[Marcellus]

I live in W-Europe and I have a problem. I have a girlfriend in E-Europe and sometimes I fly there to spend some time together.
Lately she start to ask question like "are we ever be able to live together?", "cant I come there to live with you", "do you like me, why don't we live together then?", "don't you want children?", "whats your perfect wife like?"...

I already told her that I don't want children. I told her that I just like her but I don't want a "real" relationship. I told her that she may fuck other guys and I wont judge her for that (credits: Johnny Soporno), and frankly I don't give a fuck if she does this yes or no. I only asked her to do it safe since I'm doing her without condom. She tells me I'm the only guy she has sex with the last years and that I'm the only guy she has been really attracted to in her whole life. I told her to find another guy to do this because with me it's not going to happen.

Thing is ... I really like this girl and she is the perfect mother/girlfriend if I ever would want a normal life, but I just don't want to give up my bachelor lifestyle. I like flirting with other chicks, fucking other girls, living on my own in my own place, flying to other places to party and fuck... I'm sure that I don't want kids in the next 10-15years. I really hope she will come up one day with "I found this guy and I want to marry him" since she will be happy then... but she keeps projecting her dreams onto me and she keeps pursuing me. I know there are some other guys in her country who are pursuing her but she says she has chosen me. What to do what to do?...

Bottomline: I don't want to "break up" with her AND I don't want to hurt her feelings. She will hit the wall in a few years and I honestly want her to be happy after that. How would you guys do this? How to avoid her "shittests"? All advice is welcome.

[void]

There is only one way to prevent long term damage, cut her off. Its the most honest thing you can do, especially if she really is "wife material" (atleast at the moment)

[bojangles]

I had a similar problem and I had to cut her off, man if I was 10-15 years older I would have got into an LTR with this 23 year old chick but no way at my age. I've let her run off to find some beta provider.

[shibby]

If for whatever reason you do really care about her emotional well being, you need to cut her off and let her move on. But if the sex is really good and you don't really lose too much sleep over dragging her along, I'd just carry on banging her. Since you've made it very clear to her that you never want to get serious, I'd say you shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Just enjoy banging her while shes still around.

[ElBorrachoInfamoso]

(01-22-2013 07:54 AM)Marcellus Wrote:  

I live in W-Europe and I have a problem. I have a girlfriend in E-Europe and sometimes I fly there to spend some time together.
Lately she start to ask question like "are we ever be able to live together?", "cant I come there to live with you", "do you like me, why don't we live together then?", "don't you want children?", "whats your perfect wife like?"...

I already told her that I don't want children. I told her that I just like her but I don't want a "real" relationship. I told her that she may fuck other guys and I wont judge her for that (credits: Johnny Soporno), and frankly I don't give a fuck if she does this yes or no. I only asked her to do it safe since I'm doing her without condom. She tells me I'm the only guy she has sex with the last years and that I'm the only guy she has been really attracted to in her whole life. I told her to find another guy to do this because with me it's not going to happen.

Thing is ... I really like this girl and she is the perfect mother/girlfriend if I ever would want a normal life, but I just don't want to give up my bachelor lifestyle. I like flirting with other chicks, fucking other girls, living on my own in my own place, flying to other places to party and fuck... I'm sure that I don't want kids in the next 10-15years. I really hope she will come up one day with "I found this guy and I want to marry him" since she will be happy then... but she keeps projecting her dreams onto me and she keeps pursuing me. I know there are some other guys in her country who are pursuing her but she says she has chosen me. What to do what to do?...

Bottomline: I don't want to "break up" with her AND I don't want to hurt her feelings. She will hit the wall in a few years and I honestly want her to be happy after that. How would you guys do this? How to avoid her "shittests"? All advice is welcome.

How old are you? How old is she?

I suspect she's hustling you, but I'm a suspicious motherfucker.

[Marcellus]

(01-22-2013 08:45 AM)ElBorrachoInfamoso Wrote:  

I suspect she's hustling you, but I'm a suspicious motherfucker.

I don't think so. She has it financially difficult (as am I) and we have split all the costs until now. I DO think all woman are hustling on one way or another so I'm pretty worried about getting her pregnant.

shibby Wrote:

I'd say you shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Just enjoy banging her while shes still around.

Maybe that's the best strategy.

[Samseau]

Wouldn't it be great if you could knock that girl up without fear of child support? You could give her a dream of family with you while supporting her from abroad (and giving only what she needs, as opposed to the exorbitant sums the state takes).

That said, you told her you're not looking for anything serious right now, so you did the right thing. Ironically, this is the tightest game move possible, and it will only make her fall for you harder.

Hmm, I don't know. Tell her you'll get her pregnant if she finds a beta male boyfriend to shack up with, that way you know your kid will be provided for even when you aren't around. At the same time, make sure international law cannot fuck you over, which I'm pretty sure it can, so knocking her up is probably a bad idea.

I know it's kinda evil, but I actually had the opportunity to do this awhile back - I was banging a girl with a boyfriend back in her home country - but the only difference was, she didn't want children, which was fine with me. But I like the idea of knocking up a girl and letting her raise a family with some guy who actually wants a family, that way I can spread my seed without having to give up my lifestyle.

[Matt3B]

Samseau:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7qA2v00FIco

[soup]

It's ironic that Viagara pills are blue.

[Beyond Borders]

(01-22-2013 07:54 AM)Marcellus Wrote:  

I told her that she may fuck other guys and I wont judge her for that (credits: Johnny Soporno), and frankly I don't give a fuck if she does this yes or no. I only asked her to do it safe since I'm doing her without condom. She tells me I'm the only guy she has sex with the last years and that I'm the only guy she has been really attracted to in her whole life.

1st advice is stop fucking her without a jimmy and expecting her to practice safe sex with other guys. Do you really expect her to be honest about whether she's "safe" or not with other guys if she's falling for you and waiting for you to realize what a catch she is?

Not a chance. Even with the go-ahead, she wants you to think you're the only one.

If raw-dogging is cool with you, so be it - just don't trick yourself into thinking you've somehow hedged your bets.

And as always, beware the baby trap...

[TheRookie]

(01-22-2013 02:53 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

I know it's kinda evil, but I actually had the opportunity to do this awhile back - I was banging a girl with a boyfriend back in her home country - but the only difference was, she didn't want children, which was fine with me. But I like the idea of knocking up a girl and letting her raise a family with some guy who actually wants a family, that way I can spread my seed without having to give up my lifestyle.

I had several pregnancy scares with a Trinidadian chick. When I told her I couldn't commit and settle down she basically told me she would find a nice guy to raise the child. I was still convinced I was going to get screwed over with child support. Suffice it to say it is a good thing she was not at all fertile (or was it me? )

[Marcellus]

(01-22-2013 05:24 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Do you really expect her to be honest about whether she's "safe" or not with other guys if she's falling for you and waiting for you to realize what a catch she is?

Not a chance. Even with the go-ahead, she wants you to think you're the only one.

If raw-dogging is cool with you, so be it - just don't trick yourself into thinking you've somehow hedged your bets.

Well, she asked me if I have done other girls and she kept asking. I told her "yes I did". After that I thought it would be over but she was now pursuing me harder. If I don't write anything to her in a few days she sends whole letters on Facebook. I was honest, so why should she not be honest? I just don't understand this girl. I think I miss some red pill logic here.

I know that I should use some rubber but at some point we left the condom behind. In the heat of the battle... not smart, I know... I test my blood every few months and I know I don't have anything (yet).

[Faust]

I've been in a similar situation. The good thing to do, if you love her, and you honestly can't see yourself marrying her, is cut her off. Remember that every year that passes for a woman makes it harder for her to get married, and reduces the quality of the husband she'll eventually get. So if you want her to have a good future, the best thing to do is stop letting her waste resources on you and go find somebody else.

Now, this only applies if you're like I was, and kind of indecisive. "Oh, yeah. Maybe someday. I just don't feel like marriage is right for me right now." That kind of thing.
If you're totally clear that marriage isn't on the table and will never be on the table, and she keeps putting out for you regardless, that's her choice and she deserves whatever consequences come from that.

So I would say make your intentions clear, and let her decide what to do.

[Insignia]

Let her go, this is the best for everyone, if you want a player lifestyle and you know that there is no future there is no point in continuing this type of relationship.

You will feel a lot better if you end this relationship. I have been through this trust me, even though you have live apart and you feel that you are have your freedom from her physically, mentally you still think you are still tied down, once you break off with her, you will feel a lot more free, not in the physical sense but mentally, you game will go up and all in all a classy and smart move.

(01-22-2013 07:54 AM)Marcellus Wrote:  

I live in W-Europe and I have a problem. I have a girlfriend in E-Europe and sometimes I fly there to spend some time together.
Lately she start to ask question like "are we ever be able to live together?", "cant I come there to live with you", "do you like me, why don't we live together then?", "don't you want children?", "whats your perfect wife like?"...

I already told her that I don't want children. I told her that I just like her but I don't want a "real" relationship. I told her that she may fuck other guys and I wont judge her for that (credits: Johnny Soporno), and frankly I don't give a fuck if she does this yes or no. I only asked her to do it safe since I'm doing her without condom. She tells me I'm the only guy she has sex with the last years and that I'm the only guy she has been really attracted to in her whole life. I told her to find another guy to do this because with me it's not going to happen.

Thing is ... I really like this girl and she is the perfect mother/girlfriend if I ever would want a normal life, but I just don't want to give up my bachelor lifestyle. I like flirting with other chicks, fucking other girls, living on my own in my own place, flying to other places to party and fuck... I'm sure that I don't want kids in the next 10-15years. I really hope she will come up one day with "I found this guy and I want to marry him" since she will be happy then... but she keeps projecting her dreams onto me and she keeps pursuing me. I know there are some other guys in her country who are pursuing her but she says she has chosen me. What to do what to do?...

Bottomline: I don't want to "break up" with her AND I don't want to hurt her feelings. She will hit the wall in a few years and I honestly want her to be happy after that. How would you guys do this? How to avoid her "shittests"? All advice is welcome.