This has happened to me several times recently where I have the girl back at my place but am unable to seal the deal.
One was a girl who lived in my building complex who I met briefly for the first time, then invited her to hang out a few days later and told her to come find/meet me in my flat (perhaps she figured we were going to rendezvous at my place then head out). At my place, we talked and I was able to do some kino but with no reciprocation from her. Perhaps I should have been more aggressive in this case.
Another time with an online girl I had perfect logistics--we met in person for the first time at a bar within walking distance to my place. We had one round of drinks there. She was displaying interest at the bar, letting me put my arm around her waist, etc. We were even gazing at each other for a good while and she looked at me like she wanted to kiss, but I decided to follow Tuthmosis' first-date recipe and NOT kiss her there to save it for when we were back at my place (here's where I think I could have done differently--maybe just a light, brief makeout then continue the conversation). After the first round of drinks, I got up and told her "let's go" and led her straight to my place without telling her where we were going. However, at my place, her vibe was completely opposite from before--uneasy and sitting with crossed legs facing away from me, etc.
So my question is, is it ever TOO SOON to bring the girl back to your place to seal the deal (because on the flip side, I HAVE brought girls back within 30 minutes of meeting them and scored)?
Would it have been better to have established more of a rapport at the initial meeting place first? (With both girls I had talked to them each at most 20-30 minutes before I brought them back). Or perhaps it would have been better to announce that we were going to my place (in the second situation)?
My rationale behind these actions was that it is better to err on the side of aggression and make the girl make a choice (consent or reject)
One was a girl who lived in my building complex who I met briefly for the first time, then invited her to hang out a few days later and told her to come find/meet me in my flat (perhaps she figured we were going to rendezvous at my place then head out). At my place, we talked and I was able to do some kino but with no reciprocation from her. Perhaps I should have been more aggressive in this case.
Another time with an online girl I had perfect logistics--we met in person for the first time at a bar within walking distance to my place. We had one round of drinks there. She was displaying interest at the bar, letting me put my arm around her waist, etc. We were even gazing at each other for a good while and she looked at me like she wanted to kiss, but I decided to follow Tuthmosis' first-date recipe and NOT kiss her there to save it for when we were back at my place (here's where I think I could have done differently--maybe just a light, brief makeout then continue the conversation). After the first round of drinks, I got up and told her "let's go" and led her straight to my place without telling her where we were going. However, at my place, her vibe was completely opposite from before--uneasy and sitting with crossed legs facing away from me, etc.
So my question is, is it ever TOO SOON to bring the girl back to your place to seal the deal (because on the flip side, I HAVE brought girls back within 30 minutes of meeting them and scored)?
Would it have been better to have established more of a rapport at the initial meeting place first? (With both girls I had talked to them each at most 20-30 minutes before I brought them back). Or perhaps it would have been better to announce that we were going to my place (in the second situation)?
My rationale behind these actions was that it is better to err on the side of aggression and make the girl make a choice (consent or reject)