[Aylar]

Hey guys,

well actually I used to blow him at the beginning at he'd get off just as quickly when I did that as well. And as a matter of fact he seems to enjoy getting a BJ way too much and to be honest its not fair that i please him so much and he doesnt do that much for me in return. you're right. Either way i always go down on him, but i guess what you mean is for me to go and then stop and then go and stop again? He lasts much longer now with a BJ though which shows me he's progressed or just gotten used to me finally. And yes he does go down on me, he has actually recently started to do it in the past month, he was real iffy about it at first, but now I can tell he is more into it. And as a matter of fact he's not bad at all. I;ve had some great sexual partners in my past, but none of them were good at . I;m not saying he's a star by any means, but not nearly as bad as you'd expect, but could definitely use work. At least he's open minded. i think he just has stage fright. he's into dirty things, rough sex, etc. but i think he just freaks out sometimes. depends on the day or his courage or comfort level.

I can't tell him not to masturbate I know that won't happen, especially since we don't see each other everyday. Plus i thought masturbation was a normal thing for men and almost inevitable? I;m obviously not happy about speakeasy, otherwise i wouldn't be posting this, but i'm definitely trying to work on it. and well, its not the end of the world i guess if his penis can't please me, there are other things. Either way , i doubt that will happen, but it may just take a while for this to get better. I see that now. it wouldnt be worth it to leave a great man, just to end up with someone whos great in bed, but is an awful father, provider, and bad person overall.

ive had good enough sex in the past to realize im much happier now despite the setbacks than I was back then. as soon as the sex was over, I was pissed all over again in my past relationship and just as frustrated as before.

[speakeasy]

(06-20-2010 11:09 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

I see that now. it wouldnt be worth it to leave a great man, just to end up with someone whos great in bed, but is an awful father, provider, and bad person overall.

ive had good enough sex in the past to realize im much happier now despite the setbacks than I was back then. as soon as the sex was over, I was pissed all over again in my past relationship and just as frustrated as before.

That's cool. You sound like a girl with a level head on your shoulders. That's admirable that you're willing to have patience and look at someone overall and not just one factor. Best of luck in getting the situation worked out.

[OGNorCal707]

Your dude needs to drink some alcohol for real, that really numbs the sensation and can let a guy fuck for hours, when I was in Brazil after 4 caiparinhas I was pounding away for like 1.5 hours straight. But he can't drink too much or else he might get whiskey dick (limp), which has also happened to me a few times and is really embarassing.

By the way, I saw your pic and I think you are an 8.

[oldnemesis]

(06-20-2010 08:03 PM)Kona Wrote:  

Can he really satisfy you in all the other emotional ways you say he does, even though he doesn't have the balls to 69 you in the backseat?

It may be cultural thing. Truth to be told, I have never had sex in a car either - this is just part of the culture where I'm from (but I had one in a military helicopter, lol)

[Kona]

Aylar,

I have another idea.

What if you told your man that since he's no good in bed, you should be able to sleep with other guys? Sex only, no strings. Maybe once this guy sees you with other guys getting your needs handled he'll straighten up and do the work himself to figure out his own problem. It just seems strange to me that you are the one looking for help not him.

Or, who cares, cheat.

If you really think that all of your other emotional needs are handled by this guy, just go outside for the sex part.

Aloha!

[Aylar]

Or maybe i can just pressure him to put a ring on my finger. usually that would make most men run away but then again, beggars can't be choosers

[Lumiere]

He is sexually incompetent

if you are satisfied with the idea of never having an orgasm again, stick with him

if not then move on

[AlphaQup2nite]

Lack of sexual fulfilment is a huge problems with a lot of chicks, and it in the end leads to cheating. I mean no one wants to tease themself for ages. You could try a sex therapist, or booze. You could also make him wank one out like 30 min before, so hell be able to last longer. Personally i find that if i had recently had an orgasm, i can go for much longer then if i wait, say a few days before. Then booze also works, give me like 5-6 cocktails and ill either be going all night, or its just not gonna happen at all.

It seems the converse is true for the chicks ive been with in terms of alcohol as well. A few drinks makes it much easier for them to reach orgasm.

[clr]

I just have to pick on converse, the converse is true? Most chicks I have been with have a harder time after 4-6 drinks. Maybe one or two to relax and its cool, after that its harder.

[AlphaQup2nite]

(06-22-2010 02:31 AM)clr Wrote:  

I just have to pick on converse, the converse is true? Most chicks I have been with have a harder time after 4-6 drinks. Maybe one or two to relax and its cool, after that its harder.

Of course there are other things, my sample size for comparative is quite small (3 chicks ive usally do things with both drinking and not drinking), but for me ive noticed a stark difference (20 min vs 10 min for 1, 30 min vs 20 for 2, 45 vs 15 for a third) but of course nothing is that simple. It is just a general statement from my own observations. It wouldnt hurt to try. And im not saying get completely drunk, maybe 2-3 drinks at most.

[clr]

no I was playing with converse, converse means the opposite, not the same. Internet dropped and never let me finish my post Don't worry I hate grammar too. Many american chicks cant relax with out a few drinks. Thats why they can come easier, I have found a womans relaxation/comfort level is in direct relation to how easy they cum.

[Aylar]

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year. He said this to me a month ago, and still no ring. Makes me wonder if you guys are right about him wanting to keep me around for the sex with "notions" in my head. he keeps making excuses. ill give him till the end of the summer to propose. Otherwise he's gone.

Don't pull out your gun unless you're ready to shoot.

[OGNorCal707]

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year. He said this to me a month ago, and still no ring. Makes me wonder if you guys are right about him wanting to keep me around for the sex with "notions" in my head. he keeps making excuses. ill give him till the end of the summer to propose. Otherwise he's gone.

Don't pull out your gun unless you're ready to shoot.

If you're for real and not a troll, like Roosh seemed to suggest, then why the fuck do you want to get married? Especially to a guy who can't make you cum and gets off in like 3 seconds, is he one of those super-rich persian dudes, whose dad owns like 3 nightclubs and 2 car dealerships? LOL

[Aylar]

(06-22-2010 08:20 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year. He said this to me a month ago, and still no ring. Makes me wonder if you guys are right about him wanting to keep me around for the sex with "notions" in my head. he keeps making excuses. ill give him till the end of the summer to propose. Otherwise he's gone.

Don't pull out your gun unless you're ready to shoot.

If you're for real and not a troll, like Roosh seemed to suggest, then why the fuck do you want to get married? Especially to a guy who can't make you cum and gets off in like 3 seconds, is he one of those super-rich persian dudes, whose dad owns like 3 nightclubs and 2 car dealerships? LOL

no lol he's a student like me

[speakeasy]

I have a feeling he must come from a background of money though. You mentioned something about him being a possible provider and all that. So maybe it's just a money grab for you and you're willing to go sexually unfulfilled as a trade off for security? If that's the case, girls in such situations are highly likely to cheat.

[Aylar]

We are both going to law school. its just a good match up

[Kona]

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year.

Some congratulations are in order for Aylar's boyfriend.

If I was sexually dysfunctional, I suppose I would have to look for a woman who just accepts it, then marry her. At least I'd get to snuggle.

It sounds like this dude did it. That's gotta be tough.

And imagine how hard things have to be for the guy. He sees hundreds of women running around, but knows there's no point to even approaching them, because what's he gonna do? He knows he's stuck with whatever woman he can find that will just overlook his problem. That sucks.

Aloha!

[speakeasy]

(06-22-2010 11:11 PM)Kona Wrote:  

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year.

Some congratulations are in order for Aylar's boyfriend.

If I was sexually dysfunctional, I suppose I would have to look for a woman who just accepts it, then marry her. At least I'd get to snuggle.

It sounds like this dude did it. That's gotta be tough.

And imagine how hard things have to be for the guy. He sees hundreds of women running around, but knows there's no point to even approaching them, because what's he gonna do? He knows he's stuck with whatever woman he can find that will just overlook his problem. That sucks.

Aloha!

Yeah, but the guy lucked out. He found that one in a million girl that doesn't care. Or at least doesn't enough to break up with him. Judging by her photo, she's a good looking girl and would have no problem finding a new guy in a heartbeat. So that guy got EXTREMELY lucky because 99% of girls that are on the dating market and aren't fat or ugly aren't going to put up with bad sex for long. Maybe that was the case 70 years ago when all women did was cook and clean and have sex at their husbands whim. But not so these days when there are seemingly limitless options out there.

[Aylar]

(06-22-2010 08:20 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  

If you're for real and not a troll, like Roosh seemed to suggest...

[Aylar]

(06-22-2010 11:11 PM)Kona Wrote:  

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year.

Some congratulations are in order for Aylar's boyfriend.

If I was sexually dysfunctional, I suppose I would have to look for a woman who just accepts it, then marry her. At least I'd get to snuggle.

It sounds like this dude did it. That's gotta be tough.

And imagine how hard things have to be for the guy. He sees hundreds of women running around, but knows there's no point to even approaching them, because what's he gonna do? He knows he's stuck with whatever woman he can find that will just overlook his problem. That sucks.

Aloha!

it might suck that you're right about that which causes me a lot of insecurities, but then again , he prob has a lot more than i do, so i dont worry so much. i'm just worried a guy like him would cheat on me in marriage. given hes only been with one woman sexually. what do u think about that?

[Aylar]

(06-22-2010 11:32 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(06-22-2010 11:11 PM)Kona Wrote:  

(06-22-2010 07:14 PM)Aylar Wrote:  

This guy said he wanted to get engaged, like now and married in a year.

Some congratulations are in order for Aylar's boyfriend.

If I was sexually dysfunctional, I suppose I would have to look for a woman who just accepts it, then marry her. At least I'd get to snuggle.

It sounds like this dude did it. That's gotta be tough.

And imagine how hard things have to be for the guy. He sees hundreds of women running around, but knows there's no point to even approaching them, because what's he gonna do? He knows he's stuck with whatever woman he can find that will just overlook his problem. That sucks.

Aloha!

Yeah, but the guy lucked out. He found that one in a million girl that doesn't care. Or at least doesn't enough to break up with him. Judging by her photo, she's a good looking girl and would have no problem finding a new guy in a heartbeat. So that guy got EXTREMELY lucky because 99% of girls that are on the dating market and aren't fat or ugly aren't going to put up with bad sex for long. Maybe that was the case 70 years ago when all women did was cook and clean and have sex at their husbands whim. But not so these days when there are seemingly limitless options out there.

You're prob right about that and its very nice of you to say, but then again i wonder, if he is settling for me ?

[Kona]

(06-23-2010 12:19 AM)Aylar Wrote:  

i'm just worried a guy like him would cheat on me in marriage.

It's unlikely.

This guy is so nervous that he can't even bang a girl begging for it. Imagine adding the anxiety of an extra-marital affair?

If he does do it, he's gonna blow his load all over the mistress is 30 seconds, she's gonna get mad, and you'll be the first on she calls, Aylar.

Aloha!

[Aylar]

(06-23-2010 12:34 AM)Kona Wrote:  

If he does do it, he's gonna blow his load all over the mistress is 30 seconds, she's gonna get mad, and you'll be the first on she calls, Aylar.

Aloha!

i'm sorry but even though if it really happened it would be infuriating, i almost died laughing when i read this.

[Nonpareil]

I haven't read all of the replies and probably wont.

Am I the first to suggest he wacks it before visiting you?

I can't be. It's the oldest trick in the book. If I'm visiting an even slightly above average girl and I know I'm getting laid I will definitely shake hands with the President a few minutes before leaving. I grab a lemonade or something on the way out to minimize the refractory period.

I seem to recall it being mentioned that he's Middle-Eastern. I know tugging is frowned upon over there (so are colors, women's rights, rock music, free speech...you get the pic), and there is such a thing as too much yanking it, but if you don't yank it at least a little bit, you never learn how to pace yourself.

[Aylar]

non pareil i think he yanks it trop trop .