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02-25-2013, 01:47 PM
I've been hanging out w/this thai girl for a bit. Shes family wealthy, big circle of friends, great connections, and pretty cute. Shes also not americanized.
I get the feeling that shes falling for me hard.
How do you guys slow it down?
My MO in case like this is stop seeing her as much- maybe cut it down to once every 2 weeks.
How do you guys do it? Thoughts?
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02-25-2013, 02:17 PM
She'll fall for you even more, do you want to keep her in rotation?
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02-25-2013, 03:30 PM
Can't be done. This is the chick's version of blue balls.
If a chick is really feeling you, she'll do almost anything you ask her to do, except love you less.
It's a lot like you meet a chick that you want to fuck. If she really has you by the balls, you'll do whatever. What you can not do is want to fuck her less.
Personally, I think this is a brain chemistry thing. Dopamine and Serotonin levels are on smash, and you can't pry your way into those neurons and axons.
Playing beta after being alpha is a great long term strategy to get a chick to take herself out of the running, but smothering a chick with affection when she really likes you, only starts a vicious cycle. She's only getting positive feedback when you do things that you're supposed to do.
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02-25-2013, 04:37 PM
@bojangles- yes, i like her. yes, want to continue seeing her.
@WIA- good post as always. Your blue-balls point is a valid point.
@moma- his sheet is on getting a girl to dump you. My aim is to slow the love drum-roll for this girl to soften the eventual "hard landing" - I wont date exclusively.
This is an asian girl. Beta after alpha is like putting gasoline on fire for non-americanized asians.
It actually was kind of funny. We went to a club w/her and her friends. She stepped away for 2 seconds, and some white girl attacked me and tried to kiss me....Bitches be scandalous
She was in a jealous fit for at least 30 minutes. Then ending the night, puppy eyes and that vacuous gaze of girls in love.
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02-25-2013, 05:09 PM
Start smoking like George Costanza.
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02-25-2013, 05:14 PM
It's not your problem. Just keep plowing her like you have been and more. It's her job to try to tie you down.
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02-26-2013, 03:40 AM
Ease back, become less available. Sounds like you might be into her to the point that you actually care about her feelings.
Takes time to become an ice cold player.
She'll be fine, they always are.
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02-26-2013, 04:02 AM
Steve's on the ball, I think that's the best strategy especially if you want to keep her in rotation
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02-26-2013, 01:24 PM
Being aloof and unavailable has two effects on girls. In the short term it increases their attraction. But eventually a girl's defense mechanisms will kick in and her emotions towards you will cool down. You just have to stick to your guns and not lead her on.
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02-26-2013, 04:36 PM
Quote: (02-26-2013 03:40 AM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:
Ease back, become less available. Sounds like you might be into her to the point that you actually care about her feelings.
Takes time to become an ice cold player.
She'll be fine, they always are.
I only hang out socially w/girls who I enjoy spending non-sex time with. Otherwise, ill just tell her to come over to my house.
I think G-manifesto said it best- "keeping all my accounts clean".
Thats my goal. Not easy, but what really is.
Afterall, even in a big city like LA, reputation will come back to help or hurt you.
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02-26-2013, 07:14 PM
Whats wrong about her falling in love with you?
Let her fall in love with you and enjoy the moment. I love when girls fall in love with me, actually years ago my game was all about making girls fall in love with me. When a bitch falls in love with you, she will do anything for you, she will take anything from you. Its always good to have a bitch sending you love messages at all times and you know that she is super into you.
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02-27-2013, 07:56 AM
Never forget how quickly she'll forget you once it's over. Women have hearts like rubberbands. You can pull on em until they're about to break but once you let go it's like you were never there.
The only exception is if you create an alpha widow, in which case she'll feel gratitude that you were ever in her life at all.
Set and maintain whatever boundaries you need to stay sane but otherwise don't worry about it.
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02-27-2013, 08:04 AM
Did you already bang the girl?
If not, you 're probably wasting your time and hers.
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02-27-2013, 08:14 AM
Be less available in general, meet her less often. Keep the bf/gf kind of stuff like hand holding and to the minimum. The same applies to cuddling and going emotional after sex.
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02-27-2013, 06:26 PM
@michelin- Yes, I banged her multiple times. Keep in mind, this is a thai girl who grew up there, and came here as an adult.
@everybody- I guess the concern is keeping my life drama-free. Not having jealously issues, girls blowing up my phone w/bullshit- aka
"Hell have no fury like a woman scorned."
But having multiple women equals automatic drama, so I don't know.
Maybe I am just hoping to find a way to have my cake, cookies and ice-cream and eat them all too.
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02-27-2013, 06:34 PM
Yeah, there's no way, bro. Just act beta and she'll fall out of love with you... but once that's done, it's really hard to revert back to her loving you again. So, no.
