[iop890]

The stories in this thread are making me nauseous.

[Seamus]

Not to derail the thread, but this has me thinking about weird fetishes more generally. I've never come across any cuckolding swingers or been asked to be a bull (white guys don't exactly fit the BBC stereotype), but I did use to fuck around with a dominatrix in NYC.

I assumed all her customers would be serious betas, but she told me most of them were actually high status dudes, like bankers and lawyers, who would pay serious money just to be spanked and yelled at basically. No actual sex.

I could never quite wrap my head around it.

[L M McCoy]

I looked into it and is the guy that's fucking always black and the guy watching always white?

It sounds like some closet homo business too me

[SexyMac]

The cuckold fetish does happen, but the cuckold porn videos are exaggerations of what actually happens. Though, I have never personally met a "cuckold" couple.

The true definition of a cuckold is a guy that's oblivious about his wife, girlfriend cheating on him.

I have met swinger chicks, couples, and girls that are out cheating on their husband, boyfriends. Girls like sex.

[Seth_Rose]

(12-05-2014 08:49 PM)Seamus Wrote:  

Not to derail the thread, but this has me thinking about weird fetishes more generally. I've never come across any cuckolding swingers or been asked to be a bull (white guys don't exactly fit the BBC stereotype), but I did use to fuck around with a dominatrix in NYC.

I assumed all her customers would be serious betas, but she told me most of them were actually high status dudes, like bankers and lawyers, who would pay serious money just to be spanked and yelled at basically. No actual sex.

I could never quite wrap my head around it.

From what I understand, a lot of people like to experience a 'role reversal' in the bedroom from their real life. I had a good friend/frat brother in college. No homo but he's the best looking guy I know. He did really well with chicks (obviously) and was a pretty masculine guy, but loved to be tied up and dominated by girls. He wasnt shy about showing off the ropes attached to his bed posts that were there for him for girls to tie him up.

Obviously this isn't always the case, but explains her clientele.

[General Stalin]

There are theories about it being a dom/sub thing or whatever which seem to have some stock, but my personal idea is it's the forbidden fruit appeal - The cuckold gets off to knowing his wife is an adulteress. It's wrong, it's dirty, and it makes her a filthy whore and the cuckold likes that. It's the same reason we like anal sex just in a much more extreme and exaggerated sense. It's dirty, deviant, decadent and indulgent.

Some folks just need to get creative to get their rocks off. I imagine when you reach a certain level of absolute comfort (and perhaps downright boredom) with a girl then you gotta dig deep to make her seem sexy still.

[Chewbacon]

Well, the Sperm Wars reason is that thinking about one's wife with another man heightens the competitive impulse inside your own body, thus causing you to be more aroused and produce more sperm for a "sperm war" with the other man. Ofcourse, some people think the author was just a cuckold himself, so it might be circular reasoning.

[void]

People here are watching too much (russian) porn. The girls are hot though.

[Dr. Howard]

I'll propose a more extreme theory. We're all familiar with the Dr. Drew/loveline/Freud position that chicks that are legitimately raped/abused will often be rough and degrading sex lovers in their future as some sort of whacked out way of re-living the trauma.

Could cuckoldry be the same thing? Guys that in the past have lost their shit by being cheated on or in a Freudian sense had some outrageously slutty mother and are reenacting that trauma in a sexual way, like the rape chicks?

[Sourcecode]

We need someone that's actually in a long term relationship as a cuckhold..
To tell us how the really feel.

But those dudes probably aren't on the forum

[Praetor Lupus]

I have a cuckold fetish myself.

I like banging the wives of lesser men on camera and posting their names in the local paper.

[Cr33pin]

(12-06-2014 12:07 PM)Dr. Howard Wrote:  

I'll propose a more extreme theory. We're all familiar with the Dr. Drew/loveline/Freud position that chicks that are legitimately raped/abused will often be rough and degrading sex lovers in their future as some sort of whacked out way of re-living the trauma.

I don't think we should call someones way of coping with a legit violent rape wacked out.

I knew a girl who did what you are referring to. She was legit raped by a black man when she was a teenager. Shes now a older married (to a white man) mother. An she steps out and sleeps with black men sometimes. I was confused as shit by i but after talking to a mutual friend who is also a psychiatrist, they explained it pretty well. I can't explain as good as they did but it has something to do with putting yourself back in that situation but this time being in control of it... instead of completely out of control as what occurred during the rape. Or for some people reliving the trauma with a different outcome helps them cope, instead of feeling helpless afterwards like when the rape occurred you could say cuddle with the man and feel comfortable when its over instead of like victim.

Real violent rape is a awful thing. And men and women who commit it deserve harsh harsh penalties. I won't fault anyone's method for dealing with going through such a experience. Cause unless you have been the victim of it you don't know what crazy way your brain may come up with to try and deal with it.

[Foolsgo1d]

(04-28-2013 03:21 AM)Sourcecode Wrote:  

And he was a mechanic that dealt with export cars...not the type that one would expect to be a cuckhold
but to each,his own

El Mech isn't into that sort of thing I reckon.

[Dr. Howard]

(12-06-2014 01:25 PM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

(12-06-2014 12:07 PM)Dr. Howard Wrote:  

I'll propose a more extreme theory. We're all familiar with the Dr. Drew/loveline/Freud position that chicks that are legitimately raped/abused will often be rough and degrading sex lovers in their future as some sort of whacked out way of re-living the trauma.

I don't think we should call someones way of coping with a legit violent rape wacked out.

I knew a girl who did what you are referring to. She was legit raped by a black man when she was a teenager. Shes now a older married (to a white man) mother. An she steps out and sleeps with black men sometimes. I was confused as shit by i but after talking to a mutual friend who is also a psychiatrist, they explained it pretty well. I can't explain as good as they did but it has something to do with putting yourself back in that situation but this time being in control of it... instead of completely out of control as what occurred during the rape. Or for some people reliving the trauma with a different outcome helps them cope, instead of feeling helpless afterwards like when the rape occurred you could say cuddle with the man and feel comfortable when its over instead of like victim.

Real violent rape is a awful thing. And men and women who commit it deserve harsh harsh penalties. I won't fault anyone's method for dealing with going through such a experience. Cause unless you have been the victim of it you don't know what crazy way your brain may come up with to try and deal with it.

besides the language disagreement, that is the theory I'm putting forward. Are cuckold dudes putting themselves in the same sort of situation?

[Cr33pin]

(12-06-2014 03:32 PM)Dr. Howard Wrote:  

besides the language disagreement, that is the theory I'm putting forward. Are cuckold dudes putting themselves in the same sort of situation?

Thats a good question that would be hard for any of us to answer... Have the husbands been sexually abused at some point, and then they try to relive the abuse through their wife getting rammed with a huge cock?? It just seems so odd to me.

I just can't see it, being a man and letting some guy with a bigger dick then yours ram your wife. I used to enjoy sharing random sluts and side pieces with my boys like I stated earlier.. However I was always the "bull" and in charge, so its kind of different.

In reality this is a very interesting thread cause I can't seem to figure out the mind set behind this kind of popular fetish.

[Dr. Howard]

(12-06-2014 03:50 PM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

(12-06-2014 03:32 PM)Dr. Howard Wrote:  

besides the language disagreement, that is the theory I'm putting forward. Are cuckold dudes putting themselves in the same sort of situation?

Thats a good question that would be hard for any of us to answer... Have the husbands been sexually abused at some point, and then they try to relive the abuse through their wife getting rammed with a huge cock?? It just seems so odd to me.

I just can't see it, being a man and letting some guy with a bigger dick then yours ram your wife. I used to enjoy sharing random sluts and side pieces with my boys like I stated earlier.. However I was always the "bull" and in charge, so its kind of different.

In reality this is a very interesting thread cause I can't seem to figure out the mind set behind this kind of popular fetish.

simpler than that. The theory being that the man is reliving the trauma of his wife or some other girl cheating/betraying him via the cuckolding. My brain can't wrap around it.

[Sourcecode]

So in the case of the girl being raped by a black guy... then years later stepping out to cheat on her man with black men.
*Why is almost all cuckhold porn based around a black dude banging a white dudes wife?
Who is in charge here?

[Cr33pin]

(12-06-2014 05:41 PM)Sourcecode Wrote:  

So in the case of the girl being raped by a black guy... then years later stepping out to cheat on her man with black men.
*Why is almost all cuckhold porn based around a black dude banging a white dudes wife?
Who is in charge here?

Its true as soon as you hear Cuckold a Black bull and white wife come to mind.... Maybe the taboo factor comes into play?

[enderilluminatus]

(04-28-2013 05:01 AM)JimNortonFan Wrote:  

There's two types of sperm.

Source?

[Sourcecode]

http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfiv..._of_being/

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For myself, it is about control. It is a challenge to my every day life. I work three jobs, I go to school full time, I am responsible for so much and have to make every decision. Pretty much I feel as if I am in charge of everything. At the end of the day, I don't want to think anymore. I discovered shibari last year, which is a style of rope bondage. It was love at first sight. The act of submitting, being told what to do, being restricted in my movements...it feels so wonderful. It's almost like erotic meditation. I can let my mind forget the day, almost let it go blank. I focus on breathing, balance, and letting go. I have discovered through shibari that I enjoy giving control to someone else, (a very trusted and caring someone else), and I have found out things that I didn't know about myself. For example, pain can feel good. Being spanked, having pressure put on my neck (with hands, never rope), having my hair pulled, having hot wax poured...these are extremely pleasurable. Being tied up, put in very vulnerable positions, being exposed, it is a release of control and it just feels good to some people who have to be in control all the frigging time.

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I dated a feminist once who during the day was very strong willed and demanding. Behind closed doors she became EXTREMELY submissive. Love to be choked , spanked , smacked , degraded, tied down and fucked like a whore. the transformation was amazing. The sex was amazing as well.
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.it's mostly about relinquishing control. Not having to make decision. Being free with your sexual desires. Also being desired to the point of possession (but only in bedroom)

Release of control seems to be the point of it.
I guess it could kinda make sense.
The cuck couple I knew in Germany..
They guy was a mechanic by hobby..but was also in some form of law enforcement.
Maybe he got on the the lack of control he had over the situation..as oppose to his job



On the other hand I found this
http://www.ishootporn.com/476/aiden-and-...e-cuckold/

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I’ll skip to the interesting part: Aiden loved BOZ’s giant black meat. I mean she really loved it. I mean she really, really loved it. I mean she loved it more than just about anyone I’ve ever seen love a big black dick, and I’ve seen a lot of girls digging on black dick. She loved BOZ’s dick so much that, before long, BOZ’s big black dick was whiter than mine.

Pussy cum white.

Creamy white.

I’ve seen some creamed black dicks in my day – trust me. Between 150 (or so) Spring Thomas scenes, and another 200 (or so) Blacks On Blondes scenes, as well as some Spunkmouth interracial scenes under my belt, well…like I said, I’ve seen some creamy black dicks.

But nothing like this. As my literary hero RP McMurphy once said, BOZ made Aiden “light up like a pinball machine and pay off in silver dollars.”

I mean it was so bad I felt bad for hubby…with her eyes rolling up into the back of her head and all. And after you join Blacks on Blondes and look at hubby’s face, you’ll see what I mean. Cause deep down inside, Hubby knew he had never made Aiden feel like the way she was feeling that day…and he probably never would.

I say probably cause who knows?

About six months after I shot that scene, I ran into Aiden signing at a booth at AVN’s. We chatted it up a bit, and I asked her about Hubby.

“Oh, we’re finished. I’m divorcing him.”

[godfather dust]

Old thread but the last few times I've been on porn stream sites there seems to be a lot of cuckold porn around.

Is this really a common fantasy? Personally I think the porn sites are trying to train men to be cuckolds.

Shit, I have no plans to get married but I'd be tempted to do some OJ Simpson shit if I was cucked.

[Sonoma]

The only attractive part of a cuckold is knowing that the dude just got my herpes, and that I can shamelessly bang my girlfriends sister from that point forward

[spokepoker]

I was curious about where the term 'cuckold' came from (cuckoo bird mating/ nesting habits), and further down the wiki is psych explaining the fetish of it:

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Theories in psychology

Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism,[13] the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man's competition for procreation and the affection of females.[citation needed] In his book Masochism and the Self, psychologist Roy Baumeister advanced a Self Theory analysis that cuckolding (other forms of sexual masochism) among otherwise mentally healthy people was a form of escapism. In this theory, cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

According to these theories, the cuckold fetishist seeks pleasure both from the act of being humiliated and by giving pleasure to his lover(s). But cuckolding can be summed psychologically as "distributing sexual humiliation to the cuckold".[citation needed] If a couple can keep the fantasy in the bedroom, or come to an agreement where being cuckolded in reality does not damage the relationship, they may try it out in reality. However, the primary proponent of the fantasy is almost always the one being humiliated, or the "cuckold": he usually convinces his lover to participate in the fantasy for him, though other "cuckolds" may prefer their lover to initiate the situation instead. The fetish fantasy does not work at all if the cuckold is being humiliated against his will.[14]

Humiliation is "the feeling of being put down, made to feel less than one feels oneself to be."[15] Psychologist Evelin Lindner calls humiliation "the nuclear bomb of the emotions", claiming it is an order of magnitude more powerful than any other, causing everything from interpersonal conflicts to international terrorism."[15] According to psychoanalysis, any feeling can become sexualized if it is somehow favorably associated with sex, especially in mostly linguistic childhood.
Theories in evolutionary biology and psychology

In evolutionary biology, the term cuckold is also applied to males who are unwittingly investing parental effort in in offspring that are not genetically their own. As noted above, the term cuckold is derivative of the mis-directed parental investment of birds who direct parental investment to the eggs that cuckoo birds have laid in their nests.[1]

In his book Sperm Wars, biologist Robin Baker speculated that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain, although it is important to note the word "cuckold" does not appear in his book. According to one of his theories, Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to "compete" with the other man's sperm. Baker is also one of the few proponents of the theory of Killer Sperm, the idea that sperm compete not only for first access to the egg but by "attacking" other sperm. Although this idea appears frequently in cuckold fetish material, very few biologists share this view.[16][17]

Baker and his proponents' views conflict with the hypothesized foundations for sexual jealousy in evolutionary psychology, which is rooted in the idea that men, specifically, will react jealously to sexual infidelity on the parts of their mates.[18] Infidelity is also the number one cause for divorce.[19]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold

[Mentavious]

I've been asked to cuckhold twice this year through tinder. Just not my type of thing.

[Latinopan]

(12-05-2014 10:08 PM)Seth_Rose Wrote:  

(12-05-2014 08:49 PM)Seamus Wrote:  

Not to derail the thread, but this has me thinking about weird fetishes more generally. I've never come across any cuckolding swingers or been asked to be a bull (white guys don't exactly fit the BBC stereotype), but I did use to fuck around with a dominatrix in NYC.

I assumed all her customers would be serious betas, but she told me most of them were actually high status dudes, like bankers and lawyers, who would pay serious money just to be spanked and yelled at basically. No actual sex.

I could never quite wrap my head around it.

From what I understand, a lot of people like to experience a 'role reversal' in the bedroom from their real life. I had a good friend/frat brother in college. No homo but he's the best looking guy I know. He did really well with chicks (obviously) and was a pretty masculine guy, but loved to be tied up and dominated by girls. He wasnt shy about showing off the ropes attached to his bed posts that were there for him for girls to tie him up.

Obviously this isn't always the case, but explains her clientele.

You see also lots of tall girls that love being called small and little one, and short skinny guys that are Dom of relationships, look around BDSM sites and many of the guys would be called losers in real life, but are very good at dominating women in BDSM.

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Anyway, not the topic. Married woman once flirted with me in front of her husband.

I once went with my uncle and his family to visit this couple in another State, is not far from us so is a one day thing, is a nice house with pool and nice backyard, the couple is a man in his late 50s and the wife is in late 40s early 50s, a few pounds extra but nice to look at, big tits big ass, Imagine a Latina Christina Hendricks http://brobible.files.wordpress.com/2012....gif?w=650 , this woman is wearing tight jeans and tight blouse, her ass and tits are huge, anyway, this woman was extremely friendly and touchy with me, smiles all the time at me and touch my knees when talking (we are siting on a circle and she is next to me) I am very uncomfortable because, damn I do not know this couple and this woman is doing this when her husband is 5 feet away from us (he was playing Dominoes with my uncles and some of his neighbors) I am very nervous because these people were people my uncle knew for some time but this is the first time for me, I did not know her before, I do not want to make a scene, remember I am a guest.

This is when shit gets strange, her husband lose in Dominoes so he has to give his place to other player, and as soon as he is standing the wife comes to me asking if I wants something to drink, at this moment she bends forward (I am sitting she is standing) with her tits right in in front of me and put her hands on my knee, her husband reaction? huge smile, he is walking toward the kitchen with looking at us very happy, she walks into the kitchen and comes moment later with my drink, and after that, he was all friendly to me, like WTF? this man is watching his wife put her hands on another man's knee and be all smile and he is all happy about it.

We left hours later.

I never knew really but for me this couple was into cuckold stuff, or something like that, maybe due to his age he could not longer do it and was ok with his wife picking younger men to fuck, I don't know.