Quote: (02-21-2013 09:03 AM)ElJefe Wrote:
Quote: (02-21-2013 08:15 AM)j r Wrote:
This is half true. There is somewhat if a crisis of masculinity right now. Too many dudes are either Affliction-wearing clowns or effeminate SWPLs. This is the area where I think the manosphere has value.
However, all this talk about civilization and traditonal society and what is "natural" is a bit overblown.
You could just as easily turn it all around and say that traditional society is the blue pill, weighing men down with family and responsibility in order to get them working soul-crushing jobs in factories and cubicles.
The idea that a certain way of life is necessarily better for society or necessary for civilization is suspect at best. And it's usually just a way for people to justify their pre-existing preferences or rationalize their privileges. Slavery was necessary for the pre-war south and that's why white southerners fought so hard to keep it. Does that mean it was right? Society is an abstraction. You can have a very stable society in which the individual people in that society are living terrible lives. If you want to justify a certain way of life, then you need to make a case to individuals that one way of living is better than another and let individuals decide for themselves. This is why I am neither conservative nor progressive. I am liberal, in the classical sense. Do whatever you want, just clean up your own mess.
Personally, I'm not interested in existing solely for the purpose of being a cog in someone else's grand ideals of what society ought to be. And it doesn't matter if that someone else is a traditionalist pursuing some idealized version of the 1950s or a progressive who is trying to turn the world into some kind of gender-neutral, welfare-state vegan paradise of social justice.
I think there are objective standards of when life is better or worse. Just ask people. It's common knowledge people today are more stressed and less happy than our grandparents. Funnily, that time was the point of high growth, high degress of wage equality.
Now, no one wants to feel like a cog.
But a lot of men were happy with 9-5 jobs and wives and children to come home to. And a lot of women were happier, too.
I think a solid case could be made that 1960 was the time when Americans were happiest.
They did an experiment in behavioral economics that showed how important cultural discipline was in maintaining social order, ie. generating a higher social welfare than a lack of discipline.
For an idea, look at how people in many third-world countries keep time. Read Bernard Lewis' chapter in "What Went Wrong" about clocks and Turkey. It's interesting stuff. Coincidental with poverty? I think not.
Social and institutional discipline are cornerstones in modern civilization, no argument. I don't see a compelling argument yet why marriage as an insitution somehow should be exempted, either.
I wonder if joy is a commodity. We are social animals. Is it even possible for a lot of people to be concurrently content? Would the content beta of the 1960s be so happy if he was aware that his wife was getting fucked by some cad while he was out working?
I hate to say it, but I bet society is built more on gradations of lying than anything else. It's possible that our planet is one gigantic hamster wheel / cock-carousel.
And as far as lifting ourselves out of destitution goes, you can only do that if you are aware of and actually believe that there are other viable options. Some people grow up in a kill or be killed environment and are so uneducated that they wouldn't know how to lift themselves up by their boot straps even if they wanted to.
I have friends who are educators and they tell me that a lot of kids who grow up in shit situations are essentially ruined at like eight years old. At this point it is nearly impossible to teach or fix their behavior.
I bet you could say same kind of thing about a lot of betas who could have blue-pill Stockholm syndrome. This is where white-knighting comes from.
It's all about frames and options. George Lakoff's books
Don't Think of an Elephant, and
Whose Freedom?: The Battle Over America's Most Important Idea articulate how these things work.
To be a player in today's world, you really have to have sense that things that something is wrong. Maybe you got divorce-raped, maybe you had an alpha dad and are questioning your own paucity of pussy. I don't believe that everyone is cut out for the player's life.
The question is: can Socialized Democracy and Game be reconciled? Can we have our cake and eat it too? I want everyone to at least have a place to live, food to eat, access to healthcare and education- the basics.
We need as much a level playing field as possible. This is why I don't like over-reaching feminism (It's enough already. You got what you wanted, now shut-up) or ultra-conservatism. Both are too selfish.