Quote: (05-18-2013 07:20 PM)ghostdog Wrote:
Cougars alone would not make life worth living for. They're decorated dead uteruses.
Age 30-50 you lose a lot of your friends when they get married off, so you can only be friends with players. How many old dudes in the clubs are cool people who you'd want to befriend like an RVF poster, and how many are total human waste?
I know that I will not make a lot of money during my life, because I'm into a minimalist lifestyle. At age 50 my looks will start to go and my game will only take me so far. I would need crazy money to get young women. At age 60 the reaper will circle my house patiently waiting. Any friends I have will surely start to die, and that's what life will be, just watching people die.
I've commented on this elsewhere, but everyone has different levels of predisposition to interpersonal bonding, or you could call it falling in love. In other words, some are happier seeing someone they know and already perceive as reliable and positive than someone who is an unknown.
I don't like about continuing to try to make new female contacts: infertile women are not sexually attractive to me but I am at an age 50+ where they are what I am "supposed" to go after in America as a non-millionaire non-celebrity. The older you get, the more each new person you meet is similar to someone you've already known. There aren't that many distinct types of people in the world.
Also, at least about 80% of people are basically unreliable, they waste incredible amounts of time as you try to engage in projects with them, they turn in poor or mediocre performance, and change their minds and back out when they see you want to associate with people who put real effort into things, whether it's bike rides, playing music, or making money.
So each new person you meet is on average a time waster unless they are pre-qualified. For instance, if someone is an attorney or surgeon, they have to some degree proven they are able to "keep at" something difficult, so if you form an alliance with them it is more likely to be productive. I don't really "hang out", I am almost always engaged in something with a goal, playing music, going on a bicycling adventure, trying to make money. So people I spend time with have to have some common interest. I don't sit around watching sports on TV, sitting in bars talking about the same things people talked about there every night for years...
Also, for myself, I am more comfortable having sex with someone I already know is a reliable and positive woman. If she's a drunk Playette, I don't see that as a real pleasurable experience because as a high-attachment person, I'll start to bond with her and want to see her more, which she will find unnerving as she wants low-attachment guys. Cool, detached, and into sex where the girl could be anybody inside, as long as she's beautiful on the outside. I understand the whole five-minutes-of-alpha theory, but attachment wiring is pretty hard-set, so I deal with the fact women want "cool" guys by simply trying to be as appealing as possible by improving myself and maximizing options.
All this would be academic if I could afford high-quality escorts, but the thought of getting addicted to some hot chick and blowing all my money on her icy attentions is terrifying to me.
Also if you are into much younger chicks it's a way to control her more, if you have a wife in the Philippines she can't get divorced, in EE she has less leverage to grab your USA assets, and as you get older there's less of your life left to ruin if she gets some angle to fuck you over. Important : "Keep them there and keep them hungry." as Asia vets say. Don't bring her back.
