[thegmanifesto]

(02-27-2013 01:33 PM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

(02-27-2013 07:56 AM)Ensam Wrote:  

Never forget how quickly she'll forget you once it's over. Women have hearts like rubberbands. You can pull on em until they're about to break but once you let go it's like you were never there.

The only exception is if you create an alpha widow, in which case she'll feel gratitude that you were ever in her life at all.

Set and maintain whatever boundaries you need to stay sane but otherwise don't worry about it.

Love the rubberband example. How many times have we all heard a girl say: It's my RIGHT to change my mind! I want to be single and do what I want when I want!

Ok sweetheart there's the door : )

Do you really hear that?

So glad I am outty LA.

[speakeasy]

The nuclear option. Say something that will seriously creep her out. Setting off the creeper alarm is a surefire way to kill her attraction.

Tell her that as a kid you were cruel to animals, and you still get that urges. Or that you used to be a flasher or peeping Tom. She'll run from you screaming.

[DVY]

(02-27-2013 10:40 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

The nuclear option. Say something that will seriously creep her out. Setting off the creeper alarm is a surefire way to kill her attraction.

Tell her that as a kid you were cruel to animals, and you still get that urges. Or that you used to be a flasher or peeping Tom. She'll run from you screaming.

People are getting sidetracked.... lol. I want to slow it down, not
KILL her love for me.

Funny enough, the LA scene is tiny. I had dinner w/McQueen. We were chatting a bit about this and that. And I told him who this girl was, and how we got into this and that. This girl's friend is a promoter here in LA.

Hes like oh, yea I know that dude.

Case in point, small-freaking world even in a city of 12 million people. The affluent and social population is miniscule.

[michelin]

(02-27-2013 06:34 PM)TheIslander829 Wrote:  

Yeah, there's no way, bro. Just act beta and she'll fall out of love with you... but once that's done, it's really hard to revert back to her loving you again. So, no.

Acting beta only works on upper level girls. lowerl level want beta BFs

[Wreckingball]

fuck her in the ass and don't talk to her for two weeks

[RichieP]

I don;t think you need to slow it down, just not do anything to give false impressions/promises.

If you manage expectations properly you can have a girl that thinks you're amazing and sees you as a great catch, but knows you're not looking for anything too serious at the moment. Cool girls can handle that, at least for a while. Only the neediest girls fall in love despite clear and mature messages from you that it's not going to be that intimate.

edit: just saw you said "Thai girl". Yes, they are like that; get way too attached too quickly. I think it's cultural, every Thai girl I knew was like that. Not sure you can do much about it.

[The Fantasist]

(02-28-2013 03:02 PM)RichieP Wrote:  

I don;t think you need to slow it down, just not do anything to give false impressions/promises.

If you manage expectations properly you can have a girl that thinks you're amazing and sees you as a great catch, but knows you're not looking for anything too serious at the moment. Cool girls can handle that, at least for a while. Only the neediest girls fall in love despite clear and mature messages from you that it's not going to be that intimate.

Great point Richie. It's all about your frame and letting her know that you don't want anything long term. The dilemma can be in the attraction phase where intimating you only want a fuck buddy can stop you getting the bang. It's a tight rope but not a very difficult one to walk usually especially if you lay it down in a semi joking manner so they don't know if you're 100% serious or not. I always let them know I don't want anything serious pre-bang ( unless it's a ONS and I've not had time ) that way I feel morally comfortable with fucking them,they knew the score before I started sleeping with them. What happens often is chicks say they are cool with 'just fooling around' but they think that they will change your mind post bang. Then it gets messy. I have an 18 year old at the moment who is falling hard despite me sitting her down and telling her "do not fucking fall for me because I will break your heart". I don't look forwards in any way to the soon to be inevitable breaking of her heart. I know someone posted on the first page that it's great when they fall in love because you can do whatever you want with them but I don't agree with that at all. With great power comes great responsibility and I like to leave girls ( especially young ones ) in a better place then when I found them,fucking a young girl's head up gives me not an ounce of pleasure.

[johnwu]

Once the hamster is set on making you hers, it is too late.

You cannot "slow" it down, you can only prevent it from happening in the first place.
The easiest way to do this is to be explicit, afterwards, that you are not looking for anything serious.

[michelin]

DVY : was any advice above useful?

[DVY]

She refused me sex last time, and I just put my clothes on and left.... Girl is trying everything (probably her GFs gave her advice to not hook up until further commitment).

I let the relationship cool... Distance + a little drama never hurts. RichieP and Vorkuta's advice were spot on and how I think.

It played out exactly like dude3737 said "Being aloof and unavailable has two effects on girls. In the short term it increases their attraction. But eventually a girl's defense mechanisms will kick in and her emotions towards you will cool down. You just have to stick to your guns and not lead her on."

I've been seeing other girls. She started texting me last week (about 1-month since "breakup"). We have plans to hang out again soon. I expect some freaky freaky sex.

[agorist]

Can you really lock her into a perpetual holding pattern indefinitely? I get all the ways of turning her off, but they have an understanding of their SMV diminishing over time, and have a different agenda based on that, especially if they are the type that wants children and family.

[VincentVinturi]

(04-30-2013 12:11 AM)DVY Wrote:  

She refused me sex last time, and I just put my clothes on and left....

Sometimes women do the emotional blackmail thing because they're crazy about you. And it usually passes like a storm...

But once a girl begins to haggle over lovemaking, it leaves the realm of two people who are into each other for its own sake and enters into an ugly negotiation where she's trying to obligate you and extract X, Y and Z.

It shows she's more interested in securing a commitment from you than actually enjoying your company and exploring who you are. It is also shows she doesn't really respect your freedom.

I don't know if this qualifies her as falling in love with you. Sounds like she just sees you as a viable prospect and wants you to sign on the dotted line and refuses to make love unless you do...that's love?

[soup]

Girls are going to fall in and out love. What does it matter?

[tiggaling]

Quote:

Case in point, small-freaking world even in a city of 12 million people. The affluent and social population is miniscule.

It is the same in every big city, and so cities of 1 million or so are quite incestuous...

[booshala]

(04-30-2013 12:11 AM)DVY Wrote:  

She refused me sex last time, and I just put my clothes on and left.... Girl is trying everything (probably her GFs gave her advice to not hook up until further commitment).

I let the relationship cool... Distance + a little drama never hurts. RichieP and Vorkuta's advice were spot on and how I think.

It played out exactly like dude3737 said "Being aloof and unavailable has two effects on girls. In the short term it increases their attraction. But eventually a girl's defense mechanisms will kick in and her emotions towards you will cool down. You just have to stick to your guns and not lead her on."

I've been seeing other girls. She started texting me last week (about 1-month since "breakup"). We have plans to hang out again soon. I expect some freaky freaky sex.

+1 on this. My girl is Thai too so I couldn't help laugh at all of the similar traits these girls have. She grew up in BKK and went to a fancy international cake eaters school so I bet they know each other. Seems like you have the situation on lock, maybe I should take a page out of your book.

[Power_Ranger]

(02-25-2013 04:37 PM)DVY Wrote:  

@bojangles- yes, i like her. yes, want to continue seeing her.

@WIA- good post as always. Your blue-balls point is a valid point.

@moma- his sheet is on getting a girl to dump you. My aim is to slow the love drum-roll for this girl to soften the eventual "hard landing" - I wont date exclusively.

This is an asian girl. Beta after alpha is like putting gasoline on fire for non-americanized asians.

It actually was kind of funny. We went to a club w/her and her friends. She stepped away for 2 seconds, and some white girl attacked me and tried to kiss me....Bitches be scandalous

She was in a jealous fit for at least 30 minutes. Then ending the night, puppy eyes and that vacuous gaze of girls in love.

If your desire to keep having sex with different women is more than wanting a girl who would love you (strong possibility) for a long time then I say you should stop seeing her.

You wont change her unless you cut her off like a dead limb.

[MrLemon]

Dump her. Move on.

[Giovonny]

Be less loveable.

[DVY]

She started laying on the GF bit bang 2.

Booshala nails it. Thai girls are similar. Something you need to experience to understand.

@Booshala- they probably know each other...and go to thai temple. hahaha.

whats your experiences been with her? Anything you think I could do to improve?

[DVY]

@VincentVinturi- you are speculating. Love is largely transactional in most of the world.

This is the way most of the world is. Russia, China, etc etc etc. We are living in a society that, by in large, is a historical anomaly.

For us to go from hand-holding-->kiss-->grope-->BJ-->sex is the same progression as girls procuring commitment. I guess not committing is for "traditional" girls like blue-balls. my 2c.

[AlbertoDelMuerto]

I am afraid you have to ditch her!

[Ilikekane]

(02-25-2013 01:47 PM)DVY Wrote:  

I've been hanging out w/this thai girl for a bit. Shes family wealthy, big circle of friends, great connections, and pretty cute. Shes also not americanized.

I get the feeling that shes falling for me hard.

How do you guys slow it down?

My MO in case like this is stop seeing her as much- maybe cut it down to once every 2 weeks.

How do you guys do it? Thoughts?

She's a Thai girl, you're essentially playing with wildfire regardless.

Don't give her the feelings you love her, don't do any comfort.

That should help slow it a bit.

[Feo]

Bump..You ever figure this one out? The last 3 girls I've been banging turned soft on me. Not down for that shit right now...

[Sailor]

Wealthy girl? Ask some money!But not much since you just want her to slow down

[Gmac]

The best way I've found to keep women at arm's length is to leave (or kick a girl out) after sex. Sleeping over breeds feelings.