This is my first thread here, so I might be a little "off base" as to what the posting interest is.... But, here goes.
As a woman in the dating world, I have come to a conclusion that there are thousands of lonely people out who are mostly men looking for a woman to have sex with; and, I'm not so sure those men are actually looking to settle down. I've heard some horror stories from male friends about meeting women online that would probably curl your toes. It's not the women that have stories to tell; it's the men, too. What happened to the world of dating and having a full blown relationship?
The dating scene has taken on a whole new twist called the internet. Yes, it's opened a lot of doors. We meet people, that under normal circumstances, we most likely would not have met; but, it's also brought on a lot of players; wanna be's; and, dishonesty. Normal circumstances? It's normal now.... Internet Dating.... Yes. It's the way of the world.... Our jobs; our lives; our children.... The internet....
I've been a member on a few dating sites for several years; and, I have to admit, I haven't met one man that I actually felt had his chit together; that I felt was honest; or isn't in financial chaos. Granted, we all have baggage; if you think for a minute you're gonna get lucky and find "Mr. Perfect" or "Ms. Perfect" it isn't going to happen overnight. It does happen on occasion, but those stories are far and few between reality moments.
I'm not so sure that internet dating is the way to go if you're truly looking for a mate. I've met some special friends; and, those friends are still my friends. But, the men that I've met over the last ten years are not men that I would consider being in a long term relationship with. The old saying, "All the good men are either married or gay"? Just might be the honest to goodness truth.
I don't think there's an easy answer for this new way of "dating".... One has to weed through the hundreds to find "one" that just might be who they say they are. Men, now-a-days, don't appear to want to "date" as much as they want to just have "sex". It's quick; cheap; but, not always; and, fulfilling. For me, that's a problem. I think for most women that's become a problem. For the most part, women aren't made this way. We like to be dated; taken out to dinner; bought flowers and we like the romance.... We're not getting that so it leaves us feeling empty and most often times feeling "used" and uncertain. But? I also understand men. The male species.... ahhh.... mate with as many females as possible. It's mating season and open season on the "net".
One thing that I've learned over the years about online dating, is to NOT take it serious. The first time I joined a dating site, I was new; and, had no idea what I was in for. It opened my eyes and opened them quick. I have a new prospective now. I enjoy writing and blogging; and, am there to do just that. The "dating" aspect is in the by side.... It makes life a whole lot less complicated and I've made some really great friends just through blogging. Being happy with who we are and what we have to offer the "world" as a whole and being content with that, may just be the answers to the online dating dilemma, until Mr. Perfect or Ms. Perfect finds us. It will happen.
Online dating.... It can open windows of opportunity, but close them just as quickly. Proceed with caution....
This is my opinion and I'm stickin' to it.
As a woman in the dating world, I have come to a conclusion that there are thousands of lonely people out who are mostly men looking for a woman to have sex with; and, I'm not so sure those men are actually looking to settle down. I've heard some horror stories from male friends about meeting women online that would probably curl your toes. It's not the women that have stories to tell; it's the men, too. What happened to the world of dating and having a full blown relationship?
The dating scene has taken on a whole new twist called the internet. Yes, it's opened a lot of doors. We meet people, that under normal circumstances, we most likely would not have met; but, it's also brought on a lot of players; wanna be's; and, dishonesty. Normal circumstances? It's normal now.... Internet Dating.... Yes. It's the way of the world.... Our jobs; our lives; our children.... The internet....
I've been a member on a few dating sites for several years; and, I have to admit, I haven't met one man that I actually felt had his chit together; that I felt was honest; or isn't in financial chaos. Granted, we all have baggage; if you think for a minute you're gonna get lucky and find "Mr. Perfect" or "Ms. Perfect" it isn't going to happen overnight. It does happen on occasion, but those stories are far and few between reality moments.
I'm not so sure that internet dating is the way to go if you're truly looking for a mate. I've met some special friends; and, those friends are still my friends. But, the men that I've met over the last ten years are not men that I would consider being in a long term relationship with. The old saying, "All the good men are either married or gay"? Just might be the honest to goodness truth.
I don't think there's an easy answer for this new way of "dating".... One has to weed through the hundreds to find "one" that just might be who they say they are. Men, now-a-days, don't appear to want to "date" as much as they want to just have "sex". It's quick; cheap; but, not always; and, fulfilling. For me, that's a problem. I think for most women that's become a problem. For the most part, women aren't made this way. We like to be dated; taken out to dinner; bought flowers and we like the romance.... We're not getting that so it leaves us feeling empty and most often times feeling "used" and uncertain. But? I also understand men. The male species.... ahhh.... mate with as many females as possible. It's mating season and open season on the "net".
One thing that I've learned over the years about online dating, is to NOT take it serious. The first time I joined a dating site, I was new; and, had no idea what I was in for. It opened my eyes and opened them quick. I have a new prospective now. I enjoy writing and blogging; and, am there to do just that. The "dating" aspect is in the by side.... It makes life a whole lot less complicated and I've made some really great friends just through blogging. Being happy with who we are and what we have to offer the "world" as a whole and being content with that, may just be the answers to the online dating dilemma, until Mr. Perfect or Ms. Perfect finds us. It will happen.
Online dating.... It can open windows of opportunity, but close them just as quickly. Proceed with caution....
This is my opinion and I'm stickin' to it.