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06-23-2010, 03:06 AM
Hey Aylar, I love Latin women and I think you are pretty cute, you like Persian guys and I'm half-Persian, good looking, well endowed, ripped, and I can fuck for hours. Come out to California and I'll show you a good time!
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06-23-2010, 07:04 AM
Aylar,
Props! (i'z frum da hood yo) for being the first to post your picture and prove you arent a troll(though I think you still like the attention, but everyone gets fulfilled in a different way here). Remember this, us guys on here know what women want because we are good at it. You know womens mentalities because you are a woman. The reverse is also true, we know mens' mentality.
If you hear more then one guy saying something(given all the details we have about your relationship and assuming they are all true) about your man and his motives. You have a VERY VERY good chance of it being spot on. Especially with the guys here who have put forth lots of effort to understand not only women, but relationships in general. Sure we are a cynical bunch, but its for a reason.
I agree with Kona on this one, your 2 pump chump is keeping you around because he knows he cant get any better, OR stringing you along for as long as he can. You may be young and all college idealistic but take it from us, you WILL end up fucking someone like us if your man doesnt handle his business in the bedroom soon, no matter how good/nice a guy he is.
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06-23-2010, 05:24 PM
I agree with CLR.
YOu can wait, for sure... But it will depend on him to make an effort to do better and if this effort does not appear soon... Even the kindest and passionate man in the world will suffer.
Deixa que essa fase é passageira, amanhã será melhor você vai ver a cidade inteira seu samba saber de cor!
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06-24-2010, 03:59 AM
I know this is quite cynical but distinctly true.
If you are online asking for advice about your relationship, it wont last. If you are more comfortable talking to total strangers who know nothing about your situation, your relationship isnt really anything to begin with. I mean you should be talking about it with him, whatever sends you online is one of 2 things.
1) you want other people's experience, and apply it to a situation where those giving advice have absolutely no chance of understanding all the minutia, and will be wrong 90% of the time, and the good advice would be hard, and will be rationalized as "They dont know whats really happening"
2) You are uncomfortable talking to your other about certian serious or uncomfortable issues, and want advice to "say the right thing." If you are uncomfortable talking about serious things its a real commitment issue in the relationship, and even if someone gives you the perfect was to say something, its not you, and will feel very out of character and faked.
Either way, its a sign of an unhealthy relationship, which ends up taking more and more work just to hold together. Eventually someone just gets fed up and it ends, or both end up getting unhappily married and end up cheating.
To many people are guilty of putting up with things that they hate just becuase of habit. Its really hard to break up with someone youve been together with a long time, no matter how much they piss you off. Remember, people rarely, if ever change, and if they do it is a constant, difficult effort on their part. Why is it do hard to quit smoking? Its not the nicotine addiction per say, as that stuff is flushed out of your body, and withdrawl only lasts about 3-4 days. Its the habit of lighting up that is much more addicting, such as lighting up after sex, eating when you are bored etc... Now you know how many people try to quit smoking and fail, thats about as difficult as it is for most people to change habits or personailty traits. Chances are it just wont happen. Sure your guy might make it a bit better for a while, but you can be sure he will backslide. Its our nature.
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06-24-2010, 10:52 AM
Hey guys: Well I have spoken to him about it, but I just like to hear other perspectives. that is mostly why i also asked for advice on here. i don't think its a bad thing to hear diff perspectives. thanks for the opinions anyway.
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06-25-2010, 01:04 AM
suspicious behavior alert: his father has hinted at as moving in together pre-engagement / pre-marriage. Twice.
Yikes?
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06-25-2010, 01:11 AM
no no, us moving in together over in college. getting an apartment together.
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06-25-2010, 01:52 AM
Aylar I think you already made your mind up on what you would do before you came into this forum. What more do any of us need to tell you on this topic?
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06-25-2010, 01:28 PM
Yo why is your "man's" father suggesting you two move into together, that's some weesh shit, it's his job to suggest that, if that's what he wants. Furthermore, I think marriage is bullshit, if you two genuinely love each other, why need to put all these labels on it? It will just make shit more weird and complicated if and when you break up. Maybe I'm slightly jaded because most of the women I've slept with recently have been one night stands, and I'm not really hooking up with girls I'm crazy about, but either way marriage just doesn't seem "kosher" to me.
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06-25-2010, 04:09 PM
hey its the over indulgence in wine in Tuscany(which I have to get back to...) but I have to say, daddy knows his sons a bitch(sorry I mean that with total respect to Aylar, not so much to the BF)
Its true, maybe you are all excited and it happens ONCE, maybe twice, but over months? AND he wont take direction, as my irish friends say, FUCK OFF!
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06-30-2010, 01:34 PM
So i'm starting to actually worry and feel terribly bad for my bf. he's getting terribly down on himself and its getting to the point that he almost doesn't even want to do it anymore than one time. because after he embarrasses himself that first time, he just sits back and shakes his head and sticks it into his hands. So I figure, should he see a doctor? I mean i don't want to think its a medical condition. it might be just a mental/social conditioning thing from having been a virgin SO long and being used to getting himself off so quickly through masturbation, but perhaps there is something a doctor can do to help him. because its getting to the point that its not only me that its prob bothering , but him too. i'm sure he wants to have sex for more than 10 seconds. so please serious advice here, and please don't tell me to leave him, or cheat on him, etc. . lol. thanks guys.
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06-30-2010, 03:32 PM
Aylar, I think we've all given you all the advice we can. I think your BF has a bad form of anxiety and is "psyching" himself out so to speak. I am wondering is his problem that he just cums to quickly or does he have a problem staying hard as well? I think he just needs to relax a bit, maybe give him a massage before you start foreplay... But I think we've broke it down for you, in a nut shell: he needs to get a few drinks in him and use a condom, both numb the sensation a lot and should prevent him from blowing his load so quickly. Either that, or wait like 30 mins. after your first time having sex, and go at it again, he shouldn't nut so quick on round two.
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06-30-2010, 04:40 PM
no probs with the staying hard. perhaps you are right. maybe he needs a psychologist! lol anyway. thanks for the advice.
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06-30-2010, 11:59 PM
So within a couple days since posting this he's become "terribly down on himself" and doesn't want to have sex with anymore? Right.
I'm surprised that so many of the guys believe you and are genuinely trying to help. I've seen more believable shit get called out here. Very amateur effort I must say.
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07-01-2010, 12:11 AM
Because i proved my existence and you're paranoid and you think people really care about trolling your forum that much. Relax. It's not that important. lol