I figure it's time to get this handled once and for all. How do you guys go about initiating a dance session with a girl at a club?
I'm 22 years old and still somewhat new to the club scene. I've probably been out "clubbin" a dozen or so times, my first time being exactly a year ago. Back then, I was still afraid to dance in front of others, so I avoided the dancefloor like the plague. In that sense I've come a long way as I now consider myself to be a fairly competent dancer and am mostly indifferent to the judgment of others in that regard. I don't do any sort of technical dancing like salsa or tango, just freestyle silliness.
Occasionally I will hit the dancefloor, get into state, and girls will simply approach and start grinding on me as a result of the good vibes I'm putting out. However, this method is not even remotely consistent, and has never led to any sustained interaction once we leave the dancefloor. In fact, the girls seem to get bored rather quickly.
The majority of the time, I will start dancing by myself, which can be pretty groovy initially, but after a few minutes I want some female contact, goddamnit. Naturally, there are several girls in my proximity, but I am unsure as to how I should go about initiating. What I have done the past few times I've gone out is slowly move into the proximity of the girl I'm interested in and hope she takes the hint, but this method has been unsuccessful. Understandably so, as this method, by its very nature, subcommunicates neediness and lack of initiative.
Last night I was out at an industrial/goth nightclub tearing it up on the dancefloor and there was a fine little number in front of me, dancing in a sort of huddle with her other female friends. I seriously contemplated grabbing her arm from behind and pulling her over to dance with me but was too chickenshit to do so. Would this technique have been sound?
I suspect that if one had sufficient confidence, simply pulling a girl into his orbit could be highly successful, but the slightest trace of flinching or self-doubt could result in some pretty brutal blow-outs.
Your thoughts?
I'm 22 years old and still somewhat new to the club scene. I've probably been out "clubbin" a dozen or so times, my first time being exactly a year ago. Back then, I was still afraid to dance in front of others, so I avoided the dancefloor like the plague. In that sense I've come a long way as I now consider myself to be a fairly competent dancer and am mostly indifferent to the judgment of others in that regard. I don't do any sort of technical dancing like salsa or tango, just freestyle silliness.
Occasionally I will hit the dancefloor, get into state, and girls will simply approach and start grinding on me as a result of the good vibes I'm putting out. However, this method is not even remotely consistent, and has never led to any sustained interaction once we leave the dancefloor. In fact, the girls seem to get bored rather quickly.
The majority of the time, I will start dancing by myself, which can be pretty groovy initially, but after a few minutes I want some female contact, goddamnit. Naturally, there are several girls in my proximity, but I am unsure as to how I should go about initiating. What I have done the past few times I've gone out is slowly move into the proximity of the girl I'm interested in and hope she takes the hint, but this method has been unsuccessful. Understandably so, as this method, by its very nature, subcommunicates neediness and lack of initiative.
Last night I was out at an industrial/goth nightclub tearing it up on the dancefloor and there was a fine little number in front of me, dancing in a sort of huddle with her other female friends. I seriously contemplated grabbing her arm from behind and pulling her over to dance with me but was too chickenshit to do so. Would this technique have been sound?
I suspect that if one had sufficient confidence, simply pulling a girl into his orbit could be highly successful, but the slightest trace of flinching or self-doubt could result in some pretty brutal blow-outs.
Your thoughts?