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Out of the blue rejection
03-07-2013, 01:35 AM
So I have been seeing this Japanese girl for about a month. The past few times we went out, had some drinks, got nicely drunk and went home and fucked. We did this last Monday too. On Tuesday we had lunch and a coffee and made tentative plans to meet up tonight.
On Wednesday I messaged her saying that I forgotten I had made plans with a friend to go see wrestling tonight. But I said "I'm free Monday. Let's meet and have fun again."
Then last night she sent me this:
"hi
i wont meet u anymore i get bored!
bye"
This confused me as she always seemed to be having a good time, lots of laughs, always eager to fuck at the end of the night, so I couldn't get where this came from. I currently have another girl on the go too, and this one was number 2 in my head, but still the suddenness and disconnect to how she was acting kinda threw me a bit.
I replied with: "You always seemed to be having fun to me. Whatever. Email me if you change your mind." I paused over the Whatever wondering if it sounded a bit butthurt, but went with it anyway. Probably over analyzing as usual, but any thoughts/advice?
I'd ideally like to keep her in the rotation, but at the same time I'm okay with it as it frees up one of my precious nights off.
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03-07-2013, 01:45 AM
Well you already sent a reply so can't do much now about that except leave it.
Wait a week or two then hit her up on a Tuesday or Wednesday with a short text:
'We should do drinks in the near future'
Either she bites or doesnt.
In the future I would suggest just writting 'okay' or nothing at all to a message like that and then leaving it sit for a bit.
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03-07-2013, 02:26 AM
Maybe not, maybe the diss you gave her reduced your beta below the level she needs. Depends on how Asian vs American she is. Something beta and heartfelt might do the trick.
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Out of the blue rejection
03-07-2013, 02:57 AM
Sometimes it’s not even your game, and from what you have written it sounds like you were playing it well to that point.
Sometimes there is no logical reason for things like this. The other part of the equation is the girl: you’re talking to another human being, someone with their own thoughts, moods and emotions. Maybe she was tired, maybe she is on her peroid. Or she could just be a bitch.
While it’s true that you can use game to swing a girl’s emotions toward sex and romance it’s not guaranteed. Sometimes she is just in a bad move, she got some bad news, or just acting up. You have no idea.
I wouldn't worry about it too much and re-engage in a week or two as you have already mentioned.
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Out of the blue rejection
03-07-2013, 03:35 AM
You should just have replied LOL or ok. Obvious shit test.
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03-07-2013, 06:52 AM
Let's compare "ok" and radio silence.
I often run into this dilemma and in the end I feel radio silence is the best course of action.
I mean, if a girl throws some shit at you with the intention of making you squirm, she'll be able to read the effect (or lack thereof) through nonverbals, no matter what you say. Over text you don't have this advantage, so why bother replying at all.
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Out of the blue rejection
03-07-2013, 10:13 AM
LOL response would have been ideal. Laugh her bullshit off and leave it that. Move on
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Out of the blue rejection
03-07-2013, 11:18 AM
Quote: (03-07-2013 01:35 AM)Nature Boy Wrote:
The past few times we went out, had some drinks, got nicely drunk and went home and fucked. We did this last Monday too. On Tuesday we had lunch and a coffee and made tentative plans to meet up tonight.
The formula of going out + having drinks + going home and fucking was working for you.
Why would you change it up and meet her for lunch and coffee? Sometimes a girl who likes having drinks and then fucking would get bored if you had lunch and coffee. That's sorta going backwards IMHO. Once you are fucking for a couple of months and have developed a bond of friendship then coffee would be cool.
Next time if you want to shake things up then just have her come over to your place and fuck without bothering with going out.
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03-07-2013, 01:24 PM
This is surprisingly direct and refreshing for a Japanese girl. I'd bet 10Man yen that she's lived abroad. I doubt it's a shit test... They really do abruptly stop being friends (or lovers) with people. They actually have a word for "allowing a relationship to slowly die."
"ShizenShometsu" ← Learn it.
I hope you can get her back on rotation, but I'd be extremely surprised if you ever see or hear from her again.
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03-08-2013, 06:59 PM
she wasn't bored, she was butt-hurt for getting bumped.
if she doesnt sound off soon, give her a random text after a while like "sounds like fun" as though you texted her by mistake.
only her hamster can cure the butthurt.
Sloots gon' sloot.
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03-10-2013, 10:48 PM
the only thing do is profess how sad you are that shes not there and beg for her to come back
kidding!
dude - you'll never be able to know why a bitch does or says the she things she does. just move on. if you want, send her a text in a couple weeks - something playful - but frankly when a girl tells you to piss off and you come back for more - it just looks needy.
if women weren't flaky by nature, then men wouldn't rule the world.