, Jordan next Tuesday and would appreciate some help as I will be in the fucking desert. I'd imagine no guys on here living in this region though?

[Nomad77]

Great post on internal vs external value:

http://krauserpua.com/2013/08/21/the-great-gatsby/

[diction]

I think mentoring can help a lot. The closest I ever got to progress was going out with someone experienced and "seeing the light". This was abroad when I had the bonus of being foreign, but I never got past the dancing monkey stage.

I agree that it's largely a confidence/self image thing. I've never known myself as anyone other than the hard case nerd that can't talk to women and counts dry spells in years. That's a tough mold to break out of, and no amount of reading or lurking on forums can fix that. I really need to get out there.

I'm based in ATL if anyone wants to meet up.

[Nomad77]

Try reading Mark Manson books. He will give you a blueprint to work from.

[Nomad77]

I really appreciate all the guys who have stepped up to try and help other guys on here. I think once you do you you will find that it has it's own reward. My game has gotten tighter by trying to help other guys because I have to think about what I do and how I do it. It has also made me more aware of my weaknesses and what I need to work on. But with that said, the guys that are looking for help need to meet certain basic requirements. You can't expect to learn Game if you don't have other areas of your life taken care of first.

1. You need a minimum level of self-esteem and confidence. This is the foundation upon which everything else is built. Your whole interaction with women is built on this foundation. Guys on here are not going to be able to help you much with this. You will need to acquire this on your own.

2. You need some money and time. If you have no money or time to spend going out, then it doesn't matter. Also, not having a job or any money will affect your self-esteem and confidence.

You need to have the basic stuff taken care of first before you put time and energy into improving your game. Right now I am trying to start a few new businesses. Does this affect my results in the field, you bet it does. I can't go out as often and even when I am with a girl I am thinking about all the other shit I am working on - I am distracted. When you go out there you have to be able to focus on the women. If you are distracted by lack of confidence, about how you are dressed, about your finances, about anything, it will impact your results. You have to take care of this stuff first before you focus on learning game. Focus on taking care of yourself first and the women will follow.

[Nomad77]

"I've been having some problems/lack of motivation and was wondering if you could Skype or phone call with me sometime with me sometime and help out. I really just need a fire under my ass."

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As much as I may want to help you I don't believe I can. I cannot make you motivated about wanting girls, sex, or a relationship. You have to want these things enough already to then come to someone like me for help in getting them.

Think of it as college and I a professor. You have to get into the college first. You have to pass the SAT, get the grades, apply to the college, etc. All of this requires a high degree of motivation on your part. It is only after you are in the college and highly motivated to learn that I or anyone else can try to teach you.

You can call me and we can talk about it, if you think it may help though.

Skype: nomad77888

[Nomad77]

Good post on some basic stuff by Roosh:

http://www.rooshv.com/a-heuristic-model-of-game

And this one on wingman rules:

http://www.returnofkings.com/16017/12-es...at-wingman

And for the college guys:

http://www.returnofkings.com/16159/the-1...mmandments

[Nomad77]

Anyone in Seattle want to help someone there?

[Pacific]

Are there any older (30+) LA members here who mainly do day game?